How do you think about/approach makeup in your day to day life ? It’s such a fraught subject and my brains overloaded and I’m not sure which of my impulses to listen to. You’ve written such clear concise critique on the subject in the past and I’d really appreciate your thoughts.
capital-T Thoughts on makeup are in /tagged/makeup tag (/tagged/makeup was ironically enough already being used for pictures of makeup looks I like)
in terms of what I do personally, I just have a set of basic guidelines for myself that are aimed at preventing that thing where your concept of what your face looks like is influenced by what your made-up face looks like to the extent that you see yourself without makeup & think it doesn’t look like you. these guidelines include
nothing aimed towards altering the appearance of a naturally occurring feature (e.g. no complexion products, no plucking or filling in brows, no contouring, no lash extensions, no “natural” blush colours, no “my lips but better” lipstick shades, no “no makeup” looks). if I’m wearing a pigment or something then it’s clearly artificial & differentiated from the colour and texture of my face, & you can tell where it begins and where it ends
if I notice that I’ve been wearing makeup for a few days in a row, I’ll go without it just to ensure that I remain comfortable with it. at least some of these makeup-less outings have to be Out out (with friends, on a date, to class), not just a run to the store
my personal feelings towards makeup & other aspects of my own ‘feminine’ presentation are also really wrapped up in the context of gothness (not to say that it’s like ~subversive~ but it does mean that I was scolded for wearing [the wrong kind of] makeup more often than for not wearing makeup in adolescence–& in a lot of settings a lot of aspects of goth fashion are considered unisex) so your mileage may vary.
overall I think you ought to aim to do whatever feels comfortable for you, but also be wary of viewing makeup as a ‘quick fix’–in other words, short-term comfort (feelings of confidence, beauty, &c.) can be incompatible with the long-term comfort that comes with not feeling that you need to change anything about your face to feel confident, to recognise yourself.