the good life.

inspired by love and guided by knowledge.

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- @all.and.nothing (TikTok)

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"There are those who want a swimming pool in the house, while those who have one barely use it. Those who have lost a loved one feel a deep sense of loss, while others who hold them close often complain about them. Those who do not have a partner yearn for him, but those who have, sometimes do not value him. The hungry would give anything for a plate of food, while the well-fed complains about the taste. The one who doesn't have a car dreams, while the one who has one is always looking for a better one. The key is to be grateful, look carefully at what we have and understand that somewhere, someone would give everything for what you already have and don't appreciate.”

- Hiroyuki Sanada

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“Who am I to judge another when my own soul is not without scars?”

- @virtueguardian (TikTok)

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“Why is the universe arranged so that it produces beings like us? Religious people explain the order of the world as the work of a benevolent creator. We can't argue with them. It is impossible to prove either God's presence or His absence. But a scientist, even a religious one, is not satisfied with such an answer, and their research is the attempt to understand the world in terms of its natural causes. A scientist who invokes higher powers has given up.”

- Stefan Klein, ‘On the Edge of Infinity’

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If you’re lost, the answer is education. If you’re educated, the answer is execution. If you’re executing, the answer is consistency.

- Dan Koe (illustration from @golimitless)

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“If an opinion contrary to your own makes you angry, that is a sign that you are subconsciously aware of having no good reason for thinking as you do. If some one maintains that two and two are five, or that Iceland is on the equator, you should feel pity rather than anger, unless you know so little of arithmetic or geography that his opinion shakes your own contrary conviction.

The most savage controversies are those about matters as to which there is no good evidence either way. Persecution is used in theology, not in arithmetic, because in arithmetic there is knowledge, but in theology there is only opinion. So whenever you find yourself getting angry about a difference of opinion, be on your guard; you will probably find, on examination, that your belief is going beyond what the evidence warrants.”

— Bertrand Russell, An Outline of Intellectual Rubbish (1943)

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The value of curiosity — Bertrand Russell

“The instinctive foundation of the intellectual life is curiosity, it is inspired by a genuine love of knowledge. You may see this impulse in a moderately pure form, at work in a cat which has been brought to a strange room, and proceeds to smell every corner and every piece of furniture. You will see it also in children, who are passionately interested when a drawer or cupboard, usually closed, is open for their inspection. Animals, machines, thunderstorms, and all forms of manual work, arouse the curiosity of children, whose thirst for knowledge puts the most intelligent adults to shame.

This impulse grows weaker with advancing years, until at last what is unfamiliar inspires only disgust, with no desire for a closer acquaintance. This is the stage at which people announce that the country is going to the dogs, and that ’things are not what they were in my young days’. The thing which is not the same as it was in that far-off time is the speaker’s curiosity. And with the death of curiosity we may reckon that active intelligence, also, has died.”

— Bertrand Russell, On Education (1923), Ch. II: The Aims of Education, pp. 59-60

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Find Common Ground

One gets the sense that Seneca, like many smart and active people, was often frustrated by other people. It is inevitable that someone like him—someone creating art, actively participating in government, managing properties, etc—would have regularly found his interest and his will thwarted. Perhaps a neighbor opposed some changes he was making to his land. Or an intriguing enemy at the palace sought to undermine him with the emperor. Maybe his brother jostled for an inheritance. Maybe he bumped into a rude person in the street.

These are timeless and common occurrences. And, quite naturally, they are prone to make us angry—especially if we impute the least charitable motivations on the other party. My neighbor is trying to screw me over. So and so wants my job. My brother is up to his old tricks. This guy is a selfish jerk.

When we think this way, we get angry. It’s hard not to. Which is why Seneca—from experience—said that we have to resist. Instead, we should try to go through life like a lawyer…or rather like a public defender. We must, he said, “plead the case of the absent defendant despite our own interests.” That is, really take the time to think about what is motivating other people. Take the time to act as if we are trying to help them escape punishment from the judge and jury that is the emotional and vindictive part of our mind (Oh, he really just wants what’s best for everyone. My brother doesn’t know better. This guy didn’t mean to bump into me—he’s just having a hard day). Don’t just fight to see the worst, fight to see their side.

When we do this, when we give people the benefit of the doubt—the presumption of innocence instead of the presumption of guilt and ill-motives—everything relaxes. We can forgive. We can find common ground. We can focus on what is actually important…our own behavior.

- The Daily Stoic

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To unconfident people, narcissism in others looks like confidence. To confident people, narcissism in others looks like a lack of confidence.

- Mark Manson

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"An investment in knowledge pays the best interest."

- Benjamin Franklin

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- From @dailystoic (Instagram).

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“Men are apt to mistake the strength of their feeling for the strength of their argument. The heated mind resents the chill touch and relentless scrutiny of logic.”

— William Gladstone. (1809-1898) British statesman

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https://www.channelnewsasia.com/commentary/video-bad-driving-car-accident-traffic-police-2289736

WHY WE CAN’T SEEM TO LOOK AWAY [FROM BAD DRIVING]

Psychologists attribute this fascination to “negativity bias”. Evolutionarily, our ancestors survived by paying attention to negative information, such as whether a strange new animal is a threat.

Today, we still spend more time and mental energy when looking at negative stimuli. Laboratory studies show we tend to learn better when punished than when rewarded. In decision-making, even when the intensity of information is equal, negative information has a greater influence than positive information on our judgements.

In other words, we are hardwired to pay more attention to bad driving. We can’t look away because such videos meet our psychological needs.

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DISPLACING OUR FRUSTRATIONS ON BAD DRIVERS

Unfortunately, research suggests that venting is ineffective and may even reinforce the initial anger and frustration.

This brings up more concerns. Our perspective tends to narrow if our indignations are reinforced and biases confirmed. We interpret the same information differently and are more sensitive to negative information. We become more attuned to and are more likely to seek out evidence for bad driving.

We perceive driving in Singapore more negatively and judge it to be more unsafe than it actually is - because memories of bad driving are more readily accessible.

LEARNING TO WITHHOLD JUDGEMENT

What can we do to avoid going down this rabbit hole?

We can look at Noble Laureate Daniel Kahneman’s characterisation of how our brain works in two systems: Type 1 thinking – fast and automatic, and Type 2 thinking – deliberate and effortful.

When we rush to comment on a video or publicly shame someone on social media, we often engage in Type 1 fast thinking and intuitive decision making. The key is to guard against this trigger-happy instinct.

Instead, let’s pause, withhold immediate judgement and try Type 2 thinking. Were there environmental factors that we haven’t considered? Does the video show the full story of the incident? Is what we watch truly representative of our full driving experience or just another eye-catching entertaining clip we can shake our head at after an uneventful drive home?

Although we have a negativity bias, the documented transformational effects of positive acts and thoughts can be powerful.

Just as venting can lead to a downward spiral, acts of graciousness and considerate driving can lead to a virtuous cycle...

[loveandknowledge]

"We ordinarily think of luck as a thing outside ourselves. That time I ended up in the same city with a handsome acquaintance. That time I was driving out of town, feeling dejected at my failed search for an apartment, when I saw someone hammering in a "For Lease" sign in the front yard. That time a cab stopped just inches short of hitting me in a Manhattan crosswalk. We feel luckiest (or unluckiest) when we can clearly imagine what could have come to pass - except it didn't.

But luck is not just something outside of ourselves that happens to us. It is also stitched into us. We are each one in a million-or more literally, one in 70 trillion, which is the number of unique genetic combinations that could have resulted from any two parents. And each of our parents' genomes was a one in 70 trillion event, out of all the possible combinations of their parents' DNA, and so on and so forth, back into human history. Each one of our genomes is the ultimate result of generations upon generations of random events that could have gone another way. There is no part of our genome for which we can take credit; no bit of our DNA over which we exerted control.

All of your genome, then, can be considered a form of luck in your life..."

Kathryn Paige Harden, 'The Genetic Lottery: Why DNA Matters for Social Equality'

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