First of all, I'm also a 17 year old asexual INTJ, so that's pretty neat. But anyway, all of my friends are INFPs. And I mean all of them – I made them all take the test and they all got INFP. Is there any particular reason an INTJ and an INFP would click? (I'm just, like, really weirded out that all my friends have the same type.)
Hello fellow teen INTJ ace :)
This exact circumstance happened to an INTP friend of mine.After typing her group she was shocked to find the vast majority of them wereINFPs despite the statistical unlikeliness.
For many people who run in largely introverted and intuitivecircles they may be surprised at the surplus of rare types round them,especially for females where these types are especially rare. In my ownfriendship group there are two female INTPs and three female INTJs which seemsabsurd! It can only be deduced that types of these natures naturally attractand clump together.
I personally know only two INFPs closely, one an adult male,the other a late teen female. Both are clearly very deeply emotional, extremelykind, love to be included though often quiet, and complex individuals. Iappreciate both of them for their intelligence, passion, genuine nature, andmutual appreciation for dark humour and watching old movies and anime.
Every individual person is different but generally speaking,INFPs seem attracted to INTJs for a few obvious traits.
INFPs are never tolerant of shallow people, and especiallyliars, and appreciate INTJ’s in their blunt honesty even if it can be harsh attimes.
INFPs Sometimes feel lost when it comes to putting theirfeelings into succinct wording (that Ne shining through) so INTJ insight is appreciatedbetween close friends. On the other hand, an INFP with a good understanding oftheir emotional state, needs, and limitations may enjoy discussing such topicswith INTJs who also like analysing such traits in great detail (at least I do).
INFPs seem to like INTJs for the calm and cool confidencethey radiate. The INTJ’s ability to make big decisions efficiently, not aseasily be off put by the worry of judgement, and internal sureness of our ownactions and identity can be quite attractive.
I think INFPs like INTJs for how they behave in some wayssimilarly to INFPs but also differently. We share a dark sense of humour(stereotypically speaking), deep interpretations of emotion, and contemplativenature but we are distinct in our harsh realist outlook on life, trust in humanityto act in its own interest, decisive nature, ability to be detach ourselvesfrom emotionally damaging scenarios, and obsession with being right.
I also think that secretly INFPs love being able to getclose to INTJs and breaking down our walls. It takes a lot of time and effortto earn the trust, true respect and affection of an INTJ and I believe INFPsfeel special being one of the few to be close to us.
There is a desirable balance formed in INTJ INFP friendshipsand relationships. Any one trait in excess is not sustainable so it is nicewhen friends can bring different perspectives and attitudes to therelationship. The INFP’s trust in the world balances the INTJ’s cynicismnicely, yet the INTJ’s realism protects the INFP from quixotic ideas andplacing trust in those who do not deserve it. INFPs are good for helping INTJsbe more in touch with their own emotions and questioning aspects of themselves theyhad not yet considered while INTJs help INFPs make hard decisions by puttingemotions aside in preference for what is objectively the best outcome. INFPsand INTJs both naturally give different observations about the same concepts orincidences giving both a deeper understanding.
