I (18F) have been friends with someone who we'll call Barry (18M) for about two years now. We have always had a close and platonic friendship, but it's recently grown uncomfortable.
For context, he recently graduated from a rigorous high school program as a result of lots of hard work and studying. He told me that because he has been so studious, he feels FOMO from the 'general high school experience.'
He also said another reason he started drinking was because he was worried about me. I like to go to parties sometimes and he claims he drinks because he's worried about my safety. Also, I want to go to med school in the future and while he's expressed that he's worried that I will not be able to achieve my dreams based on my current study habits (which honestly are not the best), he's been kind of weird about it recently, saying that I basically won't make it and I'll end up barely scraping by as a barista. He went on a whole rant about this while drunk and kept on talking about how it's too competitive and I'm not cut out so I need this internship. I'm not sure if this level of attachment is healthy or normal because he said that I'm his ultimate best friend and cares about me more than anyone else.
Relating back to my goals of pursing medicine in the future, his dad is also well connected to doctors and other healthcare professionals and Barry offered me a potential internship through these connections. This internship would be very beneficial for my future considering how competitive this field is and I would gain valuable experience that I'm not sure I would have access to otherwise. He told me about this opportunity a couple of weeks ago, but yesterday he told me that his dad said he could only guarantee my position if we were in a romantic relationship. Thus we have started talking about the logistics of potentially faking this, but neither of us are sure if we are comfortable with this entire situation.
Additionally, he also does some questionable things such as showing up to my house unannounced to talk in the doorway briefly and trying to hold my hand. Before this, we both acknowledged that our relationship is purely platonic which is why I find this a bit strange.
Overall, I'm not sure if he even fully means all this since he sometimes has the tendency to twist words/exaggerate and I'm not sure if he has been drinking. Ultimately, all of these instances have made me feel a little uncomfortable but I'm not sure what I should do in this situation or if I should address it.
No, this has nothing to do with codependency. This is called "being a manipulative asshole". He clearly wants you in a relationship with him. The dating conversations may be fake to you, but they aren't to him. He doesn't particularly care if you consent or not. He doesn't particularly care how you feel. He's just good with getting you where he wants you, how he wants you, regardless of how you feel about it. This guy is NOT your friend. He's an asshole. I wouldn't bother confronting. I would ghost and go no contact. Do not answer when he shows up to your house, or if you live with family, have a firm and intimidating member of your family to tell him he is NO longer welcome around and the cops will be called if he continues trespassing. He's the kind of guy who's going to tell you what you want to hear, gaslight you into believing you're insane for considering his actions on face value, and then continually undermine your confidence and life until he gets what he wants and you're trapped with him. I'm sorry. This guy is a fucking creep.