#non-monogamous

[the-graphics-ace]

polyamorous asexual stamps for a friend | f2u

[gnomecity]

I want monogamous people to understand that the thought of being in a monogamous relationship feels unnatural and upsetting to me, in the same way that the thought of being in a non-monogamous relationship might feel unnatural and upsetting to them.

If you are strictly monogamous, and your partner kissed someone else, that would be cheating. Of course the idea of that upsets you, it would be a breach of your trust.

If my partner forbade me from experimenting with other people, I would feel upset. To me, that is someone else having control over my life in a way that I am uncomfortable with.

My relationship works because we communicated our boundaries. My boundaries might look completely different from your boundaries. My boundaries might even look completely different from someone in a poly relationship. That’s fine. I am not you and you are not me.

[anodyneocean]

So, I love the concept of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord Tool, but my brain has a hard time navigating the layout of the official version, and it contained a lot of things that weren’t relevant to my close intimate relationships.  I ended up creating this simplified version to specifically suit my own needs. Some people in my FB groups have greatly appreciated the easy-to-read boxes, so I figured I’d offer it here too!  (I included a filled out version for anyone wondering how to use it.)  Also, remember, this is good for ALL types of relationships, you don’t to be a relationship anarchist to benefit from this kind of transparency! 

[walkawayinsin]

Dear monogamous people

Before you start dating a non-monogamous consider this: We're not your go-to when you're single. We're not into casual automatically. It's not always about the sex - doesn't even have to involve sex overall. It's about connecting. It's about love. It's about the freedom to love.

Being interested isn't enough. You need to understand your own responsibility when you're dating someone who isn't monogamous.

Dating with the purpose to convert someone from non-monogamy to monogamy is as bad as if we were forcing non-monogamy on you guys.

Be clear about your intentions, your boundaries, your view on the relationship. Communication is the key.

If you've had bad experience with non-monogamy reconsider how much it affects you in the present situation. Are you truly desiring to try out non-monogamy again (knowing the situation might be different) or are you just purely ignorant about it at the moment because you're on cloud nine? Falling in love with someone doesn't equal you're practically going to work as a couple. Just because they are poly it doesn't mean that they're okay with simply cuddling and sex.

Don't date or even be involved with non-monogamous if you can't handle their choice of relationship-lifestyle. We deserve commitment, respect and honesty as much as monogamous counterparts.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Political Non-Monogamy Pride Flag

Political nonmonogamy - PNM (in Portuguese: não monogamia política - NMP): the articulation of an anti-monogamism (or anti-monogamy) linked to the construction of a life project and sociopolitical identity guided by a collective and emancipatory thought of non-monogamy.

This concept is similar to relationship anarchy (RA), but not to be confused with ethical non-monogamy (ENM).

[neptunecookies]

about me!

i'm a minor

i'm a transmasc demiboy

I'm bisexual and aromantic. mostly experience alterous attraction. might be ace. also non-monogamous (probably, idk). i'm still figuring shit out

i hypefocus on things and people

i love mental health and learning more abt it

i love frogs and fungi

i hate injustice

i hate people who are mean for no reason

that's all for now! my dm's are open, and so is my friend folder!

[polyplaydate]

Im back!

Sorry for the brief hiatus. I had two breakups, well, the pandemic, and a lot of personal work to get done. You all are my one big family! Can't wait to post and share more with you all.