"The ways they enter your life could be an indicator." Wondering which ways that would be? It's hard to know..
For example if I were to apply for employment and get the job and meet a co-worker there who seems a bit off the odds are very low they would be from the group. As I was the one who sought the employment opportunity.
If I were shopping, let’s say a grocery store, and someone started a conversation with me ‘casually’ but I had a difficult time ending the conversation as well as their line of questions, dialogue became more familiar that would be suspect.
If I were waiting for the bus at my usual stop and someone new came along and began to hit me up for conversation. This person did not engage others, shared more personal information to try and engage me beyond the usual bus stop natter I’d be suspicious.
Lastly, let’s say I’m a church going sort. People are supposed to be engaging and welcoming at church. Including me. I’d simply be more guarded and have boundaries regarding getting to know people. As the church setting can be difficult to navigate due to the environment and a good environment for re-contact.
This being said, leaving a high-control group doesn’t mean they will attempt to recontact someone. This is the reason it’s important to focus on safety which includes setting boundaries around what you share and with who.
Oz
