#mod fennec

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These Nerds: Coming soon to a webcomic near you!

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Same evan from a few asks ago when i was talking about having big scaryy feelings about a lot of people. I just wanna say i 100% agree with the other evan and im sure youre all good people, no matter what you did in your canon. @ michaels specifically: please forgive yourself, youre gonna be okay

I..oh god it's 6:50 am and I'm already about to cry- /lh /pos

I'll try. It's gonna be hard but I'll try.

Alright. I'll do my best. This goes for other Michaels too, not just us, though i feel that's obvious. To other Michaels that need to hear this, the guilt doesn't last forever, one day you'll be able to forgive yourself. Yes you can and probably will still feel bad sometimes, but that doesn't mean it'll always be there. Like Evan said, you're gonna be okay.

[nonbinaryresource]

oh man i got called by my correct pronouns for the first time the other day and i legit cried. i'm so much surer that im not a girl now and people are strating to recognize that i ain't a girl and ahh im still on a high and it was yesterday omg sorry i needed to tell someone

aaahhhh that's awesome! i'm so happy for you!!! may your correct genderings be even more affirming and wonderful in the future :)

-fennec

[nonbinaryresource]

I feel like demigender fits me well, but I've seen a lot of posts saying it's not real and that it's just a fake thing. Am I trying to be special by feeling demigender resonates with me? I really don't want to come off as some special snowflake, yet the more I think about this, the more I feel demigender describes me better than anything else.

yeah, those people are completely wrong and also p shitty for policing your and other people's genders like that... demigenders are absolutely a real thing (no i'm not biased at all even though i'm demigender myself).

-fennec

[nonbinaryresource]

Gender neutral term for prince/princess? Or really anything like that?

i’ve seen people using princen? princex is another alternative, but i believe that one is exclusive to poc

-fennec

[nonbinaryresource]

i'm a dfab agender person and i actually kind of feel like a boy but also agender and i'm really confused rn?? sorry but idk who else to go to. i really dont know if i am actually agender but for awhile i identified as a demigirl and after a few days i didn't really feel like anything (this was sometime in december)? i'm starting to wonder if i'm genderfluid, actually. i wondered that then and the confusion is back

you could be demifluid! or just genderfluid if that feels more accurate or comfortable for you. 

demifluid is where you have part of your gender that’s fluid while the rest is constant. in your case, it sounds like your sort of “base” is agender while the rest changes (from what you described, maybe between boy, girl, agender, and possibly others?). and what you’re feeling right now, like you’re both agender and a boy at the same time, is totally okay and valid.

it can be really confusing and disorienting when your gender changes and you’re not generally used to it doing that, so i would say to give yourself some time to adjust to the idea that sometimes part of your gender changes

-fennec

[nonbinaryresource]

im agender, and im wondering if its normal to still feel gender fluid/flux, like sometimes im a boy, sometimes a girl, other times i dont care or im nothing at all. is this a thing? can i still say im agender while sometimes being a gender? i'm a little confused! thanks

i don’t want to tell people that what they’re feeling is or isn’t normal, but i know that you’re definitely not the only one with experiences like this!

you could be demifluid/demiflux or agenderflux (like genderflux with the fluctuations in the intensity of gender feelings but with a base of agender) and still call yourself agender if that feels right to you. the same way that people can be nonbinary boys/girls, you can still be agender even if you’re fluid and also another gender.

-fennec

[nonbinaryresource]

Does anyone know anything about like, the actual process of top surgery? Like, after? Specifically, are there any kind of tubes that need to be removed from the body while the person is still concious? That's a bit of a phobia of mine.

short answer: unfortunately, yes, they do have to pull out some tubes post-op while the patient is conscious. 

((warning for more specific medical content in the following section))

disclaimer: i am not a medical professional. this information is from the knowledge i have based on my own experiences and research i’ve done.

okay. now.

long answer: after the surgery, there will be a small tube on each side of the chest that extends down to the lower abdomen (on the outside) with a little plastic bulb at the end. these are for drainage, and they prevent the collection of fluids around the incisions that could lead to infection, as well as pain, swelling, and air bubbles, all of which are bad things.

i didn’t personally have an unpleasant experience with having the tubes removed (which they usually do about a week or so post-op) in that it mostly just stung when they pulled them out. what i had more of an issue with was the process of actually draining the fluid and emptying the drains because of the really weird sort of suctioning/pressure change feeling caused when trying to get the fluids to move out of the body and into the collection bulb. 

so i can definitely see how it could be really upsetting for someone who knows they have issues with that kind of thing. that being said, i think there are ways that you could work around some of the issues by talking to the doctor. i don’t know that there’s a way that they could do without the drainage tubes entirely, but they might be able to numb the area around the drain holes so that, at the very least, you wouldn’t have to feel the tubes being pulled out.

i hope that this was helpful and that you can figure out something that works for you if you decide to get top surgery!

-fennec

(i’m really sorry if this was triggering for anyone; i know that talking about surgery and other medical stuff can be very difficult and upsetting for a lot of people, so please let me know if i haven’t tagged this correctly.)