This is such a controversial take but here we go!:
Whenever I see someone defining a lesbian or lesbian attraction as “women and non-binary people” or “nonmen”, I have a lot of questions as to the true meaning.
Does your “women and non-binary people”/“nonmen” include AMAB non-binary people?
What about butch presenting trans women?
Does it include AMAB non-binary people who have chosen not to medically transition?
Does it include AFAB non-binary people who have chosen to do a “full” ftm transition and now have what would be considered “male” bodies?
Does it include masc-aligned non-binary people? What about masc aligned AMAB non-binary people (demi-men and such)?
Does it include AMAB non-binary people who choose to present in a traditionally male way?
How do you feel about trans men? Does how you feel about trans men depend on if they’ve medically transitioned or not?
A lot of the time it feels like when people say “women and non-binary people” what they really mean is AFAB/“female” looking people.