John Steinbeck wrote an unfinished book on King Arthur and there I found an apt description of what it means to wield magic or possess magical items when not everybody has them.
I do think it shows quite well, why Da€nerys seems to work so well as a self -insert for several people, why her stans simply do refuse to see the frightening power she has with her dragons. Because it is such an alluring power fantasy!
In the book Lancelot is captured by three mighty sorceresses and remembers his childhood :
[Lancelot’s childhood memory] They put bags of sand against his back to keep him still. And as he lay wedged while his wrenched spine mended, his opponent grew treetop tall in the boy’s mind. Waking and asleep, the blunt spear wiped him from his horse until he found a poultice for his price. Under his left arm there was a tiny knob so small that only he knew it was there. Three turns to the right and half a turn back with the fingers of his left hand, and in mid-course he grew to a black cloud and overwhelmed the fourteen-year old. But the secret knob could do more than that. Two turns right and two left and he could fly and hover and dart. Sometimes in the joust he left his horse and flew ahead and struck the giant bay down - and last - a straight push in and he became invisible. He would wait anxiously to be alone in his sandbags to bring out his dream. It was odd that he had forgotten all about it when his real ability began to grow. And suddenly Lancelot, in the darkness of his prison, knew about magic and necromancy and those who practiced it. “So, that’s it,” he thought. “Poor things - poor unhappy things.” [John Steinbeck, The Acts of King Arthur and his Noble Knights, London 1976, 232f.]
Later he confronts the women who hold him against his will.
Lancelot stood up and then sat down again. “I am hungry,” he said. “There was not much mean on the bones you sent.”
“Why should there have been? The dogs had them first. Nevertheless, remember them. They may be your last food. Go on about fear.”
“Maybe it’s too simple, madame. But you know how children, when they are forbidden something they want, sometimes scream and storm and sometimes even hurt themselves in rage. Then they grow quiet and vengeful. But they are not strong enough to revenge themselves on the one they consider their oppressor. Such a one sometimes stamps on an ant, saying, ‘That’s for you, Nursie,’ or kicks a dog and calls him brother, or pulls the wings from a fly and destroys his father. And then, because this world has disappointed him, he builds his own world, where he is king, where he rules not only men and women and animals but clouds and stars and sky. He is inivisible, he flies. No authority can keep him in or out. In his dream he build not only a world but remakes himself as he would wish to be. I guess that’s all. Ususally he makes peace with the world and works out compromises so that the two will not hurt each other badly. There it is, you see.” - “What you say is true, but what then?” - “Well, some few do not make peace. And some of these are locked away as hopelessly insane and full of fantasay. But there are others more clever who, through black arts, learn to make the dream substantial. This is enchantment and necromancy. Not being wise enough or kind enough, the magic manufactured world does not function and many are injured and many killed by its ill design. And then rage comes as to the child, destructive rage, vindictive hate. There lies the fear, for wizards and witches are children, living in a world they made withouth the leavening of pity or the mathematics of organization. And what could be more frightening than a child with total power? A spear and sword are terrrible, God knows. That is why the knight who carries them is first taught pity, justice, mercy, and only last - force. “I am afraid, my ladies, for you are crippled, vengeful children with power. And i am your prisoner.” [Ibid. 242f.]
I had to share this, it just reminds me so much of Da€nerys and her dragons.