#mixed positivity

[ethaninthewilde]

“to anyone who’s ever felt too mixed, too black, too queer, or too trans to have a happily ever after—here’s your permission to make one for yourself.”

- Meet Cute Diary dedication, Emery Lee (e/em/eirs)

[chaoticautie]

I'm late to say this for BHM, but positivity for all black people and mixed black people should be year round, not just during the shortest month of the year,, also I suck with words so I'm sorry if this is bad I'm trying my best 💓💓

Also this is primarily for black girls & afab black people, I've included black guys & amabs too!!, but seeing as black women & afabs are much more highly stigmatized and how prevalant racist misogyny is, there's more points in this that are geared towards black women & afabs!!

Normalize "nappy" hair!!! (I put it in quotations because I've heard it's derogatory and racist and I don't mean to offend!!)

Normalize black girls having poofy or curly hair!!!

Normalize cornrows, box braids, dreads, etc.!!!

Stop forcing young black girls & women to conform to your colorist beauty standards!!!

Black!! Girls!! Are!! Beautiful!! And!! Stunning!! Goddesses!!

You fucking bet your ass this includes medium and dark skinned black girls!!! Fuck whitewashing, fuck colorist beauty expectations, fuck light skin exclusive adoration!!

Normalize black people having big lips and broad noses and accents!!!

Normalize "more black" mixed kids!! Darker mixed kids!! Mixed kids with dark, curly hair and brown eyes!! Mixed kids that look more like their black parent!! Mixed kids that feel more connected to their black heritage!!

Love and support black people of all different walks of life, not just high or middle class, suburban, white-conforming black people!! Love and support stereotypical, "loud", "ghetto", "aggressive", lower class or impoverished black people!! Love and support lgbt+ black people!! Support disabled black people!! Support mentally ill black people!! Support neurodiverse black people!! Support homeless black people!! Support unemployed black people!! Support incarcerated black people!!

Never forget the fallen black people who lost their lives too soon in violent crime, prison, or police brutality.

Kinky hair is so beautiful and lovely, don't ever feel ashamed of your natural hair!!! Wear it with pride, as a wlw I love seeing girls happily wear their hair and clothes the way THEY want to!

Your hair is not dirty or offending or gross!!

Your facial features are stunning!!

Your skin is beautiful just the way it is!!

Your culture matters!!

Your story matters!!

YOU matter!!

I love you!!!!! ❤❤❤

[whitepassingpocs]

being a mixed/white passing poc is like being a secret undercover spy in an unrelenting espionage thriller wherein white ppl divulge their most racist opinions to you, thinking you're One Of Them, but instead of a cool action sequence when you Reveal Your Identity, u just get lots of gaslighting, racial abuse, emotional labour and general traumatising white nonsense. we don't even get cool gadgets. but the thing is in some cases we're [dramatic movie man voice] The Only One's Who Can Do It because whites won't let visible poc into spaces they'll allow us into so we gotta do the work where we can, infiltrate The Other Side to create better spaces, educate whites cos they're more likely to listen to us and use our privilege for the community. it took me a long time to realise but this is the mission and it's weird and confusing but, well, gotta accept it.

[whitepassingpocs]

reminder to poc mixed with white that white supremacy works to make u feel like the white part of your identity is the most important, whole or valid part and that is not true. your mixed identities are just as if not more important than whiteness. ur heritage and history survives in you and that is always important.

[whitepassingpocs]

I recently got interviewed about my experiences as a mixed race person and it was really nice to be able to fully expand on what I've been through as a wppoc and have another person takes my struggles at face value and genuinely see me as mixed. It was a nice reminder that there are people out there who can see us for who we are and will listen to what we have to say and we aren't alone. Idk it was just an overall pleasant experience

whoah omg i’m so happy for you, anon!! this is such a warm hopeful affirming experience!! i’m glad u shared it! also congrats on being interviewed about something you’re so passionate about!

[whitepassingpocs]

reminder: blood quantification is a colonial invention and ideology primarily designed to oppress and erase people of colour, especially indigenous people, and is in not a legitimate reflection of your experiences as a PoC, or your connection to your ethnicity and culture

[whitepassingpocs]

So I've always had this "what am I dilemma" my mom is mixed w/ white and my dad is white and I literally look 100% white (except for my hair texture) so I have no idea what I am. I guess by a loose definition of "mixed" I could be, but i definitely benefit from almost every aspect of white privilege. That being said I also feel like I identify with some of the struggles mixed ppl face but at the same time I'm worried Im a 100% white person and subconsciously "trying to be cool" hlp 😭

hi lovely !!! 

you relate to the struggles of mixed ppl because you’re mixed. and you’re mixed because your mum is mixed, not because you’re “trying to be cool” that sounds a lot like imposter syndrome trying to invalidate your identity. put it this way, if you were 100% white you would a) benefit from EVERY aspect of white privilege and b) would not experience these feelings. 100% white people do not experience these struggles. you’re not white, you’re mixed! and as complicated as that can be, its an identity on its own worth embracing, regardless of what anyone else makes you think !!

[thehandysmr]

ewewewewe a fellow girl from the psych I was in just wunk at me. She made me realize that it2not just me whos straining when talking about the less whimsical and more tragic things many mixed ppl experience. Invited me to a black hairstyle event too, but I didn't go in the end as I was locked in finding therapy after psych as soon as possible. Man it felt good to see her again, and she didn't look as pale (as in sickly) as last year (in August mind you. my brother purposely avoids going out so he doesn't get even darker and I'm like 'let's fucking chamge skin color then I love being dark (in terms of looks)'

Since we talked maybe thrice about our experience, I'm oddly more secure in my identity overall and that... well... the confirmation that there ARE people like me who didn't grow up cared for by a community in the natural way. Since tzen I'm also feeling a lot more neutral about my body and demeanor cause yea loving yourself is great but when that love wears off it usually doesn't turn to neutrality or indifference. It usually turns into some form of hatred that nags inside you.

I'm glad I saw this woman again and I hope she keeps inspiring and helping black ppl of all kinds like she used to in her job. Ugggh and my brother is now participating in a big festival specifically celebrating black ppl in and from Germany I'm so so so proud of him!!