#queued answer

[smokeyloki]

Remind me to tell you about my traumatic sand experience

This is your reminder to tell me about your traumatic sand experience

[sunlightmurdock]

Katie the truck scene with Apollo and Jake might be my favorite sex scene you've ever written so far. The way he talks to her is soooo fucking good 🥺🥺🥺 and I'm just a sucker for all the buildup to get them to this place. From him in the hotel room making her beg then denying her to him now initiating things in the truck and just giving her what she needs oml it's so good 🙌

AH THANK YOU SO MICH 🫶🏼🫶🏼 it’s def not the end of them pushing each other’s buttons but I really liked how it shows that they can be nice to each other when they want to be 🥹

[weekly-herrah]

what is there to do in deepnest?

I've taught my little spidering to hunt! She's getting the hang of it, her webs can hold 2 lumaflys! Quite good for a 3 month old weaverling

[chxxseyourfighter]

@apocalypsxmaidxn asked  "Is your cape alive?"

“Believe me kid...there are the questions you don’t want the answers to, now why don you run along now?  Be like the rest of the kids in this godforsaken place.” 

[confessionsofacoordi-noona]

Unnie, do you remember the exact words you said to comfort/console/reassure them during hard times?

“This time will pass. This is only happening because better times are coming. And when they do, you’ll look back at this time and realize you had to go through this to get to where you will be then.”

[tmitransitioning]

can you guys make a psa about how HRT doesn't count as birth control? I've seen so many trans dudes who were surprised to learn they can still get pregnant... often by getting pregnant, unfortunately

This is a good point and I super want to emphasize it because it’s not intuitive at all—you think, logically, that if T stops you from ovulating you can’t get pregnant. That’s not true and you can still get pregnant on testosterone. It’s happened to people before and it’s not fully understood why.

Additionally, no form of HRT protects you from STDs, and you should be using protection of some kind anyways!

- Mod Wolf

[catatonicemotions]

Ur sick? Lol, good. Just like a hannigram shipper should be.

Seeing as you’re bringing up what I ship, I’m pretty sure I know who this anon is… But fine. I’ll take the bait.

If what I ship offends you so much that you think physical ailments upon my person is justified, then it isn’t the hannigram shippers that are the problem. It’s you.

[tmitransitioning]

Hi in one of your asks you mentioned depersonalization - do you mind explaining that a little more? From what you said it sounds a lot like what I'm going through but didn't have a word for - which is making it hard to talk to therapists about. I love the new blog!! :)

Depersonalization refers, confusingly, to several different things in psychology. The way that I used it in that answer was talking about it as a combination of both dissociative-spectrum symptoms and an actual disorder, called depersonalization disorder. This is because I’m drawing on both my own experiences and the analysis of depersonalization as linked to dysphoria by the folks at Gender Analysis. [cws: suicide, discussion of drugs]

Depersonalization, as a collection of symptoms, is a general feeling of being detached from your body or not feeling “real”. You might feel like you’re piloting your physical form, or watching yourself as a detached observer. You might constantly monitor yourself like you’re watching an accident-prone child, and constantly analyze your feelings and thoughts for logical patterns. You might feel dead or robotic (either in a metaphorical or literal sense), and be emotionally numb and “smooth”, and be going through motions in your daily life without any meaning behind them. All of these together, persisting and recurring over time, make up depersonalization disorder.

There’s a lot of overlap with dissociation, as you can probably see; they often co-occur. And the distinctions aren’t very clearly defined. Depersonalization, though, generally focuses on your own self or body—”I don’t feel real”, as opposed to “the world doesn’t feel real”.

This can be a symptom of a lot of things—these experiences are present in anxiety disorders, and depression, and on the dissociative and psychotic spectra. But it can also be a symptom of dysphoria, and a way that your brain is coping with the feelings it gets about your body. It’s weird in part because, if it goes on for long enough, it often just becomes the new normal for you. I didn’t realize how completely uninvolved and distant from my internal experiences I’d been until I started medical transition—like dropping a really heavy backpack, and suddenly you realize that you can walk way easier.

I linked this above already but I’m going to highlight this specific article in particular, because there’s a huge whack of people’s personal experiences with depersonalization symptoms in there that might resonate with you. I’m one person, and while I definitely experience/d this, since I did say it wasn’t uncommon I feel like I should back that up. :)

- Mod Wolf