#plural venting

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i admit i'm not technically a system but i really need advice i think

i have a lot of plural friends and i care about them obviously but sometimes i just feel so alone. there have been incidents where my friends have said "this sounds vaguely like plurality" but nothing ever comes of it and its so. ughhhh

i just . i wish there was anyone who could understand my life. i wish i wasn't alone. it feels so hopeless

i hope this is ok. i'm sorry

Of course this is okay! Anyone can post here, it's just mainly for plurals of any kind, but singlets are also allowed to vent here.

Hmm, I understand feeling lonely, having sys-mates is a deeply intimate experience, and you'll never find yourself truly alone.

I believe, if you truly would be happier plural, or with head mates, you should look into willowing and see if that's something you'd be comfortable with!

We personally have no experience with creating head mates, but we have heard stories of people creating / willowing head mates and ending up feeling happier in their life after. This is a deeply personal thing so I recommend doing your research and really thinking about it, but it might be helpful to you!

Tho, I'm sure there's someone out there who understands you, feeling hopeless is normal, but I promise you everything will be okay.

We love you and wish you the best.

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I hate some of my alters. They keep hurting me and my friends and the body and I don’t know what to do. And they keep changing me and I hate it.

Im so sorry you're going through that.

Have you gotten a chance to talk to them about it and ask why? I honestly recommend locking them from front or only giving them supervised fronting time if that's something you're capable of, at least until things are more settled down possibly?

If you need help feel free to message us in DM's too, we wish you much strength and good luck 🫂

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(aapologies for the quirk, ii tend to fall into iit when i feell bad.) i feeel so off, our moother doesnt uunderstand my greif about our original hoost who's deead now. hher understannding is so shalllow and i cant deaal with her diisrespecting Him like she always doess. iive seen stories of peoples ooriginals "coming back" buut, i hope He doesnt come baack. its not safe yyet.. i need to make everything Saafe first, but so will i get rrid of His things, so i am making sure to keep them toogether like He would have wanted. refer to Him like He'd like. be nice to what Hee was. our mother berates a dead man, He doesnt need a lecture on everything He did wrong, He needed comfort, He needed safety, that He didnt get. And so, in death iill try my beest to give it to Him. I will listen to His old stories, be kind in His death like He needed in His life. unlike her. (you mmay give advice or respond, buut im just posting to Get it out of oour head and see if anyone.. relates.)

I hope things are safer for you all soon and your mother starts understanding more. You seem great and I'm sure your original host appreciates everything you do for him. Thank you for being an awesome being. 🫂

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we want to tell our mom about having did

but she has already called our host “delusional” for being trans so we are very scared . she is a transphobic homophobic trump supporter but she is at least not ableist towards us and we’re trying to hold onto that hope

the most we can do is hint to our symptoms (like telling her “i woke up very confused”, “i did something i don’t remember doing”, etc) but we still don’t even know how to begin talking about her with plurality. she works in the medical field so we are just hoping she’ll question us about it more someday

we have also been trying to get her to take us for a bpd and npd diagnosis but that’s a whole other thing

(Plural / & You)

Please be safe first okay? I'm not sure how old you are, and I know you need support but please try and be careful, if telling her could put you at risk try and keep your safety in mind first, I'm not trying to discourage you but just be safe, okay?

I really hope your guys mother will be accepting, and I'm really hoping she changes her view and becomes more supportive on everything towards y'all.

Wishing you the best of luck and stay safe ok? 🫂

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Recent persecutor is upset about existing and is mad at me for revealing too much about them and keeps trying to fuck with me </3

Oh no, I'm sorry that's happening 🫂

I hope they can forgive you and stop trying to do that to you :(

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i hav mem0riez i d0n't think a kid-minded syskid sh0uld hav f0rmed with

[pt: i have memories i don't think a kid-minded syskid should have formed with]

Oh no, I'm sorry. That must be upsetting.

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It feels like every other fucking system space is anti-endo. Lying outside the anti-endo norm is like a minefield sometimes. We find systems in discord servers and our first thought is to check if they’ve mentioned endogenics- and in all the cases I can think of except for ONE server we’re in, we’ve found these people being anti-endo. Calling endogenic systems fake, or ableist, or existing.

I’m so fucking tired of it. I’m tired of living in a world where most people don’t even know what a system is, and most of those who do know of plurality know it as DID only, and sometimes only in such an awful light. I’m sick and tired of living in a singlet world.

This really sucks. I hate how many spaces and systems/beings are anti-endo when it makes no logical sense to take that stance.

I truly hope for a much more accepting world one day.

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Sigh, we just got a new fictive and I was about to use that character as pfps and stuff. Idk if I still can, man :/

Aw, you could talk it through with them! We hope everything turns out well, goodluck friend 🫂