Y'know, I keep seeing "Discourse" around unconventional gender identities and neopronouns and sexualities, and I just... I can't comprehend why the fuck I'm supposed to care. I can't understand why anybody wants to give a fuck about these things in a negative way, at least enough to engage in discourse about it.
You identify as Hornet? Cool. Not my life. I like Hornet! She's really cool! Let's Shaw together, or something! You want to be referred to as fae/faer and identify as autigender? Yeah, why not? I can live with that. I'll respect those pronouns like I would any other. Why do I see hate campaigns over these things? Why do I see people getting genuinely angry about it? You want to call yourself demigraysexual or whatever your new favorite word is? Yeah, dawg, I'll sit and listen to you explain the exact nuances of your identity and why that's important to you if you wanna share. You having a word for your experiences doesn't hurt me.
You're an endogenic system, and you have multiple people in your head? I... Sure. Who the FUCK am I to tell you you don't? That sounds really hard to deal with, but also like it could be a source of joy, and I respect that. I'm working through getting a possible DID diagnosis. It's all kinda scary for me, but also, I wouldn't want to be without some of these dorks, so I even understand willowgenic systems or whatever they are. I like some of these dorks. If you want to create some extra dorks in your head to have fun with, I get it.
I see these targeted hate campaigns, and I just... I don't know. I just cannot figure out why I am supposed to care. So much of this just isn't my life.
This blog will always be a safe space for everyone, no matter your identity. No matter how "Weird" I might think it is, at the end of the day, it's not my life, not my experience, not my community, not my thing to get mad about, and if I see somebody trying to be a fucking douche cuz someone on Tumblr feels in their heart of hearts that they experience the world through the lens of Hornet, I'm gonna step the fuck in about it, because what the hell, man?
And I don't even care if you grow out of whatever unconventional identity you have!!!! It was still a part of you, and still holds a place in your life, and I respect that! Even if you WERE just some kid playing pretend, you came out of it with a better understanding of who you really are inside. I love that. I respect that. You're doing so much more work than so many people are willing to, all for the sake of the greatest goal of all - Self-actualization.
This is an open and perpetual invite for any of you to flood my asks with descriptions of your own unconventional identity, by the way. I want to hear about you! I want to hear about what life is like to be you! I want to hear about thel ens you see the world through. Just please put on the end of it it with whether or not you're down to have me ask questions about it, too! I want to hear about people whose lives aren't mine!
