My mom is an ENFP. She's very much value-oriented and very social. I have decided after much research (and also my mom's assistance) that I best match the personality type of an INTJ, albeit low on the introversion line. Here's some things that piss her off (and probably other people but I have had her to observe for my whole life) about me (and also my other rational friends) 1. I seldom ask "please" or remember to say "thank you" unless I'm actually paying attention to doing it. Most of the time I am direct with what I need or want, ex: "Pass me the butter." ; "it's cold, I'm going to turn up the thermostat." ; "I need to go to the store, can you drive me?" I'm not trying to be rude, but always saying please and thank you slips my mind because I naturally speak in a way to maximize efficiency and fluidity of thought. 2. I almost never say sorry. Most of the time it's because what I did was not wrong, or I cannot see how I am at fault if someone else started the problem and I ended it. Sometimes it's just because I don't realize I hurt someone's feelings. Worst of all, or probably best of all from a strategic POV, my sincere and insincere apologies sound exactly the same. 3. I run away to my little "cave" in the basement with some snacks and a drink, roll up in a little ball under a blanket, and play video games as soon as I get home from being out without saying hello to anyone. After working or being out, I need my alone time to get back the motivation to return to the "real world." I'm sorry if killing virtual tigers in Far Cry 3 or killing Templars makes me feel better after a long day of dealing with people, but it keeps me from snapping back and feeling stressed. (This is more of a "me" problem she has with me, but it needed to be said) 4. I hate inefficiency and hypocrisy. I intensely hate how our government runs and our schools systems are run in the US, and I have actually formulated an extensive plan that doesn't require revolution in the conventional sense to achieve an efficient, equal, and just system. I rant about this all the time, but she just says "Well, that's how it is and you're going to have to just deal with it for now," which is the worst possible answer to give me. Ever. That is not sufficient I need to know why exactly policies were enacted, why we accept them, and why people will just readily roll on their backs so that they can keep living easy and ignorant. 5. I'm arrogant, intense, and blunt. She doesn't know how to deal with this all the time. It aggravates her a lot. When I come upon a sudden realization or a cool new idea I'll tell her at length (truly it's more of an inner monologue going outward and passing through one ear through the next) in an impassioned rhetoric that she tunes out. When she doesn't she points out that I err on the side of both Machiavellianism and idealism, which makes no sense to her (but it actually does make sense). I can honestly admit that I tell people that I can do things better than others, but I only say it if I KNOW I can. Either way it sounds arrogant. Whatever, the truth hurts. 6. I don't derive the same amount of satisfaction or devotion from religious activities. I went to Catholic high schools for three years and I loved theology and philosophy classes and going to Mass and seeing them applied, but I just don't get the same happiness from feeling so small in a Church, and being the member of a crowd that is truly still alone in a crowd full of people. 7. I hate romance movies/ books/ tv shows/ all of it. This might just be me. Give me Rambo or Rocky or Zombieland and I'll be fine. Give me The Notebook and I might vomit. My bf and I watch action and horror films on date night, sometimes Frozen, but if you see either of us (provided you knew us) watching a romance anything you need to call the hospital/ cops because we're either drugged or being held hostage.
