I’m not gonna lie who actually likes to get hit on? Its not comfortable for me and it shouldn’t be for you. I hate fake conversation and flattery. Obviously being a guy I dont really get hit on by many women but I do get hit on by gay men. And it’s kind of funny at first but its uncomfortable. I don’t believe its really acceptable in any environment. Flattery should never win you over. Its an accelerated response. Its an overzealous behavior. Its fueled by everything but passion unfortunately. And yet I know for a fact that so many people appreciate when they are hit on. They love the attention, they love the opportunity. They find enjoyment in being put on a pedestal by someone who isn’t a predominant figure in their life. I just don’t understand that. You should never in any amount find yourself letting flattery get the best of you in order to let someone into your life. As an Uber driver, I find flattery to be extremely fake and artificial. I want the real you. The you that isn’t trying to win me over with some stupid compliment or line that you feel is a game winner. Being authentic and real is a game changer and its rare. And it reveals itself in time. There is no rush because authenticity attracts the same. There are certain pathways to specific responses and positions in life. If you like your appearance to be complimented, wait until you’re in marriage to expect and appreciate it from someone enough to allow them further into your life. Its not proper to expect someone who isn’t yours to compliment you in that nature; you’re only encouraging people to make a statement by flattery. Compliments are great and they help us navigate, but they aren’t ultimately the answer. I know women want to know that they are important to their significant other, but until marriage, you will have to believe that they put others first and take their own life with seriousness. Thats really the only way to gauge how they will treat you in marriage. Its not our role to press someone into pickup lines or flattery or compliments in order to choose them. Its our role to analyze their life with their actions and to trust their intentions and to believe in their love. Be careful who you compliment. Be careful with the direction that your words lead. Don’t be a quick trigger. Have composure and allow your steps to be lead by love, not vain ambition and cheap lust.
