#paul dolan

[loveandknowledge]

Psychologist Paul Dolan at the London School of Economics has observed how people who are gaining weight will gradually shift their focus to areas of their lives where the number on the scale is less relevant - to their jobs, for instance. Why? Because it's easier to redirect your focus than to lose weight. Yet the fat couldn't care less about your focus, your interests or your motivation. The world isn't remotely interested in what you think of it or how you feel. Banish all such obscurantist tactics from your brain.

"Nothing is more fatiguing nor, in the long run, more exasperating than the daily effort to believe things which daily become more incredible. To be done with this effort is an indispensable condition of sure and lasting happiness," wrote mathematician and Nobel Prize winner Bertrand Russell. This is an exaggeration, of course, because sure and lasting happiness does not exist. Yet Russell is correct in his observation that self-deception is incompatible with the good life. Accepting reality is easy when you like what you see, but you've got to accept it even when you don't especially when you don't.

Russell follows up with an example: "The playwright whose plays never succeed should consider calmly the hypothesis that they are bad plays." You may not write plays, but I'm sure youbcan come up with examples from your own life. Perhaps you have no talent for foreign languages? Not a natural manager or athlete? You should take these truths into account - and consider the consequences.

Rolf Dobelli, 'The Art of the Good Life'

[clevelanddotcom]

Cleveland Indians' 2017 payroll becoming clearer after signing of Edwin Encarnacion, arbitration-eligible players

The Indians' payroll will be higher in 2017, but by how much? Did Paul Dolan step into one of those cash tornado phone booth things? Or did he reach into his pocket and pull out a few quarters, a buffalo nickel, a Canadian coin and a ball of lint?

[pissanddie]

Paul Michael Dolan, Lithic Orbit (2023). Lidar scan, customised software, desktop computer

[glamourfame]

Expert Claims Women Live Happier Lives Without A Husband

An expert from the London Schools of Economics, Paul Dolan, has come up with the claim that women who do not get married are happier and live longer. According to him, Women do not get the same amount of benefits from marriage as men do. Expert Claims Women Live Happier Lives Without A Husband And Children. Women Marriage.

[teainthegarden]

Women are happier without children or a spouse, says happiness expert

Behavioural scientist Paul Dolan says traditional markers of success no longer apply

We may have suspected it already, but now the science backs it up: unmarried and childless women are the happiest subgroup in the population. And they are more likely to live longer than their married and child-rearing peers, according to a leading expert in happiness.

[ellector]

La mujeres sin hijos ni esposo, son más felices

La mujeres sin hijos ni esposo, son más felices

Esto es lo que dice Paul Dolan, un professor ciencia del comportamiento de la London School of Economics. Los marcadores tradicionales de felicidad ya no son válidos, en especial el casarse y el tener hijos.

We may have suspected it already, but now the science backs it up: unmarried and childless women are the happiest subgroup in the population. And they are more likely to live longer than…

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[shannybasar]

The stories around wealth and success, in particular, are social narratives that we can’t seem to get enough of. Now, it should be obvious that the absence of either of these two things can cause anxiety and misery. I will not suggest otherwise. The narratives suggest, however, that no matter how much we have of each, we are expected to be reaching for more. The assumption is that ever more happiness is achieved with ever more money and more markers of success. The trap comes from the fact that the happiness hit from adherence to these narratives gets ever smaller the further up the ladder you go and, eventually, can become reversed. To be happier we need to move from a culture of “more please” to one of “just enough”.

An extract from Happy Ever After: Escaping the Myth of the Perfect Life by Paul Dolan in The Observer

[helloyojo]

The ‘success’ narrative is at the heart of our idea of wellbeing, but the evidence tells a different tale, argues behavioural scientist Paul Dolan in this extract from his new book

There are countless stories about how we ought to live our lives. We are expected to be ambitious; to want to be wealthy, successful and well educated; to get married, be monogamous and have kids. These social narratives can make our lives easier, by providing guidelines for behaviour, and they might sometimes make us happier, too. But they are, at their heart, stories – and ones that may not have originated with present-day people in mind. As such, many of these stories end up creating a kind of social dissonance whereby, perversely, they cause more harm than good.

Since we’re talking about stories, let’s start with an experience of mine. It’s about a working-class kid who becomes a university professor and who is expected to change his behaviour in accordance with a (harmful) narrative about how academics ought to behave. A couple of years ago, I took part in an interesting panel discussion on “emotion versus reason” at the HowTheLightGetsIn festival in Hay-on-Wye. Walking across the field to get some food, I was approached by a man in his 50s. Our interaction started with him saying how much he liked my first book, Happiness By Design. Then he asked, pointedly: “But why do you have to play the working-class hero? You do it in your book and, look at you, you’re doing it now.”

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