Tales from Syscord

A blog to talk about your experiences with Syscord, both positive and negative [ENDOS DNI]

[tales-from-syscord]

Hello and welcome to Tales from Syscord!

[syster blogs: @tales-from-systok, @tales-from-sysblr]

[mods: @the-hydra-sys and @breaking-binary-system]

Submit any and all experiences in our inbox, and we will post them as soon as we can! They can be positive or negative.

Mondays are positive posts only, but if you send in a negative one we can schedule it for another day.

This isn't a place for vents or discourse, though we can offer advice now and then.

Note that we may not always agree with more controversial posts, but unless they're hateful or make us uncomfortable we will probably post them.

Feel free to spam like/reblog/interact! It makes us happy to see people enjoying our blog <3

Respectful pro-endos can interact. This is a community space for traumagenic systems.

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The amount of them who are now spreading blatant misinformation and fear mongering about simply plurals shutdown is driving me bonkers 💔 like please guys read the actual announcement before making your own announcement in the server be so for real why are all these servers so good at fabricating and spreading false news

Dont get me STARTED on that..

Plus everyone saying that there's a whole conspiracy theory with octocon shutting down??

Like. Dang

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Not anything big, but was super nice for me

I joined this syscord server that actually had roles for whether or not you preferred plural or singular language directed toward you. I'm someone who considers myself one person, but in every syscord I join people always assume I want to be thought of as multiple people. It's just nice seeing people like me represented for once

That's so cool!

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I love the idea of positive Mondays! so here's an experience of mine.

I'm not super active on servers and mute them because the notifications are overwhelming but when they're muted, I rarely look at them. So I've had pretty neutral experiences in servers due to not seeing much.

I tend to join adult system servers because I prefer it over ones with children in them. I never felt comfortable at the idea of being in a system with a bunch of people much younger and feared the difference in maturity would make them unbearable.

However, one day, I got bored and wanted to see if I could find a server where I can find the crazy stuff people talk about, so I joined servers that allowed teens (still not comfortable with servers that accept every age so I went for 15/16+ servers).

I didn't find the drama I was looking for. Instead, I found one of my favourite servers. It's 15+, but it's cozy and feels safe and the owner who's an adult has done such an awesome job at keeping everything running so well and keeping such a great atmosphere.

(I'm aware looking for servers for drama probably isn't the best thing, but it ended up working out very well.)

That's awesome!

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good tale from syscord but we found the BEST small but active syscord server in the history of ever I think, it's like 35 systems who r all so sweet and helpful and I just wanted to say smth bc we've been looking for sys friends ^_^

Hell yeah! That's awesome :)

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Hey folks! An announcement from Hydra & Break.

From today onwards, we will be implementing Positivity Mondays. What this means is that everything posted on a Monday will be positive! We will (try remember) to tag everything with #positive mondays.

General positivity, system positivity, and positive tales are all welcome! If you send in a negative post, it will be scheduled for later in the week.

Happy new years, and enjoy the tales!

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Had someone ask about what an endo was and get banned so being in a yapping mood I went into their DMs and explained it (from a medical standpoint as well as explaining each ‘side’ of the issue like a proper intro to a subject should be) they go “oh okay so your stance would be grounds to be banned too?” I said no cause I don’t support endos?? I was just explaining it to th-

They reported me to staff out of context and I got banned 💀 on top of that a mod had broken my “ask to dm” request to harass me in DMs a few weeks prior for giving me a character they didn’t want and then being mad I didn’t keep said character and the owner said “no it’s fine cause they were telling you their terms of service”… she didn’t make the character, want/care about the character, or specify I wasn’t allowed to get rid of the character after it was given to me and than broke my boundary roles to scream at me in DMs about being a shitty person. Said “okay well I don’t usually talk in this chat so ima block this mod you have a 15+ person team and so it shouldn’t be too big of an issue especially since they made us uncomforta-“ I got muted for ‘harassing staff members’

And so the ban was actually “this mod didn’t like you and were just gonna say this is evidence to ban you when really this is just a personal attack”

..yikes. That mod sounds pretty entitled.

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soon after we had discovered our system we were in a server with a couple other systems and we had a lot of introjects from the same sources cuz we were into the same things. a few times alters from the same source would be interacting and someone would be like "omg do your remember that time you [insert some specific thing] in source??" and we would just have to apologize and say we didn't because a lot of fictives fronting at the time didn't have very strong source memories and also the things they were asking us about weren't even canon things that happened in the source, they were just little things they remembered.

Even if the things they spoke about were canon, or you had strong source memories, that's still really weird.

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Got banned from a syscord server before i could join in any capacity because the verification had a bunch of really odd, specific... syscourse-y? esqu questions???

Only one i remeber clearly cause i was freaked out about it was along the lines of "can littles be in sexual relationships" or something. I gave an answer like "probably shouldn't for mental health reasons but they're not bodily children so i suppose you can't really stop them. I dont know enough about this topic" as i didn't know what answer they were looking for and then they sent me a "leave the server within 24 hours or you're banned" dm while having already banned me from it the moment the verification went through

There were other odd specific questions so maybe i answered other stuff wrong? but I think I or someone else panicked at the ban message and deleted the dm so we didn't have to look at it so I can't go back and find it

But long story short i do not understand the verification system on a lot of these servers and they scare me. Why would i be thinking of these things in any capacity in the first place i just got here

Some syscords are, in the nicest way possible, way too involved with online discourse.

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so many system discord servers ban ANY mention of OEA or programming (even ones that allow mentions of abuse in vent channels…like … so talking about abuse is okay unless the abuse was intentional and orchestrated by more than one person?) using the fact that it’s disturbing/triggering as an excuse and it’s like. you are literally banning programmed systems from sharing basic facts about themselves and the way their system functions because it makes you think about their trauma (even if it’s not mentioned) which makes you uncomfortable.

generally i think syscord prioritizes people’s comfort over people’s right to exist in their spaces

like being programmed fundamentally changes the way my system works to the point where i cannot relate to non-programmed systems. i am not going to go into detail about what happened to make my system that way but it is exclusionary to ban systems from even mentioning that their systems function in a certain way due to a certain type of trauma which is ridiculous to me because … all systems are like that? like unless u believe in endos (& i don’t join pro endo servers, so) then everyone, by saying they’re a system, is implying they experienced severe trauma. intentionally excluding people who have experienced a type of abuse that you have not because it makes you uncomfortable is weird imo

also keeping discussions about OEA secretive is exactly what abusers want. treating being a survivor as taboo or inappropriate to talk about just further stigmatizes it and keeps victims silent

"Generally I think syscord prioritizes people's comfort over people's right to exist in their spaces"

I (Hydra) agree. A lot of problems arise in syscords due to people doing this. It isn't every syscord, but a fair few.

For example, we all know the memes about syscords with mile-long trigger lists and banned topics. Some people want a community before they're ready for a community. They think there won't be any drama or conflict and are willing to sacrifice other people's comfort for their own.

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Probably about my worst syscord experience was around 2020 or so, maybe 21? Memory is fuzzy (you know how it is) on the specific year.

Anyways, I know most anons here are anti-endo and have bad experiences from pro-endo circles because plenty of those syscords are shit. But surprisingly for us our wworst experience comes from a very anti-endo syscord. Can't for the life of me remember the name, but I remember being involved with the people who mostly shit talked endo systems and eventually it lead to the creation of a group chat where we all banded together and joined a handful of pro-endo servers to raid. I vividly remember where we all went in to spam @s at everyone calling them all fakers.

Like, say what you will on if endo systems are real or not, but none of us should have been doing that. I remember after getting banned from the pro endo servers feeling like utter garbage as the people we were talking to were just laughing about it. We left their group soon after, and since then abandoned syscourse entirely and its solidified us as neutral on what makes a system real or not. Because regardless of stance, I don't think anyone deserves to have their spaces raided like that, and i think its gross to just laugh when you upset people like that. It dosnt help anyone and for me personally, just made me feel gross for participating.

Anyways basic TLDR is if a syscord server suggests raiding another server to call them fakers or other mean things, leave!!! Pro or Anti endo! get outta there!!! Those are not nice people!

Yikes. We are anti-endo, but fuckin hell don't harass random people. Glad you've changed, anon

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I talked about how we recently hit a headcount that was around 40-ish and how it was a sign we wanted to start working harder in recovery (not that it’s a bad thing or anything we had just split a lot suddenly and recognized that we weren’t going to magically get better and needed to start actually working on communication, healthy fusing, and attending sessions more frequently as we fell out of the habit) we said nothing negative about anyone and it was simply a ‘I wanna get this off my chest cause coming to this realization is a lot to handle and this is a safe space’ WE MADE SURE TO CLARIFY WE DIDNT MEAN IT IN A NEGATIVE WAY OR ANYTHING JUST “this is abnormal for my system and it’s been making things hard so I recognize I’ve been neglecting healing and should work on it again”

Was immediately called ableist for wanting to “force headmates to fuse” and “pushing negative stereotypes and ideologies” and got banned over it 💔 we had been so careful to post it in the right channel, make it clear we didn’t have anything against higher headcount’s, not wanting to fuse, etc etc and made it so clear it was just a wake up call to the fact we were getting worse due to the fact we abruptly stopped therapy and whatnot and that we needed to take system accountability for the fact we had been neglecting the tools in place to help us

Syscords have worse reading comprehension than tumblr, and this is the piss on the poor website.

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got kicked from a server because one of our introjects was dating another system's introject of the same person???? mods said it was basically incest?? which???? doesn't even make sense even if you follow the "introjects are their source" mentality that's just selfcest not fucking incest

Sometimes I really just wanna know what's going on in those people's minds.

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wanted to join an adult only syscord and they needed verification, which i thought was fine bc im sure syscord servers get raided and trolled a lot. tell me why i needed to send a mod a list of my frequent fronters. brother half of the closest people in my life do not know the names of my alters why the actual fuck would i send that information to a stranger. what is the purpose. a second, lesser important section was whether i had did or osdd. why is that important. i get having roles to select it yourself but why is that a part of the verification process. in what world does a moderator need a list of my fronters and which disorder i have just to be able to chat in a syscord server

That's.. so fucking weird.

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Joined a server of a youtuber I liked because, as it turns out, they surprisingly had a system server, as well as it being an alterhuman server (which their channel was about the latter). I go in... pro-endo server, which at the time, I didn't give too much of a care about, despite not liking them. I regret that.

They had a rule against using caps. If you used 3 or more words with caps in a row, you had to censor them. I'm still so confused at that, like it's such a specific rule to have.

Also, someone said "that's crazy," and other people ganged up on them, and said that it "also goes against server rules" apparently. Someone suggested to say "that's wild" instead. I don't know, it's a word choice.

I don't like using this phrasing, because it makes me sound like a redneck conservative, but that was legitimately the most sensitive server I had ever seen. I remember hating a lot of the conversations I'd see in there, and I couldn't take it anymore, so I left. :/

I can understand wanting to shift away from using words like crazy or insane as insults, but what on Earth is that caps rule.

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Tw NSFW

Hi i was half asleep with my last anon i meant i knew a mod who had homestuck alters for each sex position, IE they'd front specifically for those/if they were mentioned. they even dressed as them, IE one only dressed as a cowboy.

😃 what

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It’s me, ya boy back

Anyways!

Recently one of our headmates started dating someone that happened to be a sourcemate. Which, we see as fine cause they weren’t attracted to each other BECAUSE of it, they hung out and things developed.

It reminded us of a few places on syscord where people were like “if you don’t date someone from your source you’re awful!!” or “never date from source they aren’t who you remember!!” it was never in between.

Which we can see some aspects of both sides, but also. Most people know that?? They don’t HAVE to date someone from source, they don’t HAVE to date anyone else. It only becomes an issue if they date simply because they’re sourcemates and have high expectations from each other because of it, imo.

V if you ever see this, congrats + you’re gay/lh/silly (in sys bullying)

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The attitude around source is so strange. Imagine if we treated people's bodily pasts like that.