When you know better but aren’t doing better First I must acknowledge, simply knowing and recognizing coping skills and behaviours within ourselves that no longer serve us and/or may be harmful to ourselves or the people around us, is the the most important step in this journey. You are at the planning stages. You are thinking about trying a different path. You may have even decided to take that different path but you end up on the old path. Don’t worry; someday you will take a step down that path. It may only be one step, at first. You may start down the old path, stop, run back and try the new path. All of this IS “doing better.” As we do in our children, we need to celebrate our small steps. We need to recognize that so much of the work is internal. Just knowing what to do differently does not stop you from old patterns. When it comes to parenting, many of these patterns are set in your own childhood. You may but even realize you have these patterns, until you become a parent. Often these patterns are also triggering for the parent, further fueling the emotional burden of parenting because when they see themselves doing exactly what they promised they would never do, their confidence and self-worth as a parent can simply plummet. Usually I realize I was overwhelmed in some way and validating my feelings of overwhelm, forgiving myself, giving myself grace and making a plan to meet some of those unmet needs, has transformed my perception of these moments where reaction was my initial response. I discuss this in detail in the Guide to Survival Mode Plans, now only 5$’s The link is in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #healingjourney #parentanger #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #breakingcycles #intergenerationaltrauma #changingthenarrative #allthefeels #changeishard https://www.instagram.com/p/CWjwkkhr014/?utm_medium=tumblr