#non-binary erasure tw

[multishippers-hate-antis-blog]

“Well since the non-binary doesn’t exist dickwad blocked me, here is my response:

Apparently, if you don’t have a certain type of brain, you can’t be trans/non-binary or whatever the fuck.

YES. I know that trans people have a different brain chemistry than cis folk. But non-binary people are widely understudied and until you are proven otherwise, STOP ERASING THEM. They aren’t transphobic and fall under the trans umbrella.

Also, if someone genuinely CAN’T FEEL COMFORTABLE MENTALLY WITH EITHER GENDER they are absolutely non-binary. That is a thing. 

“Sorry (but not really) if I was mean” like? That makes you sound like a jerk. Not that calling non-binary people transphobic doesn’t already, but this doesn’t help your case pal. 

“governments trying to legalize transphobic shit in support of fake genders”

First of all, non-binary isn’t “fake” and you need to stop telling people that identify as such that their identities aren’t real. Every identity is valid. Doing this is literally the same shit that TERFs do. It’s disgusting to watch people shit on non-binary people like this. 

“nonbinary people stealing resources from trans people who actually need it”

They never “steal your resources.” Non binary people and trans people fall under the same umbrella and the reasons they need these resources are often the same as yours. They’re bullied and oppressed just as much as you, IF NOT MORE. (Before you argue, the fact that a trans individual is trying to claim they don’t exist just proves my point.)

“science doesn’t buy into your shit and neither do experts.“

It wasn’t long ago that science and experts didn’t buy into trans people either yknow? Why? Because they were WIDELY UNDERSTUDIED AND PEOPLE WERE BIGOTED AS FUCK. Non binary people face the same shit now.

Claiming that “dysphoria has been diluted” is bull. 

Saying non binaries are often “confused trans people sucked into MOGAI shit” is absolutely gross. That’s literally the same thing as saying Pan people are just confused bisexuals. Or that bisexuals are just confused. That’s literally bi/panphobic rhetoric with recycled wording. It’s gross. 

Claiming that Uruguay’s new laws aren’t progressive was also rather,,, off. Because yes, while changing your name freely isn’t really the best (take it through legal stuff,) allowing trans folk to do as they please and identifying non binary people is absolutely a good step toward equality. But hey, you would have no government ever recognize people that are non binary and allow them to be discriminated against and attacked for not identifying a certain way, but go off I guess. 

[nonbinary-support]

please please please please help omg so tomorrow at school i have a presentation and i'm being forced to wear a dress tomorrow ON TOP of constantly being misgendered and ON TOP of being rejected as non-binary but i'm a dysphoric mess right now and i have no idea how to do this or what to do :((

I know it might sound kind of silly but there was this post a while back I had seen that went something like this:

If you have to go to a gathering/event and present as your assigned gender, pretend it’s just an alias and you’re a spy working undercover and everyone is in on it. You’re not really that person obviously, that’s just your secret alias so you can gather the information you need!

I know it’s not much and those kind of situations are really rough but it’s a silly little diversion that might just help alleviate some of the stress and maybe even get a few giggles out of you in the process. I know you’ll get through it and you’ll be okay, stay strong.

-mod Scuzzy

[wingedtyger]

Ugh. Just had an Omegle conversation that I don't know if I want to post or not. Fucking mansplaining and ignorance and trying to play word games, as if I don't know my shit and my own experience.

Yeah, all right I'll post it. Like last time, my thoughts (like this)

You're now chatting with a random stranger. Say hi!

You both like Tumblr.

You: Hey

Stranger: Heyy

You: How's it going?

Stranger: I'm bored, lonely, and other stuff (... that means horny.)

Stranger: What about you?

You: Not too bad

You: Just procrastinating. I should be straightening up.

Stranger: I know those feels

Stranger: What's your name?

You: Silver

Stranger: Silver? Is that like, girl or guy? (Again, proving my theory that 'what's your name?' is code)

You: Neither

You: I'm non-binary

Stranger: Oh

Stranger: Okay

Stranger: What sex are you?

You: I'm non-binary

Stranger: no

Stranger: that's gender

Stranger: Sex is different

You: My sex doesn't matter

Stranger: No?

You: My sex is 'as little as possible'

Stranger: Sex is like in common terms, whether you were born a "man" or a "woman"

You: Yes, I'm aware. And it doesn't matter.

You: No one is born a sex. We're assigned one based on our genitals.

You: Which is bullshit.

Stranger: N...no

Stranger: You're assigned a gender

Stranger: Not a sex

Stranger: Sex is biological

Stranger: Gender is cultural

You: Do you realize how many different components go into our biology? Chromosomes (which can be more than just XY or XX), hormones, genitals...

You: All of those are things that may or may not match to your assigned sex

You: And in any case, they are irrelevant to our having a conversation.

Stranger: Huh

You: Because, let's be honest, you're trying to decided whether I'm "really" a guy or a girl. Guess what? I'm neither.

Stranger: I just want to fuck you either way

You: You're not going to.

Stranger: Have I angered you with my ignorance?

You: That and the fact that you think that a conversation on the tumblr tag should be about how you want to fuck someone.

Stranger: I have lots of tags (So do I, because I want to talk about THOSE things, or at least use them as common ground. If you want sex, go to a sex tag)

You: When that someone has no interest.

Stranger: I'm trying to fuck them all

Stranger: I'm a pansexual

Stranger: I enjoy fucking

You: And I'm asexual

Stranger: Am I oppressing your way of life (my way of life? I don't consider a sexuality a way of life, as there are so many ways of expressing it)

You: You're being an asshole.

Stranger: I am an asshole

Stranger: A very sexual asshole

Stranger: Who also likes assholes

Stranger: literally

You: Yeah, well THIS asshole saves it for people who deserve it. (I mostly meant that I save being an asshole for people who deserve it - like stranger here)

Stranger: But you're asexual

You: So?

Stranger: So if you're asexual, wouldn't you not give it to anyone, no matter if they deserve it or not?

You: There are many reasons to have sex.

You: I enjoy sex. I just don't want it very often. And I'm not sexually attracted to anyone.

You: Thus asexual

Stranger: There's probably another self-label for that

Stranger: I don't think it's asexual

You: The definition of asexual is not sexually attracted to anyone.

You: That is the common definition used by all asexuals.

You: So, yeah, I'm good.

Stranger: Asexuality (or nonsexuality)[1][2][3] is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone or low or absent interest in sexual activity.

You: Which is what I JUST said

Stranger: I don't believe you did

You: "I enjoy sex. **I just don't want it very often.** **And I'm not sexually attracted to anyone.**

Stranger: You're just trying to be different aren't you

Stranger: You don't have to be so coy

You: I'm not being coy

Stranger: I still have enough dick to go around

You: I've always been like this

Stranger: You don't have to feel like anyone is missing out

Stranger: it's okay

You: I don't want your dick or anyones

Stranger: Are you sure

Stranger: I don't think you are

You: Because suddenly you're telepathic? Oh, wait, if you were, you'd know that I'm more than capable of figuring myself out.

You: What with being asexual since I found out there was a term for it.

You: Which was possibly before you were born.

Stranger: Occam's Razor

You: Since that was like 20 years ago.

Stranger: Shiver are you offended right now (And now it's obvious he's trolling)

You: Pretty sure the simplest explanation is that I'm not lying and actually can recognize whether or not I'm sexually attracted to people.

Stranger: Am I offending you

You: It's Silver

Stranger: Okay Shiva

You: Shiva is cool. I am not that cool.

You: Also, not Hindu, so...

Stranger: Resident Evil 5 sucked

Stranger: Do I need to check my privilege?

You: Shiva is a Hindu god...

Stranger: Yeah

Stranger: it's also a character in Resident Evil 5

Stranger: Which sucked

Stranger: And I told you so

You: I wouldn't know

You: Nor do I care

Stranger: Casual

You: I'm not a gamer

Stranger: How did you know it was a video game, huh?

Stranger: HUH

Stranger: Check & Mate

You: Really?

You: REALLY?

Stranger: Quiet Suliv

Stranger: It's okay

Stranger: Bronze, I want you to guess my gender and sexual orientation

Stranger: Go

You: Shut up, child

Stranger: Ad hominem

You: Ooo, you know the name of fallacies.

You: Aren't you special?

Stranger: I never claimed I was

Stranger: Infact, I learnt them from another guy, who never claimed he was special other

Stranger: Fallacies are a common part of arguments

You: Yes? So?

Stranger: So don't act like an asshole (Really? This coming from a self-proclaimed asshole)

Stranger: And be all rude

Stranger: Jerk

You: Nah. I don't need your tone policing.

You: What with you misnaming me and refusing to acknowledge my own experiences and expertise

Stranger: I never misnamed you Iron

Stranger: And I did acknowledge them

Stranger: I waved them as they flew past me

Stranger: Before flipping them off

You: Yeah... which is kind of what I'm doing with you.

Stranger: And preceding to be a complete cunt

Stranger: Because you seemed upset

Stranger: and it's funny

You: Are you going to do something interesting?

Stranger: lol im funny (Not really at all)

You: Or shall I go back to surfing tumblr?

Stranger: Are you fat?

You: Still boring and predictable

Stranger: Cool

Stranger: Are you fat though?

Stranger: like seriously

You: Noot noot

Stranger: No, you're Steel, not Pingu

You: Actually, I'm rattata

Stranger: I don't recall if Noot noot meant yes or no

Stranger: Sorry I don't watch Pokemon

You: Then how did you know rattata was a pokemon?

Stranger: ...I didn't

You: You mean it's not because it's possible to pick up random knowledge of something without being a fan of it? Amazing!

Stranger: Look Gold, let's lay down the facts, push away the bullshit, and get straight to the point

Stranger: I'm a guy

Stranger: You're a something

You: Yes, I'm a non-binary

Stranger: I have university work due at 6pm

Stranger: I really need to beat off

You: No one cares

Stranger: You're not helping

Stranger: This isn't working

You: Oh, that's really just too bad

Stranger: I need to go prey on some slutty tumblr girl or guy (EW)

Stranger: Do you understand?

You: Because I'm totally forcing you to stay on here

Stranger: You copy?

You: You could leave at any time

Stranger: I enjoyed talking to you

Stranger: You're a really interesting person Silver

You: Yeah, whatever

Stranger: I've never met a non-binary asexual person before

Stranger: Thank you for being my first

Stranger: It was a really pleasant experience

Stranger: I hope you know that if we ever meet on here again, i'm not going to tell you who I am

Stranger: Because I never told you my name

Stranger: So for all you know, the next person you talk to could be me

You: I'm sure it'll be obvious, what with you being an offensive jackass

Stranger: Not at all

You: Who is obsessed with his own dick

Stranger: >His

Stranger: >Implying

You: You said you were a guy

Stranger: I'm a guy sexually

Stranger: Not genderly (Because people totally state their sex instead of their gender...)

You: You said you were a guy

Stranger: Trivial facts now Silver

Stranger: Also, you're most likely not going to know it's me

Stranger: I'm an expert manipulator

Stranger: and a huge cunt

Stranger: You'll never know...

You: Because there are lots of assholes obsessed with their own dicks on Omegle

Stranger: Never...never...never...never...

Stranger: I love you

Stranger: Oh

Stranger: Wanna link me your tumblr?

You: I just call them all Dan

You: Hell no

Stranger: ...No

Stranger: no

Stranger: Dan

Stranger: Pls

Stranger: NO AHHHHHHHHHHH

Stranger has disconnected.

(In case you haven't been on Omegle, a bunch of people from 4chan were coming on the Tumblr tag and all pretending to be 'Dan', and obviously being really annoying)

[me-ryder]

gender/transition/coming out stuff under the cut also trans*phobia

So things were moving along in terms of my transition

Like three days a week I go by alex in my classes because I told a couple of my profs. So lately I've been thinking, I should just do it, I should just tell everyone, who the fuck cares

but then I was scrolling through one of my best friend's blogs tonight and it turns out he doesn't think non-binary gender identities exist

And one person shouldn't make such a big difference but I thought he'd be one of the easy ones to come out to

I don't even know if I'll ever tell him now