Some of my thoughts and feelings on LGBT-ism
This post was removed from a forum which advertised itself as open to women of all political backgrounds. So I’m posting it here instead, because I want to publish it. I wish I’d been exposed to viewpoints like this when I was younger. The viewpoints I was exposed to were very polarized, very talking-point-y, and not very personal.
I’m looking to connect with other American women from liberal backgrounds who have similar feelings and would like to connect. Please feel free to respond or dm me or however it works on tumblr.
I wrote this to explore my own thoughts, but after writing it I decided I’d like to publish it. I want others with similar thoughts to know they are not alone, and I want to know I am not alone.
Things I’ve argued about online. LGBT. Now that I have a chance to write and explore my thoughts without someone telling me what to think, what do I actually think about it?
I wish I could have a conversation with my parents about it and have it actually work. I don’t know how to process some of the experiences I’ve had related to it. The sort of thing I was taught you should bring to your parents after wrestling with it, but it never seems to resolve anything. The therapists I tried never seem to give me personal attention either.
But since I can’t talk to them, and I can talk here, what are my thoughts?
What it’s ok to think
I was taught there's nothing wrong with it, and that people got beat up for doing it. And that the only reason to not do it is because it says so in the Bible. Healthy, normal sexuality has been incredibly suppressed by all this stuff, though. That's a big problem.
Like, you can't say sex is for reproduction "because it might be homophobic". You can't think sex is for reproduction, and consequently order your entire life around that (because that is the primary important thing in life), and have everyone around you order your entire life around it, if you have trouble even thinking it.
No, that is not a positive development. And it was an explicit goal of feminism. And I don't like that. The results have hurt people. Have hurt women.
Love
Yes, I've been exposed to right-wing talking points, lots and lots of them. I grew up in an area that had a mix of very conservative people and very liberal people.
My parents were liberal. They gave me more advice about having premarital sex than about having good relationships of any kind.
FUCK THAT.
Sex is NOT LOVE.
And what we talk about as "sex" is not sex either. This gross, commodified, pornified thing.
My Childhood Dreams
It's not what Howl and Sophie were doing.
It's not what children, in their un-knowingness, dream of one day having for themselves -- something loving. Something healthy. As good an environment as they could imagine for themselves at that age, storing up their hopes and dreams and preparing for their role as an adult. Building on everything their parents built, gratefully. Appreciative, and trying to create the best.
Out of love. Out of health. Out of a lack of realizing it "should" be different, because all of that is just the obvious way life is.
Power
And I received almost no support for all that.
It's all been about power struggle. About not getting taken advantage of. About men wanting to hurt me. About people wanting to hurt me.
About how the world is horrible.
Why is everything so horrible? Why isn't everyone trying to help each other? Why is it all so much struggle, and so little beauty and love and peaceful prosperity and excellence? So much stupid little competitions.
Living the dream
Why does it seem like so few girls and boys grow up fulfilling the basic primal, elevated human dream?
Not out of competition, but out of love. Out of not being hurt. Out of not being attacked.
Out of just... living up every day to the highest ideals they know about, in their innocence, naivety, and child's sensitivity, ... not being afraid to just ... live well. To embrace the highest ideals and just naively walk that path like it's the right one because it is.
Why does it seem like there's so little of that?
What do you call the destruction of children’s dreams, the conflation of weird sexual practices with love, and misdirection of thought about what’s important in life?
Grooming.
It seems so obvious in retrospect, as I’ve read over what I wrote. For all the times I’ve heard, “they’re bigots,” for all the men I’ve seen who distressingly did only seem excited about “bashing gays” and didn’t care about protecting anyone -- what other word would you pick to sum up my experience that I’ve described here?
Compassion scam
Well, I wrote all this because I've been trying writing, for myself, and not for an audience. I wanted to see what I thought.
I'm angry about the "LGBT" agenda and all the lies that have been used to advance it, and how utterly compassionless they are towards everyone else, while building an entire movement reliant on the completely altruistic compassion of those not like them with whom they do not share actual common cause.
I could say more specific things I'm angry about, but I’ve said the things I'm angry about culturally. I think they matter. I think they make a difference.
Procreation is special and important.
Sex is for procreation. That's the whole point of all of it.
You can't just go around trying to convince people otherwise and claim you're actually creating some sort of positive change in the lives of the young, un-mated people who come to you to understand how the world works when you tell them that.
Only one woman and one man can make a child. (Well, possibly rarely, two men, if it's twins). Only one woman and one man will be mutually biologically invested and related to their own child. That's special, and important.
Getting in the way of healthy public discourse is hateful.
Telling people it's hateful or wrong or whatever to think these things is ... well, it doesn't seem right to me.
Let's be free of all this.
Let's just let ourselves think and talk and coordinate on how the world actually works like normal people.Let's support a public discourse for a positive future.
It's not fucking hateful to do so. And getting in the way of that is.
I’m not going to do the mental gymnastics anymore. It’s not the same thing.
I'm not going to do the mental gymnastics anymore to pretend it's the same thing. It's not. And I'm not hateful for thinking that, and I'm not going to feel that little tug that tells me I am, that stops my train of thought, that makes me dwell on it and wonder if it's ok to think that, such that I lose the idea I was trying to explore because it might be not ok to think.
It's not only ok to think, it's obvious and normal to think. The kind of thing that's obvious and normal to a child raised in a healthy environment and not abused.
I'm not going to do the mental gymnastics anymore. I'm not going to stop my thinking because someone told me it's wrong to think those things. I'm not going to shy away from all the ways biological family is unique and special and the most important thing, the one most important thing to structure your entire life around and make as good as possible.
