Gonna be honest, I don't really care for this post! I just.... hate the trend of screenshotting takes we disagree with and then passing them around with minimal explanation of why they're wrong and misguided, because, well, you should just be able to intuit what's wrong with them.
The sarcastic invocation of "normalcy" here especially grinds my gears, because.... I don't actually think all "normal" people have an intuitive - let alone consciously thought out - belief that CNC is okay and ethical. I think it's something a lot of people are instinctively freaked out by! I don't agree, to be clear - I think it can be practiced ethically, that being drawn to either position as fantasy doesn't denote personal ethics re: rape culture, and I'm a certified dubcon enjoyer. But like... let's not act as if huge swathes of people would come to that conclusion without serious persuasion. If we're using "normal" to denote "typical" or "common," then... most "normal" attitudes about sex are actually pretty bad, or at least poorly conceived!
Like, it's not even that this sort of thing "increases my shame," or at least not primarily. It just.... ticks me off, for autism brain reasons, to see signalling that something is or should be ~common shared group knowledge~ without any justification or defense of that position. Especially when, in this case, I know that many people wouldn't automatically agree or be convinced.
Anyway, working on my fanfic last night helped me calm down about this. But I can't say it made me feel great or vindicated to see it.