A thoughtful look at new year plans focused on calm, peace, meaningful work, and loving daily life—without pressure, resolutions, or rigid goals.
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A thoughtful look at new year plans focused on calm, peace, meaningful work, and loving daily life—without pressure, resolutions, or rigid goals.
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The last hour.
So I legit was in tears when it hit midnight. I sat there as the countdown continued thinking about how many people didn't make to the new year, how many families currently have a void in their hearts and home; how many homeless people are still out in the streets with no food to eat, clothes to wear or a home to sleep; or someone who spend New Year's Eve alone and at midnight told themselves happy new year; or the people who did celebrate the welcoming of a new year in a room filled with people and yet felt alone. On the other hand, I went on thinking about all the brave mothers and their families who were probably in the delivery room waiting for their bundle of joy to arrive, the families and friends who say together at the dinner table and had themselves a glass of red wine as they spoke about what they appreciated about 2013 and wish to obtain this new year; or a couple who's probably having a New Years wedding; celebrating love and partnership as one. This time of year has always been very emotional for me; I can't help but to feel mix emotions going into a new year and facing the unknown and wishing I had enough of whatever they needed to help brighten up someone's day just a little bit more at least on the last hour before going to into a new year to give them hope that this new year will be their time to shine. My heart that last hour was with everyone around the world and although I don't have the power to help like I wish I could, just know someone was out there thinking of you.
What Happened to Me in One Year
Just one year ago I found myself on NYE night getting pretty much dumped (again) by my (on/off) boyfriend of 3 years. At the time I hated him for it, but it was the smartest thing he could have done for himself. You see, a year ago was the beginning of a girl entering a dark and lonely life throughout this past year. I found myself later that night drinking one drink after the other and trying to get attention from a past fling. All I wanted was someone to care for me. I wanted someone to give me a New Years kiss and frankly, no one wanted the same from me. This feeling of loneliness and rejection started its destructive path on this very night one year ago. After feeling neglected from my boyfriend moving away from me and dumping me on NYE, moments before we were going to hang out together, I rebelled. I wanted attention like any 20something would feel in that moment. The next thing I knew I was in the arms of my best friend (ex-boyfriend/boyfriend) throwing up outside of a bar and being carried home. In that moment he felt like an angel saving me from myself. You'd think I would have been appreciative, giving everything I had to this boy... but I didn't. We rarely ever understand what we have until it walks straight out of our lives forever. The rest of the year was like this night; often not remembered. I continued to hurt those I love , striving to find happiness in what the world enjoyed so much. Lies, lust, selfishness consumed me and the more I continued down this path, the more I pushed people away, which caused me to rebel even more. My heart became so hard and bitter and I was mad at everyone all the time especially those I loved most. Eventually, when you head on a path that only carries destruction, all you get is destruction. The one person that never gave up on me, although he moved away from me for a whole year. He always came back, loving me the same as he had the first moment he said he loved me.We're all humans, we can only take so much and he left. Although it was the most painful thing I have ever felt in my life, I am also grateful for losing the only thing I ever loved so deeply. I tried so badly to change for him so he would accept me back, to be the girl he once fell in love with...But eventually I realized that I wasn't changing for him anymore. I was changing for myself. In my moments of darkness, I lost the the only thing I ever turned to and that was gone, so I turned to God. Sometimes I look at people or I know friends and think to myself, "They'll never be saved. They will always be lost in the darkness of lust and lies and seeking attention, and drinking and sex." How foolish it is of me to think this when in just one year my life was completely demolished and then restored, transforming me into the most beautiful person I have every been. God has freed me from my dark days , he has taught me how to be happy alone. I don't want to seek attention from others. I don't want to drink, I'm not angry or bitter. I'm forgiven and all I want is to follow the plans God has for my life. One year, and I can happily say that I love who I am and now that I know who I am, I can prepare myself for the future. I can prepare mysef to be a wife to the perfect husband that will lift me up in everyway. I can prepare myself to be a mother one day. I can prepare myself for God's calling on my life whatever that may be and wherever He may take me. I spent the end of this year trying to prove to people that I changed and can be the girl I used to be. But I don't need to prove anything to anyone because God has forgiven me and his light will shine through me everyday influencing those I have met and those I have yet to meet and I can't wait to see what plans he has for my life. You never know what he could do to you in a year.
Let's go for some New Years Reflection! Yay!
A year ago from this time..I was not particularly a happy camper, partially because my then-boyfriend was constantly gone when this Christmas vacation was solely meant to catch up on more time from us being apart...but I posted a picture, it was a collage, and he was mostly in it. And I said it was one of the best years of my life because it was when I met him, and I went on about how blessed I was and what exciting and great things this new year will bring!
well.....
little did my naive mind know that at some point in this year my entire heart and soul would be ripped from my body, leaving me bleeding and gasping for air, struggling to put the pieces together which were my shattered self.
I'd say I'm pretty well put together by now.
And lessons. I learned some of THE VERY BEST LESSONS, I could have ever learned in such a short amount of time, which was this year. I look back on my experience being thankful for the incredible lessons I learned, which I unfortunately only could have learned, through direct experience.
DON'T DATE SOMEBODY YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON WITH. DON'T. DO. IT.
If the only thing you have in common is not wanting to be alone...well then run. Run away. Trying to force a relationship that really does not have a good basis, in well, anything, is a recipe for DISASTER.
Wanting short term satisfaction in return for long term pain is what dating someone you don't really like or do not have that much in common with is going to do.
It's easy for people to fall in love with each other, one person shows interest, the other person shows interest, you both show interests, you get excited over the cute things the other person does for you and says to you, and then you fall down the spinning spiral into the love trap.
and if you fall in love with someone you don't have anything in common with, well, that kind of sucks..
soon you sort of start resenting the person, even if you do love them. Things they do tick you off. whether it is that they're always late, say something out of taste, texting other girls, cancelling dates, not doing anything for your birthday..
and you're just sort of in this unhappy mess. and you choose to stay, even though you are unhappy, because you think maybe if you stay it'll get better, or maybe the rare good times are worth all the shitty mess, and plus, who really wants to be alone?
but then, when the other person dumps you, after all you tried for them and persevered for them. after all the chances you gave them...they leave you. and you're left completely destroyed. Because you invested your happiness in another human being rather than yourself. You gave up all your friends just to spend the most time with him. You gave up going to Europe just for him. You planned most of your life just around him.
First boyfriend. First real love. First huge mistake.
If only I had listened to my gut, and left when I wanted to, I could have prevented so much hurt. If only I based judgments off of actions, instead of words. If only I had chosen to be with someone I actually had things in common with, and genuinely enjoyed their presence without forcing it.
I don't have any regrets. Like the stupid saying goes, everything happens for a reason. I learned a lot. I learned to never lose myself again.
Now I know what to look out for, what kind of guy to be with. I will know when it is time to leave (when you are continually dissatisfied and unhappy). And I know I will have the strength to go, because I know it will hurt less in the long run, to feel a little pain now.
I wish I could have been wiser, I really do. I wish someone would have told me, with gravity, how important this is. But I learned it myself, and I have the rest of my life to live. I am a happy individual, and I welcome any and all incredible lessons to my life, even if they hurt.
2013 taught me more than any other year has taught me in my entire 18 years of existence.
2014, will be a good year. Any year you're alive is a good year. And I welcome any and all wonderful surprises, twists, turns, smiles, laughs, and opportunities it may bring. I wish everyone good health and happiness.
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