#nonstop talking

[lifeonthestrugglebus]

Mans oh man, discovering that most of your “problem” behaviors that your felt incredibly guilty for as a child were actually the result of sensory issues is a wild ride.

[thehoh-society]

Pretend you've got a four year old constantly asking you to stop and look at something they've got in their hand. You know they don't mean any harm, but after a while it gets annoying and tiresome to have to continually stop and turn around and figure out what the child wants. That is how I feel when hearing people talk to me, and around me, constantly, without making sure they have my attention first.

[pond-in-wonderland]

I do this weird thing where I think that by loving someone, that means I have to talk to them every chance I get. Then I wonder why they shut down and don't want to talk to me anymore.

[laughteristheshortestdistance]

Making New Friends: SUCCESS!

Me: +1 friend

Man, it's been so long since I've made a new one that feels more significant than a touch and go kind of friendship. On the way to Erica's, her friend told her she couldn't make it so it would just be the two of us and her 2 sisters (who weren't really interested in me anywho xD; ahaha).

BUT it was really great guys... I'd forgotten how nice it feels to go into a friendship without expectations. And everything feels so new and exciting :) The conversation flowed so easily and we were laughing and I felt so at ease. I was telling her stories that many people I'd known for much longer time didn't know. Time flew by so fast that we were shocked to discover it was already midnight and that's when we decided to call it a night. Seriously, from the minute I got into her car, we did not stop talking haha. not that friendship is based on how much you talk but we were both excited to learn about each other and share about ourselves and we kept building off of each other so it never ended :D wooooohooo~

I can't believe how painless and ... awesome my time was :] I have renewed hope for new friendships to come!

I know it's still very early in our friendship but I feel like yesterday was worth celebrating!

[waynesoller]

In the best of communication, there is a kind of give and take between talking and listening, a sharing of who is the speaker and who is the listener based on mutual respect and caring about each other’s feelings. Some people who talk a lot are not able to engage in this interactive rhythm, not because they do not care, but because they cannot tolerate the emotions that might emerge as they listen to another person. In fact... I have found that many non-stop talkers actually use their words to stop themselves from knowing what they are feeling.

Some people talk about themselves because they genuinely think they’re more interesting than anyone else they know. But many people... are overwhelmed by their own feelings and push them away by talking. Both of these kinds of talking are the opposite of the kind of story-telling exchange... that bring us closer to other people. And both of these kinds of talking make it hard for a person to learn to manage his or her feelings in another way.

So what can you do if you’re troubled by a co-worker, friend or loved one who talks too much? Here are five simple suggestions that might help.