#p: random

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Mo Guan Shan:

*Note: Please don’t do this if you’re not moving a rich jerk called He Tian.

First Aid Class: Moving an Unconscious Person. 

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Sorry I've been gone, I've been busy with work and school. But 👀 I see Noah's hair is longer...? Are we finally getting long hair Noah back?

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I haven't been keeping up with their shows lately, but from the clips I've seen of their recent shows it looks like Noah is getting better at talking to the crowd! Or at least he seems more comfortable/less nervous. So that's good to see! Hope everyone's having a good time at the shows! Stay safe and have fun!

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When worlds collide

Not Megan Thee Stallion and Sleep Token both uploading new music videos at the same time 😭

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Also, this is a bit late because I don't use social media other than this account, but I hope everyone is safe! I know there were fires in LA recently so I hope everyone is okay. ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

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Happy New Year everyone! ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

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This isn't necessarily related to the topics on this blog, so I apologize, but I came across this video today and I think it's so relevant and useful that I can't not share. The topic is "de-centering." The part that stuck out to me the most in particular is when she says the following:

"Hate and love are a type of care - extreme care. If you are extremely emotionally invested in the perception of others or how you perceive another group... (there's some nuance, but-) I would say get more towards neutral than negative. Because it's easier to steer your own ship when you're at the helm, and it's not hatred in your sails pushing you in one direction."

What is being discussed here reminds me of the quote that says, "The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference." And a comment I read online recently, "There is a thin line between love and hate - both of which take energy, time, effort, and ultimately means you care a lot about someone/something."

Although the examples used in this video and the context the topic is being discussed in isn't necessarily the same as what I'm speaking about here, I still think it applies. This is very apt for online spaces in general, but since we here are Bad Omens fans I would like to relate this to how a lot of Bad Omens fandom spaces online are currently. And of course that's not to say that all fandom spaces (or even all fans individually) are like this, I'm just speaking in generalizations here.

I see a lot of vitriol against certain people surrounding Bad Omens and the people within the fandom. People making entire accounts just to spread hate about someone, going out of their way to leave nasty comments expressing how much they "hate" someone, and even encouraging others to do the same, etc.

All of this ultimately reflects back on the band and our fandom. Can people not see how the way a lot of people in our fandom are conducting themselves is directly impacting the way the band engages with us as fans? It's cyclical: fans spread negativity/hate > band draws back or reacts in a way some fans don't like because of the hate > fans complain > repeat.

The best thing you can do is block and ignore. Time and attention is currency. Remember that you choosing to actively "hate" someone is you giving them power over you.

Sometimes you can hate something so much that you end up promoting and supporting it.

Foster what will help us and the band grow, and put energy into what will positively affect us. You give life to what you give energy to.

*Note: Please remember there is nuance to everything - life is very rarely black or white. I think it goes without saying I am not applying this logic to things like abuse, oppression, bigotry, etc. Remember: nuance.

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Just updated my devices and now my cute little heart signature looks like tHIS

Apple it's on SIGHT