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7 Innovations to Make Funeral Planning Suck Less

By Tré Miller Rodriguez for Modern Loss

Unless Funeral Director is your career choice, it isn’t an area where anyone wants to gain expertise. Yet like many of you, my skillset includes funeral planning: I’ve planned a funeral for my teenage brother; for several friends and relatives; and for my 40-year-old husband. My only qualifications at 19 for organizing my brother’s funeral were that I’d recently worked for a florist and I’d once gone to a concert with a dude whose family owned the local funeral home.

By the time I planned my husband’s service 15 years later, I had experience in creating worthy send-offs. And since his 2009 death, I’ve encountered companies with niche alternatives to the tired or tacky products pushed by funeral homes. I now save a list of these resources because when you’re living through the worst week of your life, who has the bandwidth to explore Pinterest-level designs for funeral programs? Or compare environmentally conscious options for cremation?

While the innovations below won’t put the “fun” into “funeral”—um, nothing will—they can help us personalize the last party we’ll ever throw for our loved one (or ourselves).

Sleep with the fishes. Through Eternal Reefs, you can actually create a marine habitat from cremains. Family and friends are invited to mix ashes into the concrete of the reef structure and personalize it with handprints or messages written in the wet concrete. This option includes an inscribed bronze plaque, a dedication ceremony at sea, and, ostensibly, a bunch of grateful fish.

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I lost my little #furbaby today. She was with me for about 12 years. I think that I should try to find the comfort in knowing that she is now with my mom in heaven. #imissmymomeveryday #imissmyfurbaby #modernloss #freshpain https://www.instagram.com/p/CBY_k4pBZTX/?igshid=1poyl6yil2l29

[kitchenlovergirl]

I think that I saw this awhile ago, and since my mom passed today was the first time that I saw it again. I think that it's very true of her and her life. #grief #griefistricky #modernloss #imissmymomeveryday https://www.instagram.com/p/B7UX4V1Bkm9/?igshid=1b0h3uhjz7521

[kitchenlovergirl]

I can't believe that this was my first Christmas without my mom. It's been a very strange day for me. I did care about Christmas and Santa Claus before, but this year, I think that I just knew that it wasn't completely right for me. I have just felt defeated by not having my mom since my family had thanksgiving this year. #griefistricky #imissmymomeveryday #memories💕 #modernloss https://www.instagram.com/p/B6hTD88harJ/?igshid=1pvs6631mobrp

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This was my comment on a friends Facebook post about losing her Dad one month ago today. She wrote she doesn’t think it will get easier. 
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Unfortunately I know this pain too well having lost my Dad unexpectedly 12 years ago this November. I find some comfort in helping to usher friends through this grief as best I can. I wish I had more peers who could relate back when I was first dealing with it. Losing a parent is something you can’t fully grasp until you do. 
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Growing stronger after a loss isn’t much different than growing stronger with exercise. The external variables haven’t changed, but you will over time.
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#grief #modernloss #deaddadsclub #fatherlessdaughters #resilience 
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