I love the idea of positive Mondays! so here's an experience of mine.
I'm not super active on servers and mute them because the notifications are overwhelming but when they're muted, I rarely look at them. So I've had pretty neutral experiences in servers due to not seeing much.
I tend to join adult system servers because I prefer it over ones with children in them. I never felt comfortable at the idea of being in a system with a bunch of people much younger and feared the difference in maturity would make them unbearable.
However, one day, I got bored and wanted to see if I could find a server where I can find the crazy stuff people talk about, so I joined servers that allowed teens (still not comfortable with servers that accept every age so I went for 15/16+ servers).
I didn't find the drama I was looking for. Instead, I found one of my favourite servers. It's 15+, but it's cozy and feels safe and the owner who's an adult has done such an awesome job at keeping everything running so well and keeping such a great atmosphere.
(I'm aware looking for servers for drama probably isn't the best thing, but it ended up working out very well.)