#nonacceptance

[divyamanah]

non-acceptance

एक सुनहरा  आकाश   जो  पाल  रहा  है  अपनी ही  कोख  में   काले  गहरे  धुंए  को उसका  पोषण  करता  है   लाड  करता  है  दुलार  करता  है   अपनी  थाती  से  लगाए   अपने  रक्त  बूंदों  से  सेजता  रहता  है   जानता  है  की  यही  काला  धुंआ एक  दिन  ग्रहण  बनकर   उसके  जीवन  रुपी   चन्द्रमा निगल  जायेगा एक  सुनहरा  आकाश   पाल  रहा  है  अपनी  कोख  में  काले  धुएं  को --- दिव्मना

[thepworduniverse]

Even Though

You say that you don't love me,

Even though my well being matters to you.

You say u don't miss me,

Even though ur face lits up with the sight of me.

You say you never had feelings for me,

Even though u love doing things together as we.

You say you never think about me,

Even though what matters the most is not hurting me.

You say only friendship is what you see in me,

Even though u cherish when love is expressed by me.

You say that it doesn't matter if any other guy approaches me,

But the possesive you is what I always see.

You may be completely correct about me,

But somehow U show that I matter the most to thee.

So why don't you accept the fact that you love me,

As being together is what World would Love to see.

[come-back-to-me-and-take-me-away]

Talvolta è più offensivo essere apprezzati per i motivi sbagliati che essere disprezzati per quelli giusti.

[panopticview]

Coming outs meet nonacceptance

I'm crying so hard right now. Nonacceptance, disappointment, differing of opinions... never will my mom accept the lifestyle that I did not choose.

WHY THE FUCK WOULD I CHOOSE TO BE GAY. Would it possibly make life easier? NO. My mom made it seem like coming out to her was a luxury. You know how people say driving is a privilege? WELL then coming out to her should be, she should be happy that I had to courage to come out to her. She should be happy and supportive and understand where I'm coming from, not a bigot. 

And of course, I understand where she's coming from, she just doesn't understand where I'm coming from. After these many years after I have suspected that I was gay, not one day passes without me thinking that I should tell my parents. For five years, I didn't tell them until I came out to my dad, and since then, not a day passes where I don't think I should tell my mom. I didn't know what to expect, but I certainly did not expect this. Why didn't I expect something similar to go down? Well I didn't want to explore this possibility. 

I started my day abnormal, for I woke up at 8:30 so I could change my sleeping habits for college. I woke up, brushed my teeth and then went down to eat breakfast. Things seemed pretty normal, I ate my smoked salmon bagel with cream cheese and my mom wasn't acting particularly weird. It wasn't until I finished breakfast that my mom started to ask me what she should do to be a better mom, she asked me many questions that I didn't even know how to answer. She asked me if there were any problems that need to be discussed, how she should change and how she should deal with me. She asked whether she should not care about me or be strict with me (odd she never offers a middle ground). I didn't respond since it was clearly the middle ground I was looking for. 

Then, she finally broke the question and asked, "do you still like guys?" Now to think about it, that's such an odd question to ask because it's as if my opinion of guys changed overnight or something (I guess she still doesn't understand huh). I said, yeah, I do. THE WHOLE THING WENT INTO A BLUR as my heart crashed to the ground as she gave me a long speech about her NONACCEPTANCE. At that point, I was completely devastated and I cried so hard because nothing's worse than not being accepted. Sure, if friends don't accept, you can always find new ones. This time, it's my parents and I can't change that. I can't change my parents, I can't change who I am. What was particularly ridiculous was that my mom kept saying that my lifestyle is a problem and that it's an issue that has to be solved. I kept telling her that it wasn't a choice and that I didn't have say in terms of which gender I'm attracted towards. She started blaming it on herself and the genes that she passed on to me since she thought that if it wasn't a choice, it must be genetic and it's mom and dad's problem. She kept asking me if me being gay relates to the relationship issue she and my dad were having, or was it society pressuring me to choose differently... I really didn't know how to respond. She has to understand that it just happens, I even wanted to be like, WHEN DID YOU FUCKING CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT. I continued by saying how my friends support me and all I look for are the support from my parents, and that's undoubtedly the most important part of my well being. I told them that in order to be close to family, I have to have the support I'm looking for otherwise I would have to resort to friends. Mom told me how I have so many people to talk to, yet she has no one to discuss issues with and suddenly it became my fault again. I told her I waited so many years to tell her this, and all I get is nonacceptance. She makes it seem like as if I made this decision to be gay like one day when I woke up and then it stuck. IT'S BEEN ALMOST SEVEN YEARS since I discovered. No, it's not going to fucking change.

Heterosexual relationships and homosexual relationship are the same, the same love and the same commitment. Then she brought up carrying on my family name and having children for her, so I told her that I also wanted a wife and children which made her be silent for around ten seconds before she started talking again. I don't know what hit her, but she said that wasn't the issue and that she'll have to accept me no matter what. When she says that, that means she'll never accept me. That means she'll forever be opposed to it but will forever pretend to accept something I can't change. She kept making a big deal about having to like what I like, and that if I "like" being gay, then she would have to learn to like it too. SHE JUST DOESN'T UNDERSTAND ME. I personally don't even like the idea of being gay, it's a path that complicates my life and I wish this never happened to me. But it's not like it was an event that changed me, it has always been me. 

My mom will never successfully learn to accept me. She will never love me the same.

In her eyes, I will always be the disappointment.

So after sitting in silence for around five minutes, I finally went up to my room and cried my eyes out for twenty second until I snapped to my senses and told myself, NO, I AM NOT THE ISSUE. Society is. It is not me that has to change, they have to change. 

I don't know what I want to do now. What is the right path to take? Am I looking for my mom's acceptance or do I have to accept the fact that my mom will never be even okay with the idea, let alone ever accept it. 

As Ralph Waldo Emerson would say, 

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I ---

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

But is the difference worth it? I didn't choose this road, the road literally chose me. 

In the end, my world is broken. The fact is that, my mom loves me less now. 

And now, I love myself a little less as well.

[english-tibetan-dictionary]

nonacceptance

len med - nonacceptance (of extremes) [RB]

[theyearsofsolitude]

Nonacceptance

Recently my father discovered my sexual tendencies, that for those who haven't realized yet, I'm mostly into boys. He doesn't understand me and he's struggling with it, but I knew he would react this way. I just wish he could see the world as I see it... I wish everyone  could. There's actually no different sex, race, sexual orientation, religion, I mean, of course there are different types. My point is, We are all human, and we should focus more on our similarities rather than on our differences. And if we focus on our differences, we should enjoy diversity.  We are one, or at least, we should be one. One kind, one type, and that is HUMAN KIND.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Parental Acceptance a Top Concern for LGBT Teens (in other news: sky, blue)

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender teens are fielding negative messages about their sexuality from places most consider as safe havens, according to a survey of more than 10,000 LGBT youth ages 13 to 17.

Ninety-two percent of LGBT teens surveyed confront hostility toward homosexuals—and schools, religious leaders, and elected officials are often the ones sending the messages, states a report released last week by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), a nonprofit that advocates for LGBT rights.

Compared with their peers, LGBT teens are also more likely to report feeling isolated and unhappy, experience verbal or physical harassment, and try drugs or alcohol.

These findings should be a wake-up call for parents, writes Benjamin Siegel from the American Academy of Pediatrics. "This survey is a call to action for parents and all adults who care for children and youth," he writes in a statement on HRC's website. "We each have a role to play so that LGBT youth, in our communities and in our families, have the support they need to thrive and succeed."

Giving this support means letting teens know you accept them regardless of their sexuality, says Michael Cole-Schwartz, communications director for the Human Rights Campaign.

"Half of these gay teens say there's not a single adult that they can turn to if they feel worried or sad. Not even about their identity, but just in general," he says. "That points to the fact that these kids feel alone and alienated, and they need someone to reach out to them and let them know that there's a sympathetic ear."

Read the rest here.