Affect Regulation, Mentalization and the Development of the Self (Peter Fonagy, 2002)
“It is important not to conflate reflective function with introspection. (…)
Reflective function, referred to in developmental psychology as "theory of mind,"
is the developmental acquisition that permits children to respond not only to another person's behavior,
but to the children's conception of others' beliefs, feelings, attitudes, desires, hopes, knowledge, imagination, pretense, deceit, intentions, plans, and so on.
Reflective function, or mentalization, enables children to "read" other people's minds. (…)
In our view, the caregiver facilitates the creation of mentalizing models through complex linguistic and quasi-linguistic processes,
primarily by behaving toward the child in such a way that the child is eventually led to postulate that his own behavior may be best understood if he assumes that he has ideas and beliefs, feelings and wishes,
that determine his actions, and the reactions of others to him can then be generalized to other similar beings. (…)
Naturally the absence of reflective function in such situations will give the appearance of rigidity to the person's behavior, as if only a singular pattern of response were accessible.
Furthermore, the response may frequently be in conflict with social norms because the tendency to take the perspective of others has been abandoned in that context,
and consequently the "moral emotions" used to make judgments about the consequences of actions and to regulate behavior are absent.
The absence of reflective function may further exaggerate an antisocial response by forcing the individual to see the other not as another intentional agent,
but, rather, in nonhuman terms, as a body, as representing a social position or agency, or as an anonymous member of a group.”