I don’t know who might need to hear this but this scene:
Legit helped explain my Pathological Demand Avoidance (Persistent Drive for Autonomy, PDA) to my therapist.
I am pretty sure that if Loba is AuDHD, then she has PDA. She will straight up not do something if you ask her to the wrong way. Perfectly illustrated by her decision not to kill Rev after he specifically asked her WHEN SHE WAS ALREADY GOING TO. The fact that she basically rejected her own original plan when she no longer felt in control of it is perfectly PDA. Why this scene works so well to illustrate PDA is that Revenant, of all people, legitimately works with Loba's PDA to get her to finally agree to kill him. Not by shaming her like Kairi was doing (enough to get her to meltdown and cry), but by asking Loba what she wants. By doing so, Rev sets everything up so that Loba can feel in control again. Aside from everything that happens after that