murogender, from murus, wall in Latin
it colors your experience of gender as one that you experience through feelings of detachment, alienation, distance and/or incomprehension of your own community, particularly the one(s) in your upbringing that defined how you view society and your native culture(s).
maybe it's a gender that you associate with the factors leading you to feel out of place growing up with all the gender binary things that felt nonsensical around you, whether you are nonbinary or a binary trans person.
it is nevertheless not specific to AGAB-dissident people. for example, a person deemed male at birth who does not disagree in any way with his own label as a man, but that when looking at what goes outside his door, he feels like he is not built like that and that men in the outside world feel like they are a different sort of people.
it is neither specific to cause — neurodivergence, a different type of disability, gender nonconformity, a different axis of oppression like race, coming from an immigrant background, class, an interest deemed inappropriate, people just not liking you, your own culture having things you found hard to put up with or that was difficult/dangerous to navigate in general, your primary caregivers being otherwise very odd people in relation to the rest of society and you didn't feel "bilingual", a combination of several of these — nor how you feel about it.
maybe you rock it, maybe you stress over it, maybe you have an inferiority complex, maybe you have a superiority complex, maybe you're coping with not having been at the top, maybe you're difficult and people around you were chill and ready to accept you but interpersonal skills didn't come naturally.
maybe you felt like your family or your peers were a refuge, maybe they felt like part of the problem, maybe either or both felt like the worst offenders, maybe different sets of people had different associations for you, maybe it changed in time depending on them acting different or your own growth and changes.
it can be combined with other things, for example, muroautigender being a gender borne out of or shaped by the sense of distance between you and most people + the social construct of gender in society as you experienced it first-hand specifically in the context of being autistic. maybe you'd want to coin something that rolls off the tongue more easily, not just for muroautigender but many other possible subsets.
the name is inspired by the very tall walls separating houses and streets in many parts of Latin America (coiner is Brazilian from Morro do Pé Pequeno, Niterói + Nova Iguaçu, so no, this is not Latinorientalism), often making it impossible to see the street from the inside or vice-versa. it's not restricted to any group, in fact it is possible that most of the world is murogender to some extent. I have thought of posting this for many years, at least ever since 2020, but ended up procrastinating.