Came across this video earlier this morning. And while its been out for about a year now, this was my first time seeing it. It really is a good laugh for those in the gay community so check it out if you have yet to see it.
But that’s not why I’m sharing it. I’m sharing because, while sure its funny, at the same time it kind of makes my blood boil.
“Are you black? Are you white? Does your belly shake? Cause I wont reply if you’re out of shape. You’re going to get judged on Grindr. Listen up cause here’s a reminder.”
Okay, we get it. You have a type. Don’t we all? Whether we want to admit it or not, we all have a personal preference when it comes to a partner. There is NOTHING wrong with that. But when you put people down and make them feel ashamed for being themselves, well that’s NOT okay. It drives home the fact as to how shallow and judgmental our own community can be. I’ve seen shirts going around online that read “No Fats. No Femmes”. It was hurtful.
And before you jump to conclusions... NO I am not “Femme” nor am I “Fat” no matter what your definition of each may be. What I am is a human, capable of love. One with feelings and one who looks at a person for what they have to offer, not just what they look like. And please don’t get me wrong, I do love the video and get that it is for entertainment purposes. But its happening in real life. And that’s what its poking fun at. Looks fade. We all get old. Love who you want to love and live your life how you want. But don’t make others feel like shit for trying to do the same damn thing. #EndRant