#parallelparenting

[myaz-lawyers]

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[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

I know I can't expect the warmest of welcomes but it's my fucking house. Once again I'm trapped upstairs and he's going to be mad at me for hiding myself away. The options are feel like an outsider in my own house or take control and make myself an outsider.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

Here I am, once again feeling on the outside. Sat upstairs while they hang out together. I am happy for him being with his kids I just wish they showed him the same affection they used to.

BM has got into their heads and I don't know how he's going to come back from it.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

I am absolutely devastated.

She drops the kids off, starts an argument at the door, calls me Homewrecker once again and starts accusing me of being dangerous. Luckily I stay well away from the door and let her run her own argument into the ground, hysterically crying in front of OH and her new fiance (who is a super wet lettuce btw).

Now I'm hiding upstairs away from the kids and OH who is trying so hard to get me to be involved but I just wanna curl up in a ball and cry forever.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

Cat's out of the bag!

Oh BM you never fail to do exactly what I think you're going to do. And what I thought you were gonna do was get pregnant straight away with a man you've known for 5 months!

Congratulations on bringing another child who's life you'll ruin by being the same old narcissistic D-bag you've always been.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

BM, if you think that dropping OH's stuff off and trying to take a trip down memory lane is going to wobble me, you've got another thing coming. All it did was let me and OH have a good laugh at your tactics and remind OH why he's so glad not to be with you...

[aboyandhismom]

We all know that parenting is hard. There’s no denying it. But when you’re forced to parallel parent your child instead of #coparenting, it can make things that much harder. Yesterday was one of those days. The long and short of it was there was an incident at the school where my son was subjected to some unkind behaviour when all he was doing was trying to be kind. Thankfully the school informed me of the incident, otherwise I would never have know. Like any other mother, all I wanted was to give my son a cuddle and tell him I loved him. Unfortunately that will have to wait until later today. They grow up so fast, it really sucks when you only get half their life with them. Thankfully, I already had a #girlsnightout planned with girl gang and was able to laugh until my face hurt. It’s times like this when I am reminded never to take any moment for granted. I don’t like wishing time away but this afternoon can’t come soon enough when the boy is back in my arms. #parallelparenting #sharedcustody #divorcedmom #girlgang #blessed #lifeistooshort #theygrowupsofast (at Whitby, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bxe9F3WgSBa/?igshid=1ep4p91swcaqz

[strugglesinparallelparenting]

I Don’t Hate Him

It’s odd to me that BD and his family have made comments saying that I hate him. Y’all, I truly don’t hate anyone. Who has that kind of time and energy? Also, if it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t have the child that is A. For that reason alone I could never truly hate him.

Do I like him? Not really, but it isn’t simply because he’s her biological dad and therefore I think he’s the enemy or whatever else they may think. It’s because he doesn’t treat me like a human deserves to be treated (let alone the mother of his child), and he’s far from a “good dad” or even a dad, really. All of this will eventually effect A, and that truth eats at me every day.

We’ve done our best to shield her from it. Her visitation isn’t every other weekend, it’s two Saturdays each month so there is no set routine in going. I find this helpful because if she does go for a visit it’s almost like a treat. We don’t tell her in advance about her visits because we don’t want to get her hopes up. We also never say “you’re going to go see your dad today”. We say “you’re going to go visit your grandparents today”. Her visitation takes place at the grandparents’ house so we do know that at least they will be there. Also this is to not get her hopes up that he’ll be there in the event that he doesn’t show (which certainly does happen).

Also, with the way he speaks to me, and has spoken to me for majority of the time I’ve known him, why would I want her around someone like that? He has literally fussed at me for trying to help move our visitation around to help him see her. He didn’t prompt that conversation either, I did, and I got yelled at for it. He is also emotionally abusive. My child doesn’t deserve that, and although he hasn’t been that way to her yet (that I know of), it’s only a matter of time before he does. This is a hard reality to swallow and I’m hoping wr can dampen the effects as much as possible.