It’s time someone came forward and spoke publicly about an abuser and transphobic person in the Arcana fandom.
I have been asked by other people who have had bad experiences with the same person to step up and say something. Unfortunately this person is popular, and takes advantage of MANY people- myself having been included in this list. I’m well aware I will probably face backlash for this- but honestly everyone needs to know in order to stay safe.
@queenofthearcana and I used to talk a lot. Over several months she spent time learning what made me anxious and used them to her advantage. It seemed like making me have anxiety attacks was a sport to her- she knew my anxiety was centered around the loss of children (having had four miscarriages, and have PTSD all of which she knew about ) and would text me things like “my son won’t wake up and I’m scared” and wait for me to panic before following up with “he’s been napping for so long I know he won’t sleep tonight.” This wasn’t the only time it would happen, nor am I the only person.
She also spent a lot of time convincing me that the only reason I had friends in the Arcana fandom was because I was friends with her and she was so popular- and if I wasn’t friends with her, those people would abandon me. These friends are my family, so I let her stick around and keep doing stuff to me because I was afraid of the backlash if I ditched her.
Not only did she actively mess with my mind and purposely do things to make my mental health worse, she also consistently misgendered me and ALL my friends. I’m nonbinary, and the majority of my friends are trans or nonbinary too- and every time we spoke of them, Queen used their assigned at birth pronouns. It didn’t matter who it was, she just “couldn’t see them as anything else”. She also constantly called me a girl, and would say a lot of very red flag stuff along the lines of “you’re exactly my type of girl” despite never once knowing me as anything other than nonbinary. She refused to acknowledge who I was on multiple occasions- in fact there was never a time where she used the correct pronouns- nor did she ever use any of the correct pronouns for my friends or other people we both interacted with.
I learned, after talking to a mutual friend, (who I will not name here because it isn’t my story to tell) that a lot of the stuff she fed me to make me feel bad for her was actually not her life story at all- but this person’s instead. It was word for word the exact same, even using the same phrasing.
It takes a special kind of person to use stuff someone confided in you in order to manipulate other people.
Needless to say, I blocked her ages ago. But even after I did that, she stalked me and found ways to let me know she could still contact me- finding blogs I rarely used, contacting me through every social media she could find, and even sent me money on ko-fi after I’d blocked her everywhere else, just to show me she could. (bless ko-fi for allowing me to reject her payment). This went on for months, I lived in fear of her tracking me down over and over- I couldn’t get away from her.
Why am I coming out about all this now, you ask, after staying quiet for so long? Because Queen is YET AGAIN making posts with someone else’s life story she stole in order to find new people to manipulate. She is married to a man and has a kid, but will act as if she is a single lesbian in order to prey on people. Do NOT believe her when she says she is a nonbinary lesbian- she is not, and never has been, and has admitted on multiple occasions she is not nonbinary. The “nonbinary lesbian” thing was directly stolen from another person. She is using “coming out” to gain sympathy and take advantage of the LGBT+ community within the Arcana fandom- the exact same thing she’s done to me and others.
Honestly as long as this post is, it’s barely scratched the surface. There’s a lot listed here but the stuff Queen has done runs a lot deeper.
Please, everyone- stay safe. I don’t want this to happen to anyone else.
