#non-binary genders

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Nonneu Pride Flag

Noneu/nonneu (or neunec): someone who is not neutrois at all in any way, shape, or form, but feels a strong connection to neutrality within their gender.

It's the neutral equivalent of nonvir and nonera.

[pistanthrophobicnocue]

Any other genderfluid people have that one gender feel where like.... It's not male, it's not female, it's not agender or something because it's definitely a gender, and it's definitely not bi/pangender because it's its own separate singular gender? Or is that just me? Because honestly I'm very comfy in my genderfluid/fluidflux identity but i am very curious to know if anyone has a similar experience. And if there's a name for it, because if not there should be.

[asynca]

Hi, I wanted to ask about how nonbinary people can identify as lesbians? I mean no disrespect and just wish to understand because, as far as I am aware, the term 'lesbian' is used to describe a female and yet someone who is nonbinary is not a woman. Is 'lesbian' being used as an umbrella term? Again, I have nothing against anyone who identifies as such, I'm just a confused and ignorant cis lesbian in need of educating.

The model I’m using assumes the people the person is attracted to also are woman or have a relationship with the femme gender range.

Basically: identity words are imperfect. Often people think of identity as a slider like this: 

And identities as a fixed point on this slider, ie: 

however, this slider is useful to show more complex genders such as non-binary genders, as well. For example: 

Someone who may feel constantly a bigger range of gender than just ‘woman’, but their gender includes ‘woman’

Someone who’s gender changes over time, moving between ‘woman’ and non-woman gender ranges. 

SO. Consider a gender range like this: 

Can this person be a lesbian? It seems like they partially feel like a woman. They certainly have some relationship with the femme gender range. So, where does a relationship with ‘woman’ as identity end? At what point do we say ‘no, you can no longer call yourself a lesbian?’ It’s a really hard question, because as you can see there is someone there who is having the oppression and experience of a woman some of the time, and for whom ‘lesbian’ would be a correct word. 

What about this?

Someone who feels either like a man, like a woman, or like both? 

Can they call themselves a lesbian? What if they feel like a woman 95% of the time, and a man 5% of the time? At what point is there a ‘cut off’, where they are no longer able to use ‘lesbian’? Are they only able to use lesbian when they feel like a woman? 

As I pointed out, these are tough questions and a lot of the time they can really only be answered by the person who’s self-identifying. 

It’s because gender is complex and lots of gender identities are very ‘grey areas’ or overlapping that my stance is that yes non-binary folks can use ‘lesbian’ if they have a relationship with ‘woman’ or the femme non-binary area strong enough for themselves to feel like lesbian describes them :3

[thegynocrat-blog]

https://twitter.com/TheGynocrat/status/927201610362535937

[gettin-bi-bi-bi]

this is probably a very stupid question, but i dont know where else to ask it. for contaxt, i'm cis. so, gay tends to mean mlm (and sometimes wlw), and lesbian means wlw. what do nonbinary people who are only attracted to one gender use? is that one of the reasons people started using mlm and wlw, as well as because of us bi/pan people? i should also say as a bi/pan person the idea of not being attracted to someone because of their gender is a weird concept to me anyway

me again. also, i guess the term straight excludes nb people too? like, i just want the world, include our terminology, to be inclusive of nb people

Note: I am also cis and I do not want to speak over non-binary people and I don’t claim to be completely educated on that matter... so if anyone who sees this is nb and knows better then please let me know in the comments or send a message!

To clear a couple of things up first: mlm and wlw were created to unite the gay/lesbian and bisexual communities. Gay men and bi men have a lot of things in common and so do lesbians and bi women - thus the terms mlm/wlw to celebrate our common experience and also to support each other. ”Sapphic” is another term for wlw, I don’t know if there’s an equivalent for mlm.

If we’re being strict then monosexualities (straight and gay) would exclude nb people but the thing is: just by looking at someone you cannot always tell a person’s gender. Some nb people present like one of the binary genders. So if a straight women were to find herself attracted to someone she thinks is a man that person may just as well be a masc-aligned nb person or an nb person who is closeted and cannot present themselves in the way they wish to. I would hope that any decent monosexual person who finds themselves falling for a non-binary person would educate themselves on non-binary genders and non-straight sexualities. I think that’s the least one can do to be accepting and supportive of the person they claim to love.

I think that nb people who are fem- or masc-aligned and only attracted to one gender or people presenting as that one gender would ‘’’’maybe’’’’ use terms like gay or straight. But I see how this will probably lead to confusion. I think that’s why a lot of nb people use “queer” because the whole concept of gender and labeling one’s sexuality based on gender can become difficult.

[insert elaborate argument for the use of the word “queer” as the most inclusive term for all non-straight sexualities as well as non-cis genders and any intersections between those!]

Tbh... I don’t know if I can give you a more solid answer so I will tag this accordingly and hope that there are some non-binary people willing to shed some light. Maybe there’s also some advice from nb people on how monosexual people can be more inclusive.

Maddie

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

Proof There Are More Than Two Genders – Riley J. Dennis Once again Riley puts out an excellent video! Riley is one of my favorite YouTubers and this is one of the best.

[goingrampant]

Sex isn’t chromosomes: the story of a century of misconceptions about X & Y

The influence of the XX/XY model of chromosomal sex has been profound over the last century, but it’s founded on faulty premises and responsible for encouraging reductive, essentialist thinking. While the scientific world has moved on, its popular appeal remains.

The science side of deconstructing the gender binary.

[nonbinary-nature-lover-jeri]

Mx./Honorifics ❤ Leigh Leigh discuses the use of Mx. As an honorific or prefix to replace Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Ms.