#mod jodie

[six-of-headcanons]

This song, and the story behind it, remind me so much of Nina and Matthias. Listen and cry with me! -Mod Jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

i think the anon is referring to the post that asked if it's normal to have their gender changing day-to-day/hour-to-hour and wanted to add that the anon might identify as genderfluid.

oh! yeah, probably. 

what i got from that message was “i need validation” and not “i need you to label me” so i restrained from assuming i knew better about their identity than they do and i only did what i felt was needed, which was validation. 

-jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

Hi, so I was wondering what the difference between. Non-binary and agender was. I've looked into it but still don't fully understand. I don't really know what to call myself because I don't really feel fully female but I don't feel male. Does that make sense?

it does make sense, friend. this is a good question and i understand how, in all the pages and pages of info on blogs like ours, core ideas can get lost sometimes. but i’ll break it down for you. 

i’ll give an example using labels for something you probably understand better: location. i’m from the US, so i call myself american. i’m from texas, which is inside the US, so i also call myself texan. there are many americans who are not texan, but there are no texans who aren’t american. does that make sense? in this example, “non-binary” would be like america. plenty of people can be non-binary, but not all of them have the same gender experience, it varies. “texas” in this example would be like agender. not all non-binary people are agender, but all agender people are non-binary. and consider other “states” like other genders. you can be non-binary and genderfluid, or non-binary and demigirl, because those are specific genders that fall within the non-binary label. 

here’s some definitions to further clear things up 

non-binary: a gender experience that is not 100% boy or 100% girl

agender: a lack of gender experience, having no gender, and this is also considered “not 100% boy or 100% girl” 

hope this helped!

-jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

is it okay to identify as agender, but you feel just kinda neutral. neutrois doesn't seem right though. I'm not even sure if I have a gender or not tbh, I mean sometimes I feel like i do tho

maybe agenderflux? or androgyne. 

-jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

You don't seem to talk about genderfluid people and I feel like that would help some of the snobs saying they feel feminine one day and masculine another and such.

im having trouble trying to decipher the tone of this message 

-jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

Is it okay for me to have completely and utterly superficial and "societal norms" in reference to my own gender identity as long as it does not interfere with anyone else? Such as. I am a man, therefore, I pay for dates. This is an assumed truth for me, and only for me. I do not let this color my opinion of other peoples' relationships, and whoever wants to pay in those relationships. It's just a thing for me, and it would only ever effect the one I'm dating at that particular moment?

Anon w/ paying for dates, continued: It might be more of a dom/sub thing, though? Because even if I'm on a date with another man I still feel more comfortable doing the paying?

if you can still have a healthy relationship with yourself, and with other people, then i don’t see why it’d be bad. especially if it’s a dom/sub thing, i don’t see an immediate issue with it. as long as you understand ‘societal norms’ are rooted in sexism and cissexism, you can do what you like as long as you respect other people and yourself!

-jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

Is it normal to switch from feeling male to female day to day or even hour to hour?

i wouldnt feel comfortable saying “thats normal” or “thats not normal” but as long as you’re feeling it, it’s valid and its real and its okay, and it deserves to be respected.

-jodie

[nonbinaryresource]

is it still bigender if you only feel distinctly one gender at a time? e.g. feeling agender for a while then flipping back to feeling female

yes, that can still be considered bigender. all bigender people do not feel their gender the exact same way, and that’s okay.

-jodie