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Muse with MAG: Do you have mantras to guide your months? (01.12.19) I am simply in awe December 2019 is here just like that. I remember so vividly where I was on 01.01.19 wow. I mean I had given myself permission to honour an invitation for a crossover barbecue at a GS's family, and funny I was the only from a group invited, who honoured the invitation. We have since dared to carry out a lot of projects together since then, and I cherish and respect her so much. She is Ms Belle Sonkey and her association is called The Network for Solidarity Hope and Empowerment. If I hadn't dared go out that night and spent that crossover with her, I don't our 'Big sister - Small sister' sisterhood would have been where it is today. My mantra for that month was "Make it Matter". It was a special month especially as 18 days into that month I turned 40 hurray. And so the year has rolled out and some twists and turns made it all the more thrilling. My mantra for last month was "Do it NOW" and how did I Do it. I mean those spirit revealed mantras help me alot. Let's see how December roll out with such a mantra like "Dare Dare Dare" . Three good times my spirit tells me to dare, like I have just been fooling around so far? Hahahahaha. Ok spirit I got you, I need to dare dare dare in some areas I would otherwise chicken out of it seem. Dare to dance and go night clubbing even, dare to drink 2 glasses of Bailey's on rocks without getting drunk (big one lol), dare to ... And dare to ... Well am not going to write dem all down here right? And now you dear reader, do you have any mantras which work for you? Happy new month everyone, and may God bless us all. #douhavemantrasforurmonths? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #daredaredare https://www.instagram.com/p/B5hGPXvgmne/?igshid=1ik3w95azavct

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Muse with MAG: Do you get bored when travelling? (27.11.19) I am on my way back to my base city which is like 365kms by road. I remember how I used to be so worked up bored when travelling by road years ago. Maybe because we didn't have smart phones back then? Hahahaha. I also wasn't in the mood to strike up conversations with my seat mate or vice versa, and walkmans were out of fashion by then, while headsets weren't yet the 'it thing'. The book lover in me didn't know I could read on the go to calm my anxiety (hard copy books are harder to read on a journey for me), boredom and nervousness, the sitting conditions (in the kind of buses I could afford back then too lol) couldn't permit me to take out any laptop I may have even had hahahaha. Anyways, I gradually learned how to deal with journey phobia and boredom with time. (I still don't like long journeys and flying around but I have some choice on all that now). I can goof on social media, read from my kindle, do my school assignments on my laptop (whoever sent me to adult online school set a good trap I swear), and by Grace doze a little. But sleeping on a journey is another phobia. What if while I sleep something happens? I will yawn and yawn but sleep na no 0. I am grateful for the tools at my disposal to fight off journey boredom and phopia, and I share to inspire and motivate us all. And you dear reader, do you have any tips which work for you? Happy Thursday everyone, and may God bless us all. #dougetboredwhentravelling? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #DoitNOW #mentalhealthmatters https://www.instagram.com/p/B5Zv6I7AOr4/?igshid=eim7fa591lkh

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Muse with MAG: Do you celebrate your team members? (24.11.19) I am one happy and lucky team leader (am not a boss me o). I have a wonderful team of 4 dynamic and determined ladies. They are all as pretty as it goes. Oh, Grace located me. I mean, when your projects coordinator is called Grace, why wouldn't it be a graceful day every other day? Today is Grace's birthday, Grace Grace wonder Grace - that's how I love to lullaby her name especially when I am well pleased with her, which honestly is almost all the time lol. Yesterday was Ms O's and today is Ms G's. Isn't #teamH4AB lucky? Grace brings that serenity and calm assurance all will work out. Grace was with me recently when I was going through a personal rough patch. She just madams me like I were a baby hahahaha, I think it's because we first met as madam and student at the Pan African Institute for Development. She was a front bencher and a hard working Masters' students. See where she is today? I love celebrating my team members, it keeps the team spirit high and we all feel so valued. Grace coordinates all my musings and all the projects our young organization has. She will soon even be my upline in network marketing hurray. Dear world, I think it is worth all its weight in goal to celebrate our team members. I appreciate Grace and give God the Glory for the Amazing Grace of a beautiful team coordinated by beautiful Grace o. Serene Sunday everyone, and may God bless us all. Once more, happy birthday to Ms O #dloucelebrateyourteammembers? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #DoitNOW https://www.instagram.com/p/B5OqgJpggpo/?igshid=1qhow72g8lsft

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Muse with MAG: Do you empower others? (23.11.19) I am emotional this morning. The fields coordinator of our association Hope for the Abused and Battered gets to the 3rd floor of her earthly journey today. I am emotional because for over 7 months I prayed and searched for people like her to join me in H4AB. I am so happy she applied once there was a funded project and at least I could afford a monthly stipend to lure her to stay along. She is unique and am happy I decided sooner than later to empower her. I told her am not a boss but Ms MAG. I trust her and appreciate her candid feedback. She made some good one during her interview and I knew I can let her do her thing and she will do just great. I am simply so lucky to have 3 other empowered ladies in my team and I cherish the working and love relationship we have. When you empower others, you are further empowered. On this day, I want to thank the universe for sending Ms O my way. She is a force to reckon with, serene and secure. She brings out much more in her because she feels appreciated to her full value. If you don't empower others, you miss out from what they could bring as added value. Then again, to each their musings o. Happy musings everyone, happy weekend and may God bless us all. Once more, happy birthday to Ms O #souempowerothers? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #DoitNOW https://www.instagram.com/p/B5MaoDjAlsy/?igshid=1g9iv7l3rlmre

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Muse with MAG: Are you struck by an entitlement disease? (20.11.19) I am moved to muse about this disease both as a Psychotherapist and the founder of a humanitarian organization. I have noticed with distraught how some people get so full in the head expecting others to be at their beck and call because well they feel 'entitled' for one reason or the other. It can only lead to so much suffering and not worth it o. Now, imagine someone came to you with their pathetic story and you decided to help them, you even got others involved and bammmmm this beneficiary thinks they are entitled to all they want because surely you are 'making some money' from their situation, or you got a 'tree of money' and can give them whenever they need - I mean if you don't have all that money what are you doing having a humanitarian organization to begin with right? Some are so entitled sick they don't even know how to show any gratitude. Uhu I know religion or the Bible says your reward is in heaven, but did Jesus himself not commend that one leper who came back to say thank you? Did he not ask aloud where were the other 9? Do you think if they were to show up again for whatever issue he would have gladly helped them again? I dunno. But what I know is, am learning a lot as I go and will review my vision, strategy and much more. Aren't we all mere mortals? So why the airs and entitlements? Happy musings everyone, happy mid week and may God bless us all. #areustruckbyentitlementdisease? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #DoitNOW https://www.instagram.com/p/B5E_GqRAnTG/?igshid=1aw9vg6rqa8u1

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Muse with MAG: Who do you think you are doing a favour to? (18.11.19) Some interesting things happened last week and they really got me excited to muse along these lines. The first situation was an offer I received to be interviewed by the local correspondent of some 'international' media lol. They came across so 'almighty: like with a list of conditions. I was like wait a minute, am not even going to be paid, you will get what you need to play over and over, and you want me to think you are doing me or my work a favour? Well, I skip. The other situation was an event I thought was self appealing, and people were going to make the choice to come out in their numbers especially as many had reached out to say they would come on that day. Ok, Dday and maybe 50% or less turnouts. Who is doing anyone a favour here? We the organizers I decided to be honest, aren't doing the society a favour by organising the walk. We could raise awareness otherwise. So, people were free to come out to walk or not. Now, those who didn't come were not doing us a favour by saying they would come. Neither did those who come do us any favour. They came because they think that was a worthy cause and way of raising awareness. Anyway, that's how I look at things. Maybe that's why I am 'proud beggar'. I refuse to let anyone think I should sing their praises because they interviewed me or donated to my cause or attended my event, and I have tempered such feelings of doing someone a favour with my words and deed years ago. No one is my God We are all mere mortals and after all is said and done, we will all end up dead. So why the airs and entitlements? Happy musings everyone, happy new week and may God bless us all. #whodoyouthinkudoafavourto? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #DoitNOW https://www.instagram.com/p/B5AEoHkA7CU/?igshid=20tknbz6gzsn

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Muse with MAG: Is returning from abroad and starting all over easy for you? (16.11.19) I stopped by to see an uncle in the city of Limbe in Cameroon who had returned from the US 9 years ago, and he brought me to his wood processing workshop. I sat down and my brain got busy. I am looking forward to attending the Returnee event in my city scheduled for the 20th of December, and am eager to hear what some who have returned from abroad and settled back home have to share about their experiences. Was/is it easy? I stayed abroad only for 4 years, but I came back when I could also decide to stay there. Indeed, I came with less than $500 to my name. 4 years later, am happy I came me back o; it wasn't easy but it was worth it. I also asked my uncle if he was happy returning home and if it was easy settling down and setting up his business. He tells me he is happy, that it wasn't easy, that it took a lot of sacrifice and still does sometimes, but that he is in a very good mental place that he had ever been for the decade+ he spent out there. Sure there are challenges, but there are equally opportunities and returnees have an added advantage if they harness a good vision before setting out on setting up anything be it a business or NGO. The standards of living here are still lower than out there, the facade to live up to isn't as yoking as it is put there, indeed you can even ignore that one 99% if you are lilee p hahahaha. There may be some lobbying to do, call it whatever name you want, but I prefer lobbying back home than out there o. And let's look at time, ha back here you can slow down and enjoy the sea breeze, have a more meaningful relationship with your people, partner etc, without all the rush rush rush I saw some yoked to abroad there o. But ha, to each their own, just me musing. Happy musings everyone, happy weekend and may God bless us all. #isreturningfromabroadeasy? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude #IamMAGnectic #letGodandLovelead #Godgotmyback #DoitNOW https://www.instagram.com/p/B44Zt9ag5OA/?igshid=kxbvx2vol5yw

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Muse with MAG: What's your measure of success? (11.11.19) Awwwwwwww success is sweet. The feeling that you did it great and deserve some jumbo gelato or whatever works for you. That's how I felt last Saturday on getting back home form the Solidarity and Sensitization walk against Rape organised by a synergy I champion called TARape. It wasn't easy and we had no sponsors. Some partner organisations even vanished before any real project planning began. All efforts to get them to even chip in ideas were in vain. Yet, their logos were already on the banner. I refused to let ego wars slow me down. I held the megaphone myself and went to mobilize on the streets, I also took the mobilization to court being a lawyer myself lol. I ran around and did my best, grateful for the dynamic team of volunteers, and above all blessed to have a soul sister partner called The Network for Solidarity Hope and Empowerment. It's founder Ms Sonkey is a big sister I can't be grateful enough for. So, doing all that in barely 2 months, and having 70 participants including the personal representative of the Divisional Officer, a Psychotherapist, an MC par excellence, some great music, a wonderful coach for the walk and so much moral support both online and offline, makes me so proud of all the efforts I put in. All the energy & sacrifices, the time & limited resources. In short, I give myself a 9.9/10 period. I don't know how anyone else will rate the walk, but my measure of success is what matters to me o. Sometimes we work so hard and can't be proud of what we've done unless someone measures our work by their own standards and then give us an award or pray for us while announcing our achievement on some pulpit. That too is cool, but I don't wait for that. I measure my success based on my own criteria and as much as I thank God for the Grace Amazing, I know that if I hadn't lifted my hand or leg, we wouldn't have had such a successful and landmark walk against rape full stop. Anyways, to each their measure o; happy musings everyone, happy new week and may God bless us all. #whatsurmeasureofsuccess? #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #AttitudeofGratitude https://www.instagram.com/p/B4tpB69ATMw/?igshid=1gu4wrixmulkb