Puppy. House. Life.
I had a goal when I graduated with my first degree- to be a self-made millionaire by the time I was 30. I set out to do this by starting a business and loved the entire process so much I went on to start a few more. Thinking back, that time probably shaved years off my life, but it also built resilience, a keen sense of adventure, and realising that I could never settle for less.
It also taught me that nothing really ever goes to plan. Because life happens.
The year I turned 25 was one of the most incredibly diverse years in my life. I went from being a closeted full on missionary christian who believed that I was “saving my rewards for heaven” to someone who came out of the closet as bisexual. Much to the dismay of my mother and my best friends, I added in an engagement to a woman in the mix. A woman I had met online, proposed to before I had fully met her in person and who I knew in my soul was not my soul mate.
Best friend? Yeah, we had a great friendship. And they always told you to marry your best friend, right?
I had gotten into Medical school by then and realised I wouldn’t become that millionaire. My savings dwindled away by the woman I had wrongly chosen and also because I just did not have more than 24 hours in a day to become a doctor and work and earn money. Everything I worked for, depleted, and my last thousand dollars was spent buying a ticket for her to go back to the U.S.
I wanted to just play the field. Mostly because I had nothing else left to give.
Not long after, I met Sian.
People thought I moved on too fast, that I had only just gotten out of an engagement, but truth to be told, I was just getting my investment back. I helped someone get their life back on track, in the process derailing my own plans, and no one knew. I kept it all to myself- my disappointments, my hurts, my goals, my dreams. I buried them. I came out of the closet, but I buried myself.
Then Sian brought it all back to life. She didn’t do anything to change my life in any drastic way, she didn’t come into it to heal any wounds. She didn’t stitch my heart back together and it was then I realised why all the previous relationships had never worked. It was because the other person was never meant to add to you, they’re meant to unlock you.
They come with a set of unique abilities to help you achieve your very best. They come with the invisible instruction books on how to help you switch gears, to see what you needed to work on yourself and to encourage you to do that- all without really knowing they’re doing it. With her by my side, I have achieved more goals in the last year than I thought and I’m slowly getting my mojo back. And I realised that I’m not a broken soul, I just needed the right combination of fire and love.
At 30, I might not be the self-made millionaire that I wanted to be, but we have bought a house. We have started our family by getting our first furbaby. We have traveled around the world. We have.
Now I’m about to graduate from my 3rd degree and we’re going to grab life by the horns and dominate it.