What's the lowest category of an insult/disrespect to someone (pov of a student)? ⚠️
⚠ !I will state this is my opinion, not anyone else's opinion before stating anything! ⚠
I started to wonder how it would feel at different levels of an insult. To start off, I'm considering an insult and disrespect as two different things. My use of insult here will be some said meant to hurt the person right now and there, but disrespect is a bit subtler, long term, and dig into an open wound basically.
In order
Past (or current) issues/traumas
Family
Religion
friends
My person
Hobbies
clothing
grades
The pattern in my thinking is that the more personal it is the more sensitive it is to point an insult or disrespect towards.
Starting with number one, I can both speak from personal experience and being a supportive friend (those who know me irl I am not one to spill these type of details) that digging at these are the one-way ticket to be excluded from everything involving me. If it was my friend in the situation, I'm doing the same for you, because supporting the person is more important than whatever the person who's being the prick ever was.
Second, I'm really in between on if I want to put family that high because I do mock my family with my friends, but that's because I'm that type of person. If it's using a mock I brought up like some argument 2 people from my family got into sure it's a pass, but if it's an unwarranted comment that clearly is met to hurt you can see yourself out.
Third, religion is something I personally am not close with as I never saw a point to follow something other than traditions and routine. I still participate where my parents want me to and enjoy the traditions, so I will be disconnecting from the person if they insult that. Religion is higher up than I would have originally put it because my friend, we'll call Cookie (she's not on Tumblr) had her religion insulted by a "friend" she thought was someone who was nicer than she seemed.
Fourth, I don't know how to explain this one because I really can make friends and "enemies" quickly (I think I'm an ambivert idk at this point). Most of the people I am around I wouldn't mind or care if someone is digging on me for being acquainted with them (a specific trumpet in section, cough cough Will cough cough. sorry don't know what possessed me for a moment). If it is someone I've known for a while and care about (like I've actively shared my interests with them, it means I like you, Chancy and Syd are both here :3 <3) I would very much offended that the person is insulting me for being friends with lovely people who have done nothing wrong to them.
Firth (it looks spelt wrong), my personality I mean I hate myself sometimes too like middle school me needs to be forgotten like I beggth of anyone who knew me back then please forget me and take the new me please. I know I'm insane (according to my brother) and more than a bit blunt, but I know I'm much more likable than some of the pricks in my section. I would be upset, but not as much as my other reasons.
Sixth (this looks right), my hobbies which I'm perfectly fine if it's judged on them (some hobbies are writing, playing and writing music, etc). I wouldn't care if there was a insult to it since it's just an activity. I would start caring if it's something i adore doing such as writing and playing my instrument as my stand point is that if you want to critiaze you must build up then chip it down (equal the good and bad).
Seventh (I look how this looks a lot), clothing I don't think much as to be said. I dress a business casual vibe almost, think a lot of different colored flannels, blue/black jeans, black 3 in heeled boots. The insult is pointless here. I must say if you want to kick me out of something don't say I called someone untraditional when I'm very here dressing like I'm going to a fucking lunch out with coworkers.
Eighth (We've hit an Octave folks), fuck them people who throw shade on you for grades. I'm genuinely so fucking done with one specific person asking me what I got a grade in my first block. I want to strangle him anytime he asks, but any other time it's fine.
That's it! I'm done with my weird analytical type of rant
where she seems to be going. who she’s befriending.
but i also have a twang of jealousy. because she seems to be having so much fun and discovering herself and who she wants to be. and i’m not sure i’m doing that strongly enough.
