Copy pasta is passing that old list of all larries bloggers. There are more than 50 people in the group and they started with about 20. They see that it is working. That popular larries and louies bloggers have deleted or closed their asks box and refuse any discussion. There are only two discussion blogs answering new larries right now and copy pasta bully them and send fake asks all the time. They won't stop until they force all the larries bloggers on that list to go silent or delete.
To be fair, I think it’s not only the bullying that makes some people leave. Babygate and Harry’s stunts are equally disencouraging for those who were here back in the days when they were fighting the closet and it seemed like there may be a point when they’d come out and we’d feel vindicated. At the time that distant hope would have made it easier to deal with the bullies.
Right now it seems like it is no longer Harry’s or Louis’ wish to come out any time soon, there are far fewer signs also of their sexuality and/or relationship if it’s still alive, and so the certainty you have as a someone who believes they are/were together is that you will not be proven right any time soon.
And to be clear: it doesn’t even matter if you are solidly of the conviction that it is Harry and Louis’ right to come out whenever they want, if they even want to. I mean, it matters what you think, and that them having the right to choose whether and when to come out is the only ethical position in this.
But even when that is your position and you can accept it, the current situation where there is “no end in sight” is really not going to encourage you to be louder or to fight harder against the bullies.
At some point you’re going to say, well they get to choose whether and when to come out, and I can choose to leave and not deal with this shit because they aren’t going to bail us out of this shit any time soon by the looks of it.
And that’s a choice Harry and Louis are making. They needed us then and used the power of the “rebellion”. And now they are in a different place, they do not need us anymore, and they are choosing to watch us leave one by one.
It’s the reality. I am not happy with it, I would have wanted it to be different for myself, for my friends, for all the LGBTQ people in this fandom I wish it was different. But I can accept that this is their life and their choice and so I will accept the negative consequences that choice has for me.
I know I was right about certain things, I know what I am worth and I know I can leave any time I want. And I choose to stay - or watch it all from a bit of distance more like. Check in once in a while to see if the rainbows have survived, if LGBTQ kids are feeling alright here.
