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#4 INTJ thoughts

Why do I always feel so stupid after I have let someone else into my life?

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Greetings. What is a healthy and balanced Fi in INTJ like?

Thank you for this question. A healthy and balanced Fi would manifest in INTJs as: 

- A strong and unwavering set of morals. In a healthy INTJ and due to the constant questioning approach of the type, these morals would probably be the final conclusions of a well-thought mental process in which different perspectives and angles have been taken into consideration. 

- A strong connection with the inner self. INTJs are individuals with a rich and deep inner world, however unhealthy individuals will perceive this depth as a constant source of deep melancholy, uneasiness and even sorrow. A healthy INTJ will use their balanced Fi to stay in sync with their personal truth. 

- A good acknowledgement and acceptance of their emotions. As much as the “evil, cold, has no clue about emotions” INTJ stereotype has gone way too far, I think it is accurate to state that it is rather common for INTJs to feel bewildered, uncomfortable and frustrated towards their feelings, even more so when they appear as “illogical” from a purely rational perspective. 

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Post Party Depression?

A question for all the INTJs out there and other MBTI types who might share this experience. Does anyone else ever go out, have a good time, get jiggy with it, only to return home and be overcome with a wave of emptiness and depression? The night was good, you haven't drunk anything, and there are no negative repercussions of the party but you are suddenly so very sad. It gets weirder because I usually love my own company, and am not easily saddened by such things. It is quite a phenomenon for me and makes me ask myself every time I go out partying why I even bother. P.S. This doesn't usually happen with get togethers or hanging out with friends, only after large events or crazy parties involving loud music, dancing, etc. Could this be a side effect of inferior Se overload??

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The Curse of Intuition

Imagine being able to arrive at a conclusion or an answer without having to think about it or sometimes, without even having to ask the question yet. Intuition as I have been aware is exactly what that is. Even as a child, this has been a part of me readily available at my disposal without me realizing it exists. In a world where practical data is being given much more importance than those invisible to our eyes, the thriving of intuition is hampered.

Intuition is the key to finding something fast and finding it accurately.  But the notion that intuition is perfect and foolproof is not only illogical but ignorant. There is a valid reasoning behind the belief that intuition, no matter how unexplainable and subconsciously functioning, is still vulnerable in committing mistakes. But people who are aware and used to the feeling since they always use their intuition, helps into training, sharpening and heightening it; and as to what Katrine Kjær, the eCommerce’s Client Service Director suggested in her talk on TEDx, intuition must be trained like a muscle. The more we use it, the higher our chance of arriving at an accurate answer.

As much as I would not like this to be an essay filled with typology related concepts, I just cannot help but to add some. Knowing now that people who uses—or trains—their intuition more makes their conclusions more likely to be right, empowers me as a natural intuitive thinker with introverted intuition as his dominant function.

I believe that Ni-users not only have the monopoly of being able to use intuition correctly but also they have the specific tools needed to be able to use it effectively. As a matter of fact, I think intuition is designed to be introverted, subjective and functioning as invisible as it can be which is not the case with other types of intuition, that even though still working subconsciously, is almost consciously observable given how noticeable it is. Another thing that gives this elation I feel, is the fact that the auxiliary function meant to help my dominant one, happens to be a judging-thinking kind. Not only it provides more rationality to the conclusions my intuition comes up with compared to a judging-feeling function, it supplies additional information to my storehouse of data—my subconscious where the intuition gets its reference. If that does not contribute to a path achieving an almost infallible kind of intuition, I don’t know what is.

But empowered and acting mighty as I might, there are numerous unpleasant things that this power of intuition entails. Intuition allows its users to see beyond what is presented to them. It lets the skilled users to see almost everything: what people really mean, their vulnerabilities, secret desires and fantasies, veiled inauthenticity, masked pain, internal happiness, fears, attempts of deceit, lies and truths. It can be quite draining to be bombarded with these sudden flashes of reality especially since intuition does not work consciously and surfaces beyond our control. Imagine the pain of being able to see hidden intentions behind the comforting words of one of your closest friends. It would tear you, deciding whether you would confront them into telling you something unsaid which would most likely just make you a paranoid, let it pass and just keep that pain to yourself—good luck living like that—or wait for the right moment and catch them on their own words; all of which, though isn’t very appealing if you are striving to have a harmonious, conflict-free life.

I am aware that it is in all of our knowledge that the world, or the people living in it rather, isn’t perfect, but being able to validate and see it with your own eyes takes up a lot of courage so that I would continue looking. Ignorance really has its bliss. Everyone is exposed with their mistakes, imperfections and flaws. There have been numerous situations where I have found myself regretting that I have learned something I shouldn’t have. It preoccupied me and undeniably affected future decisions that when compared with a version of myself who is unaware, definitely seems to be very different. There were a couple of decisions mostly made through my intuition that would totally be not the case have I not used it.

A simple, ordinary life usually is not one an intuitive should expect to live. Most people uses a more technical, practical and concrete system of thinking which may be seen by an intuitive as rather slow. It becomes very frustrating for a heightened intuition-user to talk to someone who needs to go through all the steps and processes before grasping what it is that one really mean.

It gets exhausting when you have gotten to the finish line by car and willing for them since they’re on foot. Blurting out observation out loud tends to be regrettable once they ask for details after detail. Somehow, explaining everything carefully takes away the fun and genuine connection between two people who are expected to know each other by heart—by intuition.

It is as if you are damned to live alone without finding someone who can understand you in just a few words or no words at all. There is a dictum that says we shouldn’t assume unless something was directly stated but that is too mechanical, too robotic and is only risky for those not used to using their intuition.

Intuits should understand and put to mind that intuition, no matter how abstractly clear may it be for them, is still internal and subconscious. It is in the hands of other equally intuitive people to match their own and fully grasp what they mean. It should also be in the hands of conscious helping functions to make sense, keep in check and relay to the outside world what the intuition is telling them.

These are all frustrating and saddening for intuition-users but must be the case in order to be fully understood in this world populated by non-intuitives/lesser intuitives.

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Stop encouraging me

I'm an INTJ in my HSC, the Australian version of final examinations for all of high school. I don't know if this happens to other INTJs but do you resent encouragement? I hate it every time sometimes asks me how a test went. What do you want me to say? No I don't think I went the best in the state because I'm not that good? It was hard and stressful and now it's over which is nice but I'm not done yet? It was bad and I don't want to talk about it? WHAT VERSION OF WHAT I HAVE TO SAY FITS TO WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR?! Then when I say that it's all "But I was just showing interest in your studies" and "I want you to know I support you." ENOUGH! I don't want you to ask me about it regardless if I did well or poorly! I don't want you leaving me 'goodluck' messages. Stop popping in to ask me how I'm doing. Stop giving me that knowing look when I come home and saying "Don't worry, it'll be over soon." Of course I know that! Do you think I'm an idiot? If you want to help me stop attacking me with your barrage of feelings which don't care for mine at all.

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#5 INTJ thoughts

Me: *diminishes every existing problem in my life so it looks like I don’t care*

People who doesn’t know me: IdKk hOooW TooOO CCaaRrEEE aBboOuuT YouUu WhEeEn YouUU’REee lIIiKeee ThIiIiiSSss

Inner me: what do you mean? It’s pretty obvious that I am a broken soul that doesn’t like to ponder my problems to other people.

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INTJ and ENFJ talking about love

INTJ: it’s like I know the signs a guy gives when he’s interested, such as looking into the eyes and tiling his head, the body is turned to the person and he tries to imitate the person he likes.

ENFJ: Yeah, it’s hard to tell what the exact signs are. But from what I’ve experienced you can really see that; if he leans toward a wall, I’d do it too; the connection in the eyes are also very special and really hard to explain.

INTJ: yeah, I could understand that. But the problem is, when I say that I want to “try” this on ENTP, I always forget what the signs are. And because I usually don’t notice the details :)

ENFJ: *laughs*

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Se, The Best Inferior?

I have thought this for a while and am very interested to hear what other people have to say on the matter: Do INXJs have the best inferior? Inferiors are nearly never a good thing to notice but some are far more detrimental than others. Inf Fe looks exhausting, Inf Ni is scarily dangerous, Inf Fi is kind of sad, but Se isn't all that bad. It's worst trait is probably that it is a 'lazy' inferior. It's like a grabby child demanding sweets and naps at in opportune times but is rarely harmful. We also are not often outdoorsy or exercise junkies but that's no crime or heavy burden. Name a better inferior to live with, I'll wait.