#map discourse

[julianobungus]

I feel like this is something I should bring attention to, considering how embedded into the TOH proship community they are:

@Fenwis/asexuelf is pro-para/pro-MAP. They've admitted it to me on multiple occasions in the past. I used to be friends with them and thought I could ignore it, but it got to the point where I could no longer do that - that would have made *me* pro-para/MAP as well, I realised.

Go ahead and ask them. They're pretty vocal about it.

[butterflyinthewell]

Just a reminder that I block MAPs and zoophiles on sight.

It doesn’t matter if you’re no contact, your presence creates a discomfort in me that is so visceral that I would rather avoid interaction. Blocking is how I do that.

I won’t attack you for existing.

But I can’t get past my own discomfort and I don’t feel safe in your presence.

So please respect the boundary. Don’t try to follow my blog. You will be blocked if I find you on my posts.

The blocking is for both our sakes tbh.

I had a MAP try to follow me today, and I had to block so I wouldn’t scream at them. I’m still shaking and unsettled. Ugh.

[transwarlock]

hmm, I wonder what tumblr has to say about kids in different countries' understanding of geography. let me just search 'map discourse' I bet that'll give me the answers I'm looking for :)

[omenapologist-moved]

I believe negative social atttitudes towards different sexualities, genders, morality, paraphilias, and more are either the root cause of or contribute to some subsets of OCD.

This got longer than I expected. CW for talking about mental illness, detransitioning, and pedophilia. I don’t go into graphic detail about CSA, for what it’s worth, but I know some people will be upset regardless so I felt the need to add a disclaimer.

so, sexual orientation obsessive compulsive disorder or SO-OCD (formerly known as HOCD; homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder or just “gay ocd” but considering anyone of any sexuality can be affected by this SO-OCD makes more sense) in my opinion only exists as a product of a homophobic society. I do not think, for the most part, people would develop an obsessive fear about whether or not they are gay if it were accepted and a non-issue like how being straight is. as someone with OCD myself, it targets that which is important to us and doesn’t exist in a vacuum. 

At the start of my transition, I began developing obsessive thoughts surrounding my gender identity. What if I’m not actually trans? What if I’m wrong and I need to detransition? What if I’m just a fucked up and confused girl? and so on, even though I have always experienced acute physical dysphoria, feel a lot better about myself when I’m referred to with masculine language, and transitioning in general has made me happier and more comfortable in my body than ever before. That’s the nature of the illness. It distorts our cognition and hyperfixates on the uncertainty of things. There is no set-in-stone way to well and truly know your gender or sexuality, because these things are extremely fluid and personal and influenced by your environment, as is the case with social constructs.

Now, why would I be so troubled by this? If I am wrong and I decide to detransition, sure, I’ll have more body hair and a deeper voice and, come november, a flat chest, but all of these things have solutions, too. It isn’t the end of the world, or my life, if I detransition, but I most likely won’t! But the reason I was developing these obsessions is honestly pretty simple. At the time, I placed my own gender and transition at very, very high importance, someone I had previously been close to began detransitioning, and the fucking Youtube algorithm of all things began recommending me the vlogs of several detransitioned FTMTF people. But most pertinently, the pervasive attitude in most circles that detransitioning is the worst possible thing ever and is life-ending and you’re going to be ruined forever if you’re wrong about your gender. All of this created a cocktail of self-doubt in me. 

I’ve gotten a lot better, and fortunately those obsessions didn’t swing fully into a gender-focused OCD, but I know that isn’t the case for everyone, and I’m getting a little off topic here, anyway.

POCD, or pedophilia obsessive compulsive disorder, must be a living hell. POCD is the obsessive fear that you are or might become a pedophile. Here’s a pretty good source talking about POCD in better detail. I need to make it explicitly clear that people with POCD are not pedophiles.

I think in no small part those who struggle with this subset of OCD are made worse by society’s attitude towards pedophilia. That being, even if you never hurt a child ever, even if it remains only within the realm of your thoughts, a pedophile is the worst possible thing you can ever be, and if you even think about attraction to a minor you should be subject to an endless barrage of increasingly creative means of violence and execution. 

But here’s the thing. You can’t control having a paraphilia. You don’t get to just opt out of it, as convenient as that may be. I don’t believe we should condemn an entire swath of people, notably those who have done no harm, because they have a paraphilia they did not choose to have. This attitude hurts these people directly and absolutely does not help cut down on sex crimes against minors. Because rather than being able to pursue help, they hide it, and keep it to themselves, and it festers and worsens like an infected blister until eventually it pops, and the aftermath causes suffering for all.

And not only does this attitude hurt people with this paraphilia, not only does it not help in “protecting the children”, it hurts people who do not have the paraphilia; those with POCD. I’ve been in OCD forums and I have seen people struggling so fucking hard with the complete and utter self-loathing brought about by POCD, and what hurts even more is that more often than not they cannot talk about it in fear of losing their jobs, their families, their friends, and their livelihoods. Which, coincidentally is the exact same issue this attitude inflicts on those who are pedophiles. Isn’t it shocking that stigma doesn’t incentivize people to ask for help, nor does it make anything better? 

I am not saying we should ~normalize pedophilia~ or whatever, rather, we shouldn’t have this disgusting attitude towards them of “kill on sight!” and should instead try to figure out what helps these people without having minors hurt. All too often I see self-identified prison abolitionists and harm reductionists calling for the imprisonment or death of these people, and that shows me that you don’t actually want prisons to be abolished or to do the least amount of harm. You just want to be the wardens, the ones able to deal out the harm because you think yourself to be right and just. And that way of thinking simply is not in line with anarchism, and honestly, leftism in general. 

[centrally-unplanned]

Been seeing some good map discourse (the only good kind of discourse besides waifus tbh) around the Ukraine conflict, and how a lot of maps we share “paint the map” with troop movements that imply control where there is none. This so far has been a road war (and helidrop war I suppose) with very few Russian forces going out to pacify small towns and “clear the countryside”. As such shading provinces ‘red’ is giving Russian control way too much credit. The map above, courtesy of Nathan Ruser, addresses that by only showcasing actual troop movements and controlled roads, with dots for taken cities.

I respect that effort and its definitely worthwhile, but it does also go too far. Like if you look at the southern front, you see this whole strip of grey on the coast behind the Russian advance. This map’s approach implies that that territory is “hostile” and still in need of taking; but in reality its just empty, with the ports taken and small towns having no notable forces or ability to fight (at least that we know of right now). That territory, while not controlled by the Russians, isn’t really controlled by the Ukrainians either at this point - instead cut off from any centralized authority. Which points at the wider problem - by shading only the specific Russian forces red while marking no Ukrainian forces, it implies that the light grey is ALL opposition, needing to be taken, which isn’t true (at least not yet, guerrilla war could change that).

Still, the answer to that question would be to indicate all Ukrainian forces, and their bases and supply dumps and flows of those supply dumps etc etc...its busy and a lot of work and you also have to update daily. We need multiple maps to achieve understanding and this definitely adds a lot of value

[sonofan-sjw]

i have a hot take/unpopular opinion but i'm gonna get so much hate for it should i post it

[saccharinemeat]

question, did you know puffdrawz supports nomaps (you rbed straight from them but it could just be a tag search) (proof is on their other blog peachy-pro-shipper I believe)

answer, puff isn't in support of nomaps, puff is specifically against thought crimes and supports people with paraphilic disorders. Which is okay, I am in agreement that thought crimes are not a thing, and people with paraphilic disorders are just people and like,yes, that includes "maps" and they can get help.

I dont support MAPs in general, NoMAPs included,mostly because of personal discomfort and because I do not want anyone MAP aligned around my blog i general

but I'm not against people with paraphilic disorders, and im not against my friends being okay with stuff I'm personally uncomfy with.

I personally hate the term MAP, mostly because a good chunk of self identified MAPs turn their intrusive and paraphilia-disorder related thoughts into a point of *pride* which is. uncomfortable and gross.

If you have violent impulses (sexual or otherwise) as part of a disorder you dont make it a sexuality, and you dont try and make it part of the LGBT.

[i-am-a-ship-hole]

Hey because I feel like swinging a bat at a hornets nest, anyone who wants to do map discourse with me will have the next twenty four hours to do so.

I’m bored and I have hot takes.