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From early in Ozy's recent post urging more people to ask people out:

Straight men should ignore all these considerations and just ask people out. Straight women never ask anyone out. If you wait for them all to read and be convinced by the Asking People Out Manifesto, you’ll die a virgin.

Welp. Thanks for once again confirming and kinda-sorta implicitly condoning our deeply entrenched gendered norms around who initiates what and the fact that it's not going to change any decade soon. The exact framing and tone in the context of dating advice of "[shrug] as the guy, you're just expected to be the one to do this, that's just the way it is [subtlest hint of apologetic tone]" that I'm used to and complained about most of a decade ago.

I really don't want to be harsh on Ozy's article here. Ozy is approaching this from rationality and practicality and it's definitely helpful to be able to just state reality here. And they are one of the only non-male/conservative/PUA-ish bloggers I know of who has been consistently willing to give actual asking-out advice over the whole past decade. And their post is mostly good, I think, with maybe only a couple of points I have issues with.

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