#polycule update

[queerpolyajourney]

Apparently things change more quickly in the polycule than I can write about them.

There's way too many people to keep up with. I had a whole new introduction ready and multiple posts about the new relationships. I also wrote down some of my thoughts around NRE....but I think I can scrap most of it.

Here's the short version.

Purple came out as trans* fem and is slowly starting to transition socialy and is seeing a new therapist. She is in two new relationships. The two partners are dating eachother too and one of them has two additional partners (so four in total). And because that isn't enough she has a crush on another couple that im friends with. They are in a mono-poly relationship and neither of them is interested in Purple.

Pink broke up with Orange weeks after officially getting together. Prior to that Orange meet some new Puppys through a guy he was just having casual sex with back then and the pack started to date as a whole recently. Orange repeatedly canceled plans with Pink and after a talk about their respective needs and boundaries in which Orange stated that he didn't want to adapt/compromise and Pink informed him they wasn't okay with being repeatedly stood up and left behind, they ended it. Orange didn't even try to fight for the relationship and only said that he wasn't "the right guy" for Pink. Pink also went on a date with two trans* guys that are in a polyamorous relationship and they is still texting with a guy they met while studying abroad.

So now I have two partners who are lovesick.

Plus one of my best friends is currently in the hospital because he started getting seizures.

I'd really like to travel across the country to meet up with Pink and visit the friend and his partner. Sadly I don't have the time.

I'm not happy about the rushed post. I'll add the most recent events to the already finished posts and update the new introduction again. Hopefully I'll manage to post before the story continues.

[bipolyamorist]

crowgift replied to your post “Polycule Update”

Does he also have other relationships?

Not romantic/sexual ones at the moment. 

cardinalsrules replied to your post “Polycule Update”

Is his being extremely busy beyond his control or does he have the ability to adjust it?

That’s the problem. For the most part it’s beyond it’s control, but we’ve spent so little time talking for an extended period of time that it makes me wonder if there’s not something he could do and I’m just not a priority. I’m not sure if it’s a legitimate concern or if it’s my own insecurity. It’s definitely something we need to talk about.

dr-dog replied to your post “Polycule Update”

What is he ridiculously busy with? Work? Then cut him some slack; he's trying to do well. His family? They're important to him, too. Other friends? That's a problem. You need to make time to communicate. Love each other and work it out.

It is mostly work/school and family, which is why I’ve been cutting him a lot of slack. But when he can usually only text me 1-2 times a week and video chatting is pretty nonexistent, it gets to be a bit too much. This has also been going on for a couple months, and I’ve been dealing with some other things and while he’s usually very supportive, I feel like he isn’t there for me as much as I need him to be.

Sorry this is a bit long winded; part of me just needs to get it out of my system.

[bipolyamorist]

Polycule Update

So N and I have hit a bit of a rough patch. The thing is, it's mainly due to circumstances outside of our control. He's been ridiculously busy the past couple months, and we barely get to talk at all anymore. We've talked about it quite a bit, but there's just not much time in his schedule for a social life. He's had busy times before, but never like this. And it makes me question how much of a priority I am to him. I'm not sure what to do about it. I love him a ton, but I sometimes feel like I put more effort into the relationship than he does. Any ideas?

[bipolyamorist]

Polycule Update

Yesterday, I had a first date with a girl I met, and it went pretty well. She didn’t seem very weirded out by the idea of polyamory, so that was a relief. I have some mixed feelings about her, but it probably has more to do with some trust issues than it does with her. I’m planning to ask her out again, so I’ll just wait and see how this all plays out. Overall, I’m feeling pretty optimistic.

[bipolyamorist]

Flying up to see N! It’ll only be for a weekend, but I’ll take whatever I can get. 

It will be the first time I’ve seen him in person since he met W. I doubt our dynamic will be affected by it because it wasn’t when I told him about K, but we’ll see, I guess. Can’t wait!!!

[bipolyamorist]

Polyamory... I swear, it's more like 24/7 planning. And my loves tend to take higher priority in my brain over all my other responsibilities. Oops.