#rant -

[sharksfood]

my mom is now at the stage of a cis person understanding Gender where she knows that people of any gender can wear whatever clothing they want, EXCEPT trans people choosing to wear clothing that “doesnt match their chosen gender” her words not mine.

like she’ll say “your best friend is a man but wears dresses! wont he get mad if someone thinks he’s a woman for wearing a dress?” well mother dearest people think he’s a woman sometimes even in pants and suit jacket, it literally doesn’t matter what we wear.

i tried to explain to her that some trans people purposely dont wear clothes that “match their gender” because they dont want to! they may not like wearing dresses! or they may not dress a certain way until their physical body appearance gets to a certain level of gender presentation of their liking. or the other way around!

and i think it’s partially my fault. i admitted to her i feel uncomfortable wearing dresses and skirts and other “traditionally feminine” clothing since people treat me WAY too feminine, and i just do not like that. she asked why and i explained “i dont like being misgendered over my clothing”. so now she’s confused to see someone visibly masculine wearing feminine clothing, and not seemingly being bothered by it, or vice versa.

i tried to tell her, it all boils down to personal preference. newsflash mother!! Trans People are Not a Hivemind! we each have our own preferences and limits and whatnot. but she still expects a rule to be drawn in the sand.

ultimately she’ll come to her senses in a few years too late but at least its growth to some degree. now if only i could get her to SEE TRANS PEOPLE FOR THE GENDER THEY ARE

[ergativeabsolutive]

I definitely understand all the antipsych stuff ive seen people say and I fully understand that a lot of the psychiatric industry’s beliefs about the people they claim to treat are unscientific, and I don’t support that whatsoever. But I do think that the plain, basic view of mental issues as illness, while perhaps not the best lens and certainly not a universally applicable one, does have a place in the world. At least, I feel like that’s how I experience my ocd. I don’t see it so much as a result of stress (although I can see trauma, particularly religious, as an important factor in forming it), but as one of the primary causes of the stress I regularly experience. With the way it effects me, it’s hard not to get a sense of having been infected with something malignant - in fact, in a more literal sense, my thoughts are actually infected with the most loathsome garbage and bile and terror, and endless mantras and platitudes that gorge on and breed amidst that mental detritus, and are just as disgusting and persistent, like little cockroaches, weathering any and every mental storm without exception. But more than that, my normal, base level state is one of, at best, mild discomfort, as though I am perpetually coming down with something, not knowing if it’s just a dry mouth, or a cold, or covid, or something much much worse. Other than very brief, fleeting moments or intoxication, there is no relief from the stress of that constant discomfort and uncertainty, except to find out what and how bad it is this time. I don’t know how to describe or express it in a better or realer way than to say that I am always sick and yearning to one day get better. And I think that’s valid, I think it has to be valid, until the day I do actually get better. I just hope that day comes.

[isblomst]

about to go to bed but i gotta yell for a second about something.

frozen 2 gets a lot of Shit tbh and while i have NO PROBLEM with people not personally vibing with the movie, i don’t vibe with people who throw shit at it without taking a second to even google something as easy as ‘what culture is frozen based on’ because the second you do, things WILL make more sense. not only that, but a lot of people are REACHING when it comes to points they make as to why it’s ‘such a bad movie’

as an actual norwegian, i was SO FUCKING HAPPY seeing this movie. in the first one, there’s not a lot of norwegian culture that’s actually touched on. it’s just said to be inspired by it and focus on the plot with most cultural things being in the bg or not a big part of the story (yknow except the haha norway Cold meme), and when the sequel came out and they went DEEP into lore and culture outside of the first movie???

i was so happy. we have so much culture and folklore and stuff in norway, and seeing this movie take it and make something out of it like this? god, it was a big thing for me. the northuldra representing the suomi people was EVEN BIGGER, as this is a big thing in norway when talking about our culture. the clothing and the singing, even the voice being done by a norwegian singer ??? all of this was very amazing for me to see as a norwegian.

i understand some people just don’t like the movie, and that’s OKAY, but don’t be ignorant towards an existing culture please. whenever disney actually shows representation of culture like this, it’s a big thing, especially for those who LIVE that culture. thank you.

[viktormaru]

i don't have any problems with an older k*kas*ku bc I don't see much problem with the age difference since my parents have a difference of 17 years, but people gotta understand that shipping a 27 years old man with a 13 year old girl is very different than shipping a 44 year old with a 30 year old... this is NOT Lolita >:-[

loook i hate every type of rendintion of that fucking ship cause like

(also sorry anyone on my dash who also hates this and has to see this being mentioned, this will b my last post)

sorry but if my middle school teacher taught me closely from age 11 to age 18 and then started showing sexual interest in me id fucking stay the fuck away cause thats gross and disgusting. kakashi was closely watching her grow, thats soooo weeeeiiird.

not to mention that like, by the time sakura is 18, kakashi is still fucking 32 years old bro, he almost lived her entire life twice, do u think someone who has lived another person’s full life twice already has the same maturity and power balance as the other??? also at least like 10 out of those 18 years were her being a literal tiny baby kid still developing her personality, not even maturity yet

its so gross, its so bad, i absolutely hate it, i dont care, even in real life its weird when someone is still as young as being around their 20s-30s, i hate ppl romanticizing predatory behavior

ALSO LIKE, WHY SHIP THOSE TWO???? LIKE.. WHAT HAPPENS IN CANON THAT MAKES YOU THINK THOSE TWO ARE COMPATIBLE? SPECIALLY SEEING THAT MOST OF SAID CANON HAS SAKURA BEING A KID? DID YOU SEE CHEMISTRY BETWEEN A 16 YEAR OLD AND A 30 Y/O? THATS SO DISGUSTING fucking reevaluate what you think is romantic or cute or whatever or go choke

stop being fucking weird theres a shitton of characters around her age that interact w her and shit in healthy ways but ppl gotta be creepy or something idk im uncomfortable ppl hc my fave character as a p*dophile/groomer i guess!

[detectif]

reasons why i hate when ppl compare android treatment to real oppression: humans actually have GENUINE reasons for fearing androids (which CANNOT be said for real life minorities), plus they’re like..... not human. 

i mean, there’s a reason why pets are lower on the priority scale compared to flesh and blood family members. sure, other animals are important. they are the reason for our survival. and it’s just..... good to care for them?

but first and foremost humanity comes first. like, if people can’t afford their pets they give them away. or some ppl don’t want their pets’ litters, so they sell them off. you don’t do that to human beings. for obvious reasons. 

so why should it be expected, then, that androids are immediately treated with equal rights when they’re not even human beings? what about my people of color? my trans folks? my queer folks? etc? our fight is not ending any time soon, and i doubt it will ever end anytime soon, so why would humans care about the treatment of robots when they haven’t even finished with trying to fix their own shit????? 

[cheesebearger]

like this really sounds awful but i cannot handle these dogs. i am the only person really putting effort and time into them, and it’s exhausting. in addition, i paid for my moms dog, and she wont pay me back. so im in the hole 700 bucks and exhausted and emotionally drained because i am NOT ready for another dog and this puppy looks too much like my old dog, remy, and he’s full of energy because he’s a puppy and i don’t have enough time to do both my homework, my writing, and my other various work because i have to watch these dogs. i havent been sleeping because i have to get up at the crack ass of dawn to feed them, and i don’t get to sleep until they sleep like 18 hours later. and the whole time my mom does literally nothing for “her” dog.

and these dogs have like, trauma!! the puppy is afraid of being touched because - i found out today - the foster mom HITS THE DOGS WITH A FLY SWATTER for discipline & the other dog, his mom, keeps eating all his food and bullying him. like, two dogs is already exhausting when you’re doing it alone. it’s even WORSE when they have trauma. & the worst part is that im going to have to give them back to that foster mom because of the contract i signed. but i have to put my own health and wellbeing first. im sure another family will love these dogs - not both, because as it turns out, the mother dog shouldn’t be housed with other dogs or animals due to aggression as well as being easily bullied and has a clear pre-existing health issue due to the pregnancy she had that should limit her to a no-kid, older adult only household. but what the fuck do i know right. this foster lady didn’t even have personality notes for these dogs because in addition to being a shitty caesar milan adherent she’s also an amateur. the puppy needs extra attention and also needs to be housed alone due to similar issues.

this is just all very messy on multiple levels and im so fucking tired.