#mutual abuse

[sadic-tranny]

I crave mutual abuse and a toxic relationship with a good trans boy so much

But there's so few of them who offer me such things :((

[ludwiglasy]

Toh Axe AU Masterpost

Short summury: Caleb is alive, he has become an emperor, and Philip is his right hand, the Black Guard. They have a terrible relationship, somewhere between slavery and domestic violence. But Philip has a son, Hunter, and almost adopted daughter - Luz, and they are going to save him.

Fanfic "Where the war axe is buried":

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Early access to unpublished chapters and some sneak peeks on my Boosty

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Lore posts: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10

Refsheets: Caleb and Philip, Caleb's beard timeline, Hunter, old disigns, Eda and Lilith, Caleb and Philip again, side charecters

Comics: 1 (1,5), 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7

Arts: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27

Memes: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

AUs (yes, AUs on AU, I know, we are productive): 1, 2, 3

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[bixleaf]

¡¡¡¡Trick or treat!!!!

I PICK TREAT!!!!

I PICK YOU!!!!

[sweetsnuffedangel]

dad!bf who treats me like a princess even though he abuses me daily 💗

[peterscarrot]

When will people ever understand that mutual abuse doesn't exist? I'm just standing up for myself AGAINST abuse?

[arctic-hands]

The whole "mutually abusive" narrative I'm still seeing really grates me because yeah, it prolly does happen from time to time, but as someone who fought back against the abuse I suffered as a kid, I was labeled violent and out of control and a terror to my parents, even tho they were grown ass adults taking out their anger and frustration over having a sickly and disabled kid on the sickly disabled kid. I was sent to therapy for my "anger and violence" and flat out asked there why I was making life so difficult for my parents, meanwhile the one CPS investigation that was opened closed after one interview with my parents and concluded that I was making up lies based on overreacting to "discipline".

Why should the victim of abuse be forced to take it without fighting back and losing the "perfect victim" position?

[cosmicanger]

mutual abuse does not exist. don’t victim blame the person for fighting back to abuse from their oppressors/abusers, reactions to abuse are not the same as abuse like goddamn a lot of people straight up do not believe or center victims.

[moonwaif]

Is Mutual Abuse Real?

When it comes to domestic violence, is mutual abuse a real thing? Or does the term only hurt victims and survivors?

TW: Domestic violence, assault.

Domestic violence survivors might be assaultive, but that’s not mutual abuse. That’s reactionary abuse. “They don’t want power and control. They want the power and control to stop,” says David Cropp, a retired sergeant with the Sacramento police and an expert witness consultant for domestic violence.

What might be perceived as mutual violence is often violent resistance—that’s violence in response to violence, not violence used to control a partner. “They don’t initiate the violence, and they don’t use it with the motivation of limiting agency or controlling a partner,” Mechanic says. “They’re using it either defensively or preemptively. But it can look on the surface like mutual abuse if you’re not looking at who’s initiating and who’s in control.” . . .

Mechanic explains that a type of mutual abuse exists. It’s often called situational couple violence. But it isn’t part of domestic violence. It happens between people who have poor conflict resolution skills and don’t know how to communicate. So, when they are talking about things like whether to go on vacation or buy a car, they may engage in mutual, low-level violence. “It’s generated by a situation that people can’t resolve in some other way,” Mechanic says. Unlike domestic violence, it’s not driven by the need to exert power and control over another person.