We Don't Like Your Kind of Normal

A little bit left of center. I could be described as quirky. I post metal stuff, art stuff, fur stuff, creepy stuff, gaming stuff, science stuff, geeky stuff, alternative stuff, sexy stuff, and random stuff. If you don't like it, piss off. The name's Raven, age is relative.

[beemovieerotica]

people are clowning on this guy on reddit but uhhh let's pause for a minute and ask...so what happens if someone has a skin condition? what if part of their face has been burned? what if they're missing their eyes? and so what if they just have a fuckton of tattoos? recognition algorithms are aligned with the most ""average"" / ""normal"" features which means any deviation gets denied access to shit we didnt need age verification for 1 year ago. i dont care if it's a choice versus not, dont care if it's accessing porn or wikipedia, this needs to stop

[anodyneocean]

So, I love the concept of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord Tool, but my brain has a hard time navigating the layout of the official version, and it contained a lot of things that weren’t relevant to my close intimate relationships.  I ended up creating this simplified version to specifically suit my own needs. Some people in my FB groups have greatly appreciated the easy-to-read boxes, so I figured I’d offer it here too!  (I included a filled out version for anyone wondering how to use it.)  Also, remember, this is good for ALL types of relationships, you don’t to be a relationship anarchist to benefit from this kind of transparency! 

[anodyneocean]

Reblogging cause it brings me so much joy that other people have found this to be useful, helpful, and easier to understand than many other smorgasbord charts floating around in the aether. Remember, this is just how I plotted out my relationship with my boyfriend, you can add, remove, or customize anything on here as you see fit!

[d-inoxia-aa]

so i wanted to make my own post that's based off of this post (link to my archived blog) this post was another one of those, "What should you put in your Grimoire" type of deals.

I want to make my own bc i've used this list and added to it. @the-owl-guy wrote the first post so go give them some love if you happen to see this post, as this is based off the post they wrote and still contains some items from the original post. (hope you dont mind the tag!! Just wanting to give credit!)

One thing I will start off with, if you're going to make a grimoire or book of shadows, I would recommend 1000% to put it in a binder or in a journal where the pages can be removed, rearranged, and placed in an order how you like them. This way also if you mess up on a page, you can just remove it without having to razor cut a page out of a bound journal. they make really pretty a5 journals with binders in them and refillable pages. (mine is a royal purple with gold embezzlement to make it look like a fancy book)

So this is how i'm laying out my BOS.

Basics:

About You: What is your path/tradition? What do you believe? How did you get started? What keeps you on this path? What is your magic name?

About You: Who are your deities and who will you serve or not serve?

The Rede (if you follow that)

The Three-fold law (if you follow that)

Wheel of the year

Sabbats/Why we celebrate them

Esbats/Why we celebrate them

Lunar Cycle/Sun Cycle

The Four Elements + Spirit

The Four Cardinal Directions

Witch’s tool kit (Ritual tools)

Altars/How to set up an altar

Consecration

Correspondences:

Crystals you have/want 

Herbs (check your spice cabinet)

Poisons

Herbal incense

Other things you can use in magic that you already have (garlic salt, eggshells, cords, etc.)

Numerology 

Colors/candle colors 

Days of the week

Bones/Teeth/Claws (if you'll be working with those things) 

Other "Dead" things like snail shells and sea shells. (if you'll be working with those things)

Other witchcraft stuff:

Sigils/How to make them

Planets/What do they mean/Planet Symbols 

Zodiac signs/what do they mean/Zodiac Symbols

Astrology Basics

Natal Chart

Symbolism (animals, shapes, and whatever else you wish to add)

What is a hand-fasting ceremony?

“Smudging” and why you can't do it if you're white

Closed Practices to be aware of

Circle Casting/What Direction to draw the circle/What the Four Elements + Spirit represent in a circle.

What Candle Flames Mean

Angels (if you'll be working with them)

The fae (if you'll be working with them-- also just a good idea to know of the fae.)

Other creatures of importance

The different types of religions: Asatru, Druids, Paganism, Wicca, etc.

The Difference between Baneful and Baleful 

Altered States of Consciousness (alcohol/drugs and the effects they have on magic)

Deosil and Widdershins

Spells:

What NOT to do

Different types of spells/How they work/What makes a spell work?

How can you use the moon/sun cycles in magic.

How to use the Four Elements + Spirit in your spells

How do the lunar phases/planets/alignment/days of the week/day/night effect our spellwork?

Jar spells and how to make sure they dont mold (unless you want them too)

Hexing/cursing/Binding (if you're into that) and how to undo it.

What to do if you've been cursed

How to stop a ritual if things get Too Real.

Poppets

Taglocks

Intention

Divination:

A section on tarot cards and their meanings

How to use a pendulum

The ideometer effect and how it's bullshit

Meanings of oracle cards

Rune meanings and how to cast them

Throwing the bones (if you'll be working with bones)

Divining Rods

Ogham Staves (typically celtic in nature)

Scrying

Cartomancy (reading playing cards)

Astragalomancy (reading dice)

Ouija Board

Mental health:

Grounding and centering during/after a ritual

Burn out care

A list of what motivates you to do your craft

Small spells for self care/motivation/creativity

Glamour

Astral work:

Your astral space (a map, a description, drawings of important locations)

Your astral body, if it's any different than your physical one

A list of spirits and important information about them

Protection, shielding, banishing, wards, and safety

Manners when interacting with spirits/How NOT to interact with spirits

Methods of projection/travel that work for you

Post-astral grounding methods

General spirit work:

How to interact with spirits and how NOT to interact with spirits (similar to the Astral work section, learn how to be polite to spirits)

Protection, banishing, shielding, wards, and other safety things

How to give offerings (there's more than one way!)

Types of offerings for specific deities/spirits

Methods of communicating with spirits you have found

Signs of spirits

Ways spirits can send signs and messages (animals, dreams, and so on)

A list of different kinds of spirits you work with/have encountered

A section for research, especially if you're doing deity work.

Grounding, if it helps you afterwards

A log of interaction with spirits. This can be like a divination journal but with spirits, if that's what you do.

Etiquette at a cemetery

Cemetery dirt, grave dust, and its uses

Spirit Guides

[apiswitchcraft]

cord cutting ritual

materials:

two candles (choose colors that represent the two people involved)

candle holders or something to collect the wax

twine

essential oil(s)

herbs

steps:

choose oils and herbs that feel right to you, they could represent the person, or the issue at hand

carve the names of your two people onto the candles

tie twine around both candles

coat the candles in oil(s) and herbs

light both candles and wait until them and the twine burns down

[effemimaniac]

hits the bong and immediately becomes aware of the narrative

[effemimaniac]

hits the bong again and looks directly at the camera knowingly

[diana-thyme]

Travel Altars: Nyx

A guide to travel altars for Nyx. Please tell me if you want a certain deity covered!

In this guide, I’m assuming you’ve added a tea-light or LED candle. It isn’t necessary, but it’s not going to be included in any of these guides. I’m also going to be assuming you’ve added a photo of the deity and prayers. These guides will not include those, either.

Moon Keychains, Pins, Stickers, Etc.

Star Keychains, Pins, Stickers, Etc.

Silver Jewelry

Galaxy/Space Themed Items

Bat Figurines

Amethyst

Cat Figurines

Mini Telescope/Telescope Figurine

Pine Needles

Resin

Flowers That Bloom At Night (Evening Primrose, Moonflower, Etc.)

Black Lace

Paper Stars

See more deities here.

[anodyneocean]

This resonates so hard with me ♥

[anodyneocean]

So, I love the concept of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord Tool, but my brain has a hard time navigating the layout of the official version, and it contained a lot of things that weren’t relevant to my close intimate relationships.  I ended up creating this simplified version to specifically suit my own needs. Some people in my FB groups have greatly appreciated the easy-to-read boxes, so I figured I’d offer it here too!  (I included a filled out version for anyone wondering how to use it.)  Also, remember, this is good for ALL types of relationships, you don’t to be a relationship anarchist to benefit from this kind of transparency! 

[spacelazarwolf]

something i do love about the gay community that i never really got when i was in sapphic spaces is that like. gay guys just like really fucking love men. when you’re in a gay male space, you will very rarely hear them even mention women. pretty much everything is about other men. but when i was in sapphic spaces back before i came out, there was so much constant focus on men and not liking men and not wanting men near us and if that bi girl mentions that she has a boyfriend then she’s ruining the sanctity of this manless space (where we just happen to talk about men like 40% of the time) and did i mention we hate men. and it honestly makes me really sad. one of the reasons i initially started backing away from sapphic spaces online was because we like???? very rarely ever actually focused on liking women???? i’m still unsure if i’m attracted to women, but i was even more confused before i came out because we talked more about not liking men than what it felt like to like women. and it just makes me worry for young sapphics who are trying to figure out how they feel and all they’re told is how not to feel. idk this is kind of a ramble but i’ve just been thinking abt this a lot lately.

[spacelazarwolf]

this really struck me, especially the part about sapphic spaces being more open to straight women who hate men than bi women who don’t hate men bc so many of the current issues within the sapphic community can be traced back to lesbian separatism and political lesbianism, which were movements that were heavily supported by cis straight women whose only priority was getting away from men, not finding spaces where it was safe to love women. so it makes a lot of sense that the sapphic spaces that still cater to this rhetoric would end up being more friendly to cis straight ra/df/em types than queer women who oppose that ideology.

[genderkoolaid]

This is part of why I feel more dissociated from being a woman/lesbian than being a gay man. I feel like I'm seen as less of a threat as a gay man who's a woman than a lesbian who's a man. Because in gay spaces, like you said, it's about loving men as a man. But the overwhelming amount of "don't men SUCK" in sapphic spaces is so extremely alienating. In gay spaces I feel like I can be a gay man without being obligated to hate women or disconnect from womanhood. But a lot of lesbian spaces are constantly telling me I can't be a lesbian unless I hate men & disconnect from manhood.

People say this shit like they're protecting lesbians but all of this was literally forged by straight women who decided to make lesbianism a political act of rejecting men instead of a celebration of sapphic attraction.

[roguesareth]

These tags. Same same same.

[anodyneocean]

Holy fucking same 

[anodyneocean]

With Nyx often overseeing the domain of divination, especially dream work, I decided to fall asleep while meditating on Friday night and asked Nyx for a dream.  I wasn’t expecting anything intensely prophetic, I was hoping for even the smallest acknowledgement that I was heard.  I did end up having a dream that I remembered. I’d walked into my kitchen and looked out the window to see snow covering the trees. When I awoke, there wasn’t any snow outside, but I did have a text from my boyfriend (who lives an hour away) telling me it was snowing at his place.  I’d recently left an offering of black feathers, a black whisker, and moonstone shards in a dish of moon water. I feel it was well received, and I’ve never been more aligned with my spirituality. This has been an interesting and exciting start to a new chapter. 

[anodyneocean]

Currently in the middle of a painting of Nyx. Kind of wanting to turn it into a print once it’s done. By far going to be my best physical painting I’ve ever made. 

[acelessthan3]

Posting faggot and queer like 2am gunshots to keep property values on my blog low and scare away assimilationist LGBTs who want to replace my empty lot full of native wildflowers with a 5-over-1 because they're too traumatized by their upbringing to accept the reality of our diverse marginalized community

[acelessthan3]

The dykes and trannies in the notes have informed me they would like to be included in this commentary on the homogenizing forces of gentrification within the queer community as represented by language discourse around "slur" reclamation

[anodyneocean]

Proudly queer! 

[anodyneocean]

Nyx, Goddess of Night

Nyx, Goddess of Night · Playlist · 46 songs

I often get signs through music, and build a lot of my worship around it (hence why I gravitated to Amdusias initially) Not to be a hater, but while I was combing through other people’s Nyx tribute playlists, the overwhelming majority that I’ve found are filled with soft gentle things like lo-fi and mumble rap. All the power to you if that’s your kind of thing, but... Goddess of Night, first child of Chaos? That does not feel like the vibe to me.  This is the playlist that I’ve thrown together and continue to update as I find things that belong. This blend is all over the place, mostly focused on alternative music (Metal/Rock/EBM), but also has some unexpected additions that screamed out to be included.

[anodyneocean]

New Paths

Wow, so I haven’t been around for a while. I’m not really sure where to start, so I guess a proper introduction is in order?  My name’s Raven, I’m a 2-spirit Canadian. I consider myself an amalgam of chaos witch, kitchen witch, hedge witch, and hearth witch.  My patrons are Nyx and Amdusias. Why am I telling you this? Well, I had a calling of sorts. I fell out of practicing for a very long time and decided to reach out into the void to apologize to whatever spirits are out there for my absence, and I was given the loudest, clearest answer I’ve ever received.  I felt Nyx reach out to me for the first time, but it took me a few days to realize it. Since making sense of my experience, I tried to find online sources of information to build my repertoire again, but unfortunately, I don’t seem to align with anything out there right now!  I don’t know how active I’m going to be on here, but at the very least, I’d like to share some of my experiences and practices in hopes that other people out there who feel they don’t align with mainstream magick might be able to connect. 

[cthonic-cha0s]

To be a Nyx devotee is to look up at the night sky and know just how much power you hold. Don’t let other people treat you like shit because they are afraid of the dark

[rheanna-starfall]

My poem "Nyx"

[the-witchs-den]

Hi, can you please suggest some offerings for Lady Nyx, as I can rarely find any info..

Hi hello! Here’s a list of my personal offerings, what I feel that she likes, etc. You’re right, it’s hard to find info about offerings and other info when it comes to the primordial deities!

7 Moons wine (ever since i saw it, she’s been telling me that she wants it. I finally got some, and she loves it!) {21+ offering}

Moonstones

Black candles

Galaxy/Celestial/Moon print items

Star candy

Coins (this is a universal offering!)

Moon water

Obsidian

Hematite

Celestial jewelry

these are all i can think of at the moment! I hope it helps!

[wanderinghearth]

everyone who doesn't work with demons: do NOT work with demons!!!! It is VERY DANGEROUS!!! They are evil! They will ruin your life and take your soul!

everyone who does work with demons: do NOT work with demons!!! They have very intense DO YOU HAVE GAMES ON YOUR PHONE energy. They are horny twerps. You will not get a moments peice without them asking you for some god awful and ridiculous offering.

[anodyneocean]

TRUE