#mod louise

[quoisitively-queer]

Two things: I’m quoiromantic and imo there should be a term like gay panic but for quoi when stressing out if you like someone platonically or romantically. like quoi panic. but not enough people know that we exist :(((((

second thing is a question actually, is there a difference between quoiromantic and quoisexual and if so what is it? or is it just used interchangibly

thanks in advance and have a great day or night wherever you are :D

Yeah, there may not be much visibility but at least within the community we can all complain about it together! Not sure if it's still a thing but the word "squish" was always used for platonic crushes so there were a few attempts to combine the two into things like "squash" and "scrunch". Maybe it would be worth doing a poll at some point so people could submit words they like to describe "??? Attraction??? For this person??? Maybe???"

Secondly, that's a great question! "Quoiromantic" is usually used for confusion around romantic attraction vs other attractions, while "Quoisexual" is usually used for confusion around sexual attraction vs others. For some people there's just confusion all round so they might use both or just "quoi" or some combination of quoi and aroace terminology. Hopefully that makes some sense though?

We mainly share quoiro stuff but there's others on tumblr that focus on quoix stuff instead, so feel free to bounce around the blogs and see how they differ!

Hope you have a good day/night/indistinguishable time as well! Thanks for the ask!

[mogai-place]

Sup im Louise i’m new here uh made a flag edit of my identities. Im a genderfluid transmasc chaoscoric librafeminine demiboyflux lesboy (i dont have the flags in this edit but im also autistic and have adhd) and my pronouns are he/bite/bun/she

[sparkingstoryinspiration]

Write a story including a set of three things

1) a coffee shop, a bouquet of flowers, an old love song 

2) an earthquake, a silver watch, a missing boy

3) a mysterious light in the night sky, a comic book, a bible

4) a burning castle, thorns, an ancient prophecy

5) a lighthouse, a group of best friends, a secret in an old book 

6) a man in a silver cloak, a dark alley, a chandelier 

7) a flaming sword, a burning sky, a veiled stranger 

8) a broken record, a flower shop, a road trip 

9) a velvet dress, a happy memory, neon lights

10) a summer night, a haunted house, a pack of cigarettes

[bisexualreminders-blog]

i know i'm bisexual but i've never said it, i've told a few of my friends that i like girls too but only when i was drunk and since then we've never mentioned. several other of my friends have off handedly said very biphobic and homophobic things especially related to the fact that recently a lot of my female friends came out as queer. there would be no danger of me coming out as far as my family is concerned but i cant do it i dont think im brave enough to talk about it at all maybe ever (f,17)

Whether or not you come out is entirely your choice, and you are under no obligation to do so. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I promise things get better ❤️

-Mod Louise

[quoisitively-queer]

i just discovered abt the quoiromantic label from this account and i am over the moon! ive been wondering about being arospec for so long now, and its so relieving to have some clarity. thank you!

Hey, congrats on figuring it out and welcome to the community! Feel free to peruse the blog and tags, and if there's anything you need or want to talk about, don't be afraid to reach out!

[quoisitively-queer]

Could someone I be Quoiromantic and Demiromantic at the same time? Like not being able to define/ understand your romantic attraction for someone, but the person you get attracted (whether romantic or platonic or something in between) to has to be close to you for you to develop those feelings? Sorry I just started this new identity crisis like…yesterday aha,

No worries, it's good that you're exploring your relationship with attraction and how you want to describe it! You can absolutely identify with quoiro and demiro at the same time. Quoiro describes the state of your attraction (or lack of state i suppose) while demi describes the conditions of this attraction forming so it makes perfect sense to me to combine the two. Get a feel for quoiromanticism and demiromanticism, see how they feel and apply them whenever feels right!

Hope things go well and if you want to talk further, feel free to get in contact again!

[quoisitively-queer]

Happy pride month ! ! ! ! ! !

Thank you, happy pride month to you too! If you haven't already, don't forget to treat yourself this month, whether it be taking a much needed break, doing something you love or buying something you've had an eye on! 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜

[quoisitively-queer]

I hope you still check this! I just figured out what quiromantic is and oh my gosh is this how everyone feels when they figure this out? My friends are either straight, bi, pan gay or other more commonly heard of attractions. What if they think this can’t be real? I’ve debated my sexuality for a LONG time. And I don’t understand attraction very well. Is this what I am? Also are there any books with quiromantic characters?

Hello! Yes, it's just me currently as far as I'm aware but I'm still keeping an eye on the blog. Glad you found it! It's been about seven years since I first heard the word but it was definitely relieving to find.

The thing about sexuality and attraction is that labels aren't there to force you into a box and choose an experience for you; they're there to a) help you put the experiences and emotions you have into words, and/or b) help you find other people who share these experiences or emotions. So while it may not be as easily identifiable as the major LGBTQ attractions, if it helps you then that's what matters!

I don't know about other people, but finding out about quoiromanticism lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. You don't have to immediately know (or know at all) what's going on with attraction, you can just be. Because there are other people who experience the same thing!

As for the last question, I'm very glad you asked that because until now I'd just assumed there weren't, but there are! This is just from a five minute search of GoodReads, but apparently the main character of 'The Unstoppable Wasp' comics is quoiro (though confirmed by the author outside of the books since it got cancelled before it could be fully canonised) and one character in the book 'The Changing of Allison Dutch'. I haven't read either of them but it's definitely worth looking into further! Non-fiction, I will forever recommend Ash Hardell's ABCs of LGBT+, since it's the one I started out with and actually defines quoisexuality and quoiromanticism!

Hope at least some of this helped! Feel free to check back in if there's anything else!