They say that when you don’t look, you find. This is sound advice.
One reason is that when you’re not seeking, you let your guard down. You just play it naturally and see where things end up. “Go with the flow” as some people say.
When you search, you get stressed. What if I don’t find her? What if I don’t find him? These are unhealthy thoughts. You will find her. You will find him. You’ve just got to be patient. Sometimes the best way to be in a relationship is to be in one but not realise you’re in one.
What I mean by that is this: you could be friends with someone and that someone could become your lifelong partner. They might not but if you let things play out the way they were meant to be, you’ll find out.
The point is to have fun.
You can’t go about your life thinking that this person is the one or this one is the one or this person is the one. You’ll know who the one is when they are the one. BELIEVE ME.
These days, young people don’t seem to be really interested in dating; just flinging. And it seems that most use this as a method to try things out before they settle down. But if you’re old fashioned, you won’t like this idea. You’ll want a committed relationship and if you want this, you’re going to have to wait.
But don’t grow impatient. You’ll find them. I know you will. Just don’t establish with everyone that you know that you want to date them. Pick up people in bars if you have to or the library or anywhere, but I suggest you don’t and just be patient. Maybe you’ll pick someone up without even trying. The trick is to be yourself and when you’re yourself, you let your guard down. And when you let your guard down, you become more approachable.
Maybe let the one you’re hanging out with decide if you should date or be in a relationship. Then it’s not your decision anymore, it’s theirs. However, this can backfire if you don’t particularly like the person in that way.
So just live your life and you will find when you have no intentions in mind.
Sometimes people who are in relationships are the most attractive. I’m just throwing that out there.
Who knows, maybe you’ll be dating that person when they break up with their significant other. Who knows, who knows? Seriously, who does know? Well, not you that’s for sure.
