#oscars anon

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Advice Asks - March 5

judgement anon (new), aftermath anon (new), oscars anon (new), long rant anon (new), group work anon, cis or trans anon

judgement anon

Hey my friend told me you can ask for advice and talk to people here without any judgement so I thought I would try. I have some questions. I'm really confused at the moment because she/her pronouns don't really feel right for me anymore but neither do he\him I'm not sure if I'm nonbinary either though so do u have any advice as to how to figure out what fits me best ? Any advice is welcome 🫶 thanksssss

Hi!

Honestly I can't tell you if you're nonbinary or not, but if you have some supportive people in your life (your friend, maybe?) could you try experimenting with your gender a bit around them? Maybe ask them to try some different pronouns for you, try dressing in different styles, try different gendered terms, etc. See how it feels! Don't do anything permanent yet, just play around with it! It's okay to figure out what you like and don't like by trying different things out, you know?

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aftermath anon

Hey, would you answer an ask related to .... (deleted the rest of the ask for privacy)

Hi!

Unfortunately I'm not comfortable with that...even if I felt comfortable giving advice about things related to sex, I feel like this particular subject is so nuanced that I wouldn't want to accidentally make things more difficult. I think though, with any relationship issue, communication is key, and if that doesn't help, there's nothing wrong with looking to a professional for advice.

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oscars anon

hello hello! i know my problems aren’t nearly as big as some but could i just rant rq?

im so so so so so genuinely upset that timothee chalamet didn’t win the oscar. i do really think he deserved it. hes worked so so hard for everything. i think he should’ve won the first time for his performance in call me by your name (but he was going against gary oldman who is an insanely talented actor and of course deserved his win) but i do genuinely think that he did so amazing in his new movie and he deserved that oscar and you could just see it on his face how upset he was about it. (i do not know him personally but that’s just how i read people it might’ve just been me)

sorry for the rant i just felt that it was important to me

Don't be sorry! I understand, I was frustrated with some of the results as well. Remember though, award shows can be skewed for a number of reasons. Just because he didn't win doesn't mean he's not amazing.

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long rant anon

this is going to be a long rant.

ive been friends with D since 1st grade and N since 3rd grade. I've been friends with S since 6th grade and G since 8th/end of 7th grade. I've also been friends with this girl P since 1st grade as well. I'm in ninth/tenth grade now (sort of in between we're done with our finals so we're doing tenth grade material) and from 8th grade to the first half of 9th D, N, S, P and I were a friend group but it broke up. Im still friends with all of them I guess (only P i can definitely say I'm SOLID friends with because stuff has happened with the others) but basically P has her friends, D and N and besties and S and G are besties. That's great and all I guess but where am I? P is a social butterfly always fluttering around everywhere and I'm extroverted too but idk. It's like i constantly have to calculate who and how to hangout with S, D and N without losing any of them and that hasn't worked out well. I was ranting to my cousin and she said that I have to stop playing middle man because both sides will resent me for it and that makes sense. If I choose S then I lose D and N. Honestly? I'm not THAT close to D but N is or was atleast (idk where we stand at this point) one of my best friends. And they're a duo so if I lose one I lose both. And if i choose them then i lose S. Im a very non confrontational person and i HATE fighting things out it's just emotionally exhausting for me and S is the same. If we have issues we sort it out without fighting. Which is the stability i need in 10th grade because we have this thing called board exams? they're national level exams and they're really important.

I've thought about choosing a completely different path. what if I just don't choose either. i choose my friend K, Z and R. we're in the same class and they're exactly the stability i need in 10th grade AND being in the same class gives a much bigger advantage. But in that case I lose both sides. If I stray away from S we might just stop speaking and if I stray away from N and D, I'm just scared they won't understand?

Every morning I talk to K, Z and R. D comes into my class expecting me to talk to her. Like sure K, Z, R and i are in the same class and I could talk to them later but I just WANT to talk to them then. It's kind of awkward to have D there as well and i don't know how to get her to stop because I feel bad for semi ignoring her. And we're not that close so idk what to do 😭. and N? maybe we were better friends when we were younger. maybe it just isn't really working out but I don't want to LOSE TOUCH with her? like how can I be her best friend without being her best friend. the best way to explain it would be like a relationship with no labels except it's a friendship? because her "best friend" is already D and my "best friend" is K so it's like we just slap the labels onto eachother without it having significant meaning? like yes I still want life updates i still wanna know what fanfiction she's reading i still wanna know what she's up to. i still CARE about her but how do I explain that in school id rather stay with my class friend group and hang out with her SOMETIMES without feeling compelled to do calculations to hang out with everyone fairly and not hear "omg you never hang out with us why are you hanging out with us now go away" comments from D and N?

Hi!

Honestly, I feel like friends that make you choose between them and other friends aren't great friends. Unless the person they want you tp drop is like....a shit person, and they have proof of that, then that's not fair to you.

You need to do what YOU want. And that doesn't necessarily mean making a clear choice. It means just hanging out with whoever you want when you want, without worrying about how the others will react. Because then you're forcing THEM to choose whether or not their grudges are worth losing you as a friend. And if they decide that it is, they're not worth being friends with anyway.

I know it's hard to focus on what you want, but in this case, I really think it's best <3

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Group work anon

Hi! It's group work anon :)

I just wanted to say thank you!! I spoke to my tutor, and he was really nice and understanding! I've got a new group, he mixed everything around so my grade wouldn't be messed with.

Thank you so much, I don't know that I would have been able to speak up for myself without the advice <33

I'm so glad it worked out! That makes me so happy! If you ever need anything else, you know where to find me!

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cis or trans anon

Hey it's cis or trans anon, I just wanted to say thank you sm<33 that really helped

No problem! If you ever need anything else, let me know!

[jokesonus]

After Louis and Liam adopted Zayn did people start shipping him with the other boys the way they did with Liam and Harry? Were there any articles or tweets or something of fans/the media saying things like "Is Ziam the new Lirry?" "How dare Harry forget about Liam!" and so on? Did the boys get a kick out of it or were they upset that people were saying they were getting replaced/they forget about each other? What about Louis and Niall's reactions? Or did people ship Zouis and Ziall as well?

fun fact: we had a few jokey headline lines that i think we ultimately cut out or cut down, bc there was a few: is lirry expanding into zirry~ jokes in our brains. and i mean, it’s hollywood, of course people shipped them. we kinda took a the what fandom does in life they would do in this verse rule even if we don’t obvious explore that stuff and get all meta on you all. but basically they have an rpf fandom all their own. clearly by the nature of their more public personas liam and harry have a great following, but there are few who ship liam and louis (*COUGH*HARRY*COUGH*SECRET TUMBLR*COUGH*) you know as they try and learn everything about liam (or harry’s lives) (sound familiar?)

and i’m sureeeeee there was fallback on zayn for “breaking up lirry” even though harry will be the first to tell you “lilo 4lyfe” and louis shakes his head and takes him aside all “trust me, this is even the weirdest thing that will happen to you.” like oscars au fandom (weirdest sentence i’ve ever had to type) is much like regular fandom, pitfalls and all. and honestly i pretty much think they would have dealt with it with the same jokey attitude they have approached in rl life, which is to say, they flirt a lot. harry likes flirting a lot just to mess with people. and they honestly don’t really put too much thought into it expect when you know louis makes out with liam in public and posts himself drinking from his fan made “<3 lilo <3” mug on his instagram bc he’s a fucking troll. and hey that’s his husband you are shipping with people not him how very dare you. 

i think ziall was considered very rill for a while bc they worked together but they kinda became super famous (zayn more than niall) at the same time and i’m sure people pull the same crap towards perrie in our au that they have in life. and…. EVEN WEIRDER SENTENCE. seriously, is our drive for “fic realism” so hard that we’ll give them shit fans too? APPARENTLY. 

but like niall could five two fuck about who people are shipping him with he has movies to make. liam just lets louis and harry have their fun because they are weird and he loves them both and no louis i don’t want to read the fanfic where we get trapped in a ski chalet. harry is “oh i’ll read it!” and zayn is looking up from his book/comic book/script and rolling his eyes. 

"why did you marry him again?"

"the sex."

"and you love me!"

"right, and i love him."

[jokesonus]

Ahhhhhh! I just saw the Oscars AU Zarry thing oh was that cute. I want. Oh and the Angelina thing was hilarious too! Haha he would probably have Mr. and Mrs. Smith playing in Liams trailer on repeat. Just to remind Liam.

I'm happy I could delight you, oscars anon! 

"We don't want an Alexander situation happening here, Liam." And Liam is just completely bewildered bc what is Louis going on about.