I would like to make my stance on this very clear before I get the wrong kind of people in my notes: I think exist's doc does have merit in that it is a compilation of some of the most abhorrent behavior I've ever seen from some of the big so-called "victim's advocates" or antiship/antiparaphile people on this site. The things that Britt, Raf, Sheev, and Deej have done to Eden need to be documented and made public in their entirety so people can stay the hell away from them.
That being said, chee's and exist's behavior regarding Eden also needs to be addressed. Tagging Eden's defunct blog when they got to see firsthand how that placed it in danger and throwing a boundary that they were completely fine with to the wind now that the friendship is no more, speaking disparagingly of another victim that because they have a boundary regarding who can interact with a separate doc about their abuser due to safety concerns and discomfort with chee's CSAM joke, expecting their audiences--which are presumably antiship and CSA survivors--to simply get over said joke, and proceeding to smear a fundraiser, an artist, and spread lies that another one of their former friends is a proshipper only to immediately go quiet on all those claims the second anyone rebutts them is the exact same formula Raf and co followed.
It's also deeply ironic that those two view Eden and Oce as being "drama hungry," when they were the ones who started posting discord screenshots out of nowhere. It's one thing to state publicly that you've had a falling out with a few people and won't be reblogging/communicating with them anymore. It is another thing to drag numerous private messages (all of which are probably cropped to hell and back or are incomplete to fit this narrative of E & O being toxic or whatever) into the public eye. It's not like Eden and Oce dipped out of nowhere one day and began reblogging from ISFFlets like cemetery-wolfdog did. Based on whats been published, its clear that these are just snapshots from one of many private conversations that had been had with those two. The screenshots Exist posted of the convo with Oce read very much as a final chance to resolve these issues or to dissolve the friendship peaceably. It's not like Exist or Chee had no choice but to publish screenshots in order to get their attention.
The issue here is not Eden. The issue is that these largely discourse centered communities are built around forming social bonds which are centered around clowning on others, whether it is deserved or not. When interpersonal conflicts arise in these groups, many people split off into camps that side with various individuals to where each camp thinks they're always in the right. The same viciousness that these people commit in the public eye is then turned on one another to solidify group bonds within these camps, as this is what they've been conditioned to bond over when the group was whole. Actually solving problems becomes not even secondary, not even tertiary, hell, not even a priority at all. It becomes about who can get the screenshots published first, it becomes who can get the most notes first, because these are the points that are used to play this sick game and thus what determines who "wins." To the people that build their online identities around these communities and playing this game, "winning" is the only thing they care about. "Winning" is their only friend. That's why all these people are two-faced and backstabbing. The only friend that they've ever had in their entire lives that they know will never leave them is the imaginary version of themselves that their massive egos have cooked up where they are the most perfect little angels in every single situation, and they will drag whomever dares to shatter that image to the court of public opinion regardless of former closeness, mental health concerns, general safety, etc etc.
For whatever reason, a lot of vulnerable people are drawn to these kinds of communities, many who are already severely traumatized or alienated from the outside world, who find a sense of community or validation through these circles. Ultimately these are the people that are ousted and burned at the stake first whenever issues arise, despite so many of these bigger bloggers being all about supporting victims or claiming to care about the safety of others. In normal social groups, it would be understandable that people who are mentally ill would act a little strangely from time to time, and things would be done to confront the person about their behavior, support the person, or even dissolve the friendship if things get too sour. But as I've already laid out, this is not a priority in these discourse communities because these places do not function as friend groups, but rather as content farms for people who wish they were the bully in high school.
Aside from being in the hands of their abusers and/or proship/ISFF circles that want to directly enable abusive and predatory behavior, I'd say one of the most dangerous places for victims to be is in these discourse circles. There is no such thing as a perfect victim, and the second you do anything that disqualifies you from that stereotype in the eyes of discourseblr, you will become the next talking point, the next person they lolcow, the next person with the water filter over your posts.
All I can say is, be careful with who you link up with online.
And most definitley stay away from all the people I mentioned in the beginning. The situation with Eden and Oce is quite possibly the first of many betrayals to follow.
